1) Asked out a girl that I liked a while ago (found out she just got out of a long term relationship and was still hurting)
2) Remained friends, although it was hard/awkward at first <this girl is very, very pretty/she is much prettier as a person too and no I will not share pics (that is disrespectful to her) >
3) A friend of one of my close friends found out this information (he once knew this girl <we all went to the same HS> )
4) He tried to get me to manipulate the situation and play with this girl's heart. I refused. He was really trying to make an excuse to do it himself.
5) He was going to try to take advantage of the situation, by getting her drunk while she was emotional and trying to take advantage of her.
6) I found out he was trying to do this and I confronted him about it.
7) He said he wouldn't and I trusted him (I thought he respected me and this girl enough to not try this).
8) I had a feeling he was still doing something because he had this guilty look whenever around me and was extra nice to me, but I decided to give him the benefit of the doubt.
9) I noticed this girl started to act strange around me, so I decided to give her space. I can still be a good friend by doing this.
10) I found out from a mutual friend that this guy is still trying to do stuff (he is pretending to be a nice guy to this girl and taking her out to "hang" out with friends, but I know his intentions are not honorable). He has stated that "he wanted to get her drunk" before, but when he saw how I reacted, he tried to play it off as a joke.
11) I also have a feeling that this girl is acting strange around me because this guy told her a lie about me. (Aside: I trusted this guy and got him a job where I work )
12) I am not sure what to do because this guy could really hurt this girl, who is a genuinely good person. But now that things are awkward, I don't really know if I can do anything.
**I just found out tonight that this was happening. Otherwise, I probably wouldn't post this. I am sort of angry and hurt at the same time because I thought that this guy was at least halfway decent.**
BTW, this guy's favorite movie is "In the Company of Men". I never saw it through. I got sick to my stomache and really angry just watching part of it, but you get the idea. He could be really dangerous for this girl. I really don't know what to do now. I feel like hurting this guy right now, but I know that in the end that won't do anything but make me a less decent guy. One of my friends said I should try to get him fired, but I won't do that because that just doesn't seem like the right response either.
BTW, this is not SHENS. I wish it were.
EDIT
Screw it! Life is too short to constantly be worrying about this kind of stuff. I know I am saying that, but part of me will probably be concerned for quite a while. If chances happen that I can warn her about him, I will, regardless if she misconstrues it. But otherwise, there is really nothing I can do about it anymore. If he does actually gets a chance to hurt her, he is in for a load of hurt himself, but she is a big enough girl to take care of herself (and I trust that she is mature enough to figure it out herself if the chance doesn't happen to warn her <I am not going to press the matter> ).
EDIT 2
Just an update after a few months if anyone cares. Things are cool with me and the girl again. Not what it used to be, but that is fine. As long as it doesn't affect her hanging out with mutual friends, I am cool with it. I can be more of a friend to her by letting her sort stuff out herself.
Also, the guy that was doing all that messed up stuff told me he would stop pursuing doing anything like that. He didn't want to risk my friendship. Trust me, I am a friend you want to keep. I am definitely going to be cautious around him from now on though.
2) Remained friends, although it was hard/awkward at first <this girl is very, very pretty/she is much prettier as a person too and no I will not share pics (that is disrespectful to her) >
3) A friend of one of my close friends found out this information (he once knew this girl <we all went to the same HS> )
4) He tried to get me to manipulate the situation and play with this girl's heart. I refused. He was really trying to make an excuse to do it himself.
5) He was going to try to take advantage of the situation, by getting her drunk while she was emotional and trying to take advantage of her.
6) I found out he was trying to do this and I confronted him about it.
7) He said he wouldn't and I trusted him (I thought he respected me and this girl enough to not try this).
8) I had a feeling he was still doing something because he had this guilty look whenever around me and was extra nice to me, but I decided to give him the benefit of the doubt.
9) I noticed this girl started to act strange around me, so I decided to give her space. I can still be a good friend by doing this.
10) I found out from a mutual friend that this guy is still trying to do stuff (he is pretending to be a nice guy to this girl and taking her out to "hang" out with friends, but I know his intentions are not honorable). He has stated that "he wanted to get her drunk" before, but when he saw how I reacted, he tried to play it off as a joke.
11) I also have a feeling that this girl is acting strange around me because this guy told her a lie about me. (Aside: I trusted this guy and got him a job where I work )
12) I am not sure what to do because this guy could really hurt this girl, who is a genuinely good person. But now that things are awkward, I don't really know if I can do anything.
**I just found out tonight that this was happening. Otherwise, I probably wouldn't post this. I am sort of angry and hurt at the same time because I thought that this guy was at least halfway decent.**
BTW, this guy's favorite movie is "In the Company of Men". I never saw it through. I got sick to my stomache and really angry just watching part of it, but you get the idea. He could be really dangerous for this girl. I really don't know what to do now. I feel like hurting this guy right now, but I know that in the end that won't do anything but make me a less decent guy. One of my friends said I should try to get him fired, but I won't do that because that just doesn't seem like the right response either.
BTW, this is not SHENS. I wish it were.
EDIT
Screw it! Life is too short to constantly be worrying about this kind of stuff. I know I am saying that, but part of me will probably be concerned for quite a while. If chances happen that I can warn her about him, I will, regardless if she misconstrues it. But otherwise, there is really nothing I can do about it anymore. If he does actually gets a chance to hurt her, he is in for a load of hurt himself, but she is a big enough girl to take care of herself (and I trust that she is mature enough to figure it out herself if the chance doesn't happen to warn her <I am not going to press the matter> ).
EDIT 2
Just an update after a few months if anyone cares. Things are cool with me and the girl again. Not what it used to be, but that is fine. As long as it doesn't affect her hanging out with mutual friends, I am cool with it. I can be more of a friend to her by letting her sort stuff out herself.
Also, the guy that was doing all that messed up stuff told me he would stop pursuing doing anything like that. He didn't want to risk my friendship. Trust me, I am a friend you want to keep. I am definitely going to be cautious around him from now on though.