Freedom VS Love

[manowar821]

Have you ever been in the sticky situation where you had to choose between being with the man/woman you love, or being free to spend your money on what you want, and to do what you want, when you want?

I'm just curious how people would deal with that kind of situation.

Pretend you love him/her a lot, but you've tasted freedom too, and it's driving a wedge in between the two of you.

What if it turns out your choice was a mistake? Etc.

 

[IronWing]

Marriage is all about finding, maintaining, readjusting, compromising, negotiating that middle ground.

 

[suicidalpigeon]

Freedom to love.

 

[Skeeedunt]

Originally posted by: ironwing
Marriage is all about finding, maintaining, readjusting, compromising, negotiating that middle ground.

Perhaps more importantly, it's about finding someone with whom that middle ground is tolerable (or, hopefully, enjoyable). If either side has to give up too much, it's not going to work.

 

[yhelothar]

But then again, you'd have to ask yourself the question: if the person you love is witholding you from your freedom, then is it really love?

 

[manowar821]

Originally posted by: astroidea
But then again, you'd have to ask yourself the question: if the person you love is witholding you from your freedom, then is it really love?

Indeed....

 

[Ilikepiedoyou]

I find that love offers more freedom

 

[WildHorse]

Dedication to achieving a harmonious love relationship is the higher path. No question about it.

Your description of the "freedom" side of it, frankly, sounds more like some egomaniac living as an undisciplined sybaritic slob; i.e.; one who live to impulsively indulge their self-gratification urges.

 

[I Saw OJ]

Originally posted by: scott
Dedication to achieving a harmonious love relationship is the higher path. No question about it.

Your description of the "freedom" side of it, frankly, sounds more like some egomaniac living as an undisciplined sybaritic slob; i.e.; one who live to impulsively indulge their self-gratification urges.

QFT

I did the whole "freedom" thing. Came and went as I pleased, did whatever I wanted, didnt have to answer to anyone. It was good while it lasted, but now that I have found my g/f I am much more happy.

 

[imported_Tick]

I don't know. I have issues with commitment, as in I hate it, so I'd choose freedom, even over the middle ground.

 

[Willoughbyva]

hmmm, perhaps I haven't found the right one yet. Maybe one day I will find one where I can come and go like I please, spend my money on the things I want and still have a good relationship. All of this within reason I guess.


Perry

 

[OsoVerde]

Originally posted by: astroidea
But then again, you'd have to ask yourself the question: if the person you love is witholding you from your freedom, then is it really love?

Pretty much sums up my philosophy. I'm a total sucker for love, but if the person I'm with tries to be controlling or has no respect for what I think and my decisions, they get the boot. I get tired of dealing with bs and lose interest in the person after awhile.

The SO and I have a nice habit of conferring with each other about stuff, or we offer each other advice and then back off and leave the other person make the final decision, and then respect that. No yelling, no fights, no emotional blackmail, no passive aggressive bs, no having to choose between freedom and love, so far.

 

[OsoVerde]

Originally posted by: Skeeedunt

Originally posted by: ironwing
Marriage is all about finding, maintaining, readjusting, compromising, negotiating that middle ground.

Perhaps more importantly, it's about finding someone with whom that middle ground is tolerable (or, hopefully, enjoyable). If either side has to give up too much, it's not going to work.

Truth.

If you're an audiophile and your SO thinks that 4ft subwoofer clutters up the room and has to go, it's time for the SO to go, not the sub. Find a new SO that's neutral to your hobby, or better yet, one that would love to have a 4ft sub available for their use and would chip in for a better amp.

 

[IronWing]

Originally posted by: OsoVerde

Originally posted by: Skeeedunt

Originally posted by: ironwing
Marriage is all about finding, maintaining, readjusting, compromising, negotiating that middle ground.

Perhaps more importantly, it's about finding someone with whom that middle ground is tolerable (or, hopefully, enjoyable). If either side has to give up too much, it's not going to work.

Truth.

If you're an audiophile and your SO thinks that 4ft subwoofer clutters up the room and has to go, it's time for the SO to go, not the sub. Find a new SO that's neutral to your hobby, or better yet, one that would love to have a 4ft sub available for their use and would chip in for a better amp.

No, no, a thousand times no. Think about it. You come home. Amy Grant is playing on your 4ft sub. After you reassemble your asploded head how do you continue your relationship? Total disinterest in your toys is much better.