For those of you with significant others, how much "space" do you need?

[imported_Tomato]

If any?

I know couples who can spend every single living/breathing moment together, with or without anyone else, and they're perfectly happy.

I know other couples who seem to have completely separate lives individually, but come together in the evening to share a bed.

For those of you who are/were in a relationship, about how much "space" did you feel you needed from your partner, and how did you get it? (basketball or golf with other friends, going out to a bar with the guys, etc.)

 

[bigredguy]

Originally posted by: Tomato
If any?

I know couples who can spend every single living/breathing moment together, with or without anyone else, and they're perfectly happy.

I know other couples who seem to have completely separate lives individually, but come together in the evening to share a bed.

For those of you who are/were in a relationship, about how much "space" did you feel you needed from your partner, and how did you get it? (basketball or golf with other friends, going out to a bar with the guys, etc.)

You really are a softy aren't you, J/K. I just need about an afternoon a week to do what i want.

 

[Isshinryu]

Two nights a week away from the biddy does me good.

 

[imported_Tomato]

Originally posted by: bigredguy

Originally posted by: Tomato
If any?

I know couples who can spend every single living/breathing moment together, with or without anyone else, and they're perfectly happy.

I know other couples who seem to have completely separate lives individually, but come together in the evening to share a bed.

For those of you who are/were in a relationship, about how much "space" did you feel you needed from your partner, and how did you get it? (basketball or golf with other friends, going out to a bar with the guys, etc.)

You really are a softy aren't you, J/K. I just need about an afternoon a week to do what i want.

So one afternoon/week is all the space you need? Interesting. I'm sure it varies from couple to couple, different personalities, needs, etc. Just curious to see if there was some sort of average. What do you do during your afternoon?

 

[Mloot]

I need at least a couple of hours a day away from the BH. I was always a private person and sometimes it just gets a little stifling.

 

[raanemaan]

My wife and I have been married 25 years in Sept. We can do things seperately without causing hard feelings. She has her interests and I have mine. We spend some weekends just driving around together which we both enjoy. At night I like to go to sleep knowing she is beside me. We just make sure we spend time together which we both want.

 

[Eli]

Originally posted by: Tomato
If any?

I know couples who can spend every single living/breathing moment together, with or without anyone else, and they're perfectly happy.

I know other couples who seem to have completely separate lives individually, but come together in the evening to share a bed.

For those of you who are/were in a relationship, about how much "space" did you feel you needed from your partner, and how did you get it? (basketball or golf with other friends, going out to a bar with the guys, etc.)

We fit into that category. Can't imagine it any other way.

 

[yllus]

I think it's essential to have separate work lives so that relationship yllus never collides with independent yllus. I don't believe in the idea of love to the extent that I think that a person should be able to spend 24/7/365 with their mate and not go batty.

It all boils down to rule #1 of my life: Moderation is key in all things.

 

[RaynorWolfcastle]

I don't see my girlfriend unless it's to have sex with her. Do you think I'm smothering her?

 

[Arkitech]

it kind of varies with my wife and I. some weeks we pretty much do everything together but other times I'm wrapped up in a game for several hours everyday and she's watching her home improvement shows and lifetime movies. It all works out in the end though

 

[Kadarin]

Originally posted by: RaynorWolfcastle
I don't see my girlfriend unless it's to have sex with her. Do you think I'm smothering her?

Depends on the level of kinkiness and whether you're both into that oxygen deprivation thing..

 

[chrissyo4]

Well me and my bf are semi-long distance. So when we see each other we spend all our time together. However, after spending 4-5 days straight with each other, I can tell we get a lil agged at each other. I think a couple hours of doing our own thing and everything works out. It really varies with the situation.

 

[Tinkerhell]

Originally posted by: Eli

Originally posted by: Tomato
If any?

I know couples who can spend every single living/breathing moment together, with or without anyone else, and they're perfectly happy.

I know other couples who seem to have completely separate lives individually, but come together in the evening to share a bed.

For those of you who are/were in a relationship, about how much "space" did you feel you needed from your partner, and how did you get it? (basketball or golf with other friends, going out to a bar with the guys, etc.)

We fit into that category. Can't imagine it any other way.

me and oniq too

 

[Kadarin]

Originally posted by: Arkitech
it kind of varies with my wife and I. some weeks we pretty much do everything together but other times I'm wrapped up in a game for several hours everyday and she's watching her home improvement shows and lifetime movies. It all works out in the end though

With my ex I remember this time I came into the living room to see what she was doing, so I sat down and started watching tv with her. Turns out she was watching a Lifetime movie, and when that little fact sunk in, I got up to go back to what I was doing, and she got all butthurt... "Can't you just be with me?" she pleaded..

I'd rather give myself a good whack in the side of the head with an icepick than watch Lifetime movies.

 

Surfing does it for me (out in the water alone), shes always waiting on the beach for me though. First chick that has done that for me so im hanging on to her.

 

[eakers]

i never thought i would be in a realtionship where i want to be with my bf 24/7 and when we are i am the happiest girl and he is the happiest guy but here i am.

maybe its just the honeymoon phase or whatever but its working for us.

 

[nan0bug]

Depends on work schedule, what my friends are doing, etc. I normally like to spend as much time as possible while reserving at least one night a week to go out with the fellas and get rowdy without worrying about S.O. supervision.

 

[Arkitech]

Originally posted by: Astaroth33

Originally posted by: Arkitech
it kind of varies with my wife and I. some weeks we pretty much do everything together but other times I'm wrapped up in a game for several hours everyday and she's watching her home improvement shows and lifetime movies. It all works out in the end though

With my ex I remember this time I came into the living room to see what she was doing, so I sat down and started watching tv with her. Turns out she was watching a Lifetime movie, and when that little fact sunk in, I got up to go back to what I was doing, and she got all butthurt... "Can't you just be with me?" she pleaded..

I'd rather give myself a good whack in the side of the head with an icepick than watch Lifetime movies.

heh

yeah those lifetime movies are suicide triggers for guys. talk about depressing themes, everytime I catch my wife watching that channel its almost always dealing with someone's dead/kidnapped/abused child

 

[dethman]

half/half is good.

 

[Grouchyoldguy]

I work far from home (currently 200 miles). Been that way for +8 years now. I get to see my wife on the weekends. Sometimes every other week if I have to work Saturdays. I've adjusted to it and we have plenty to talk about on the weekends. She seems ok with it. Between my work and her life I haven't seen her for three weeks. I miss her.

 

[jagec]

700 square feet?

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

Originally posted by: Eli

Originally posted by: Tomato
If any?

I know couples who can spend every single living/breathing moment together, with or without anyone else, and they're perfectly happy.

I know other couples who seem to have completely separate lives individually, but come together in the evening to share a bed.

For those of you who are/were in a relationship, about how much "space" did you feel you needed from your partner, and how did you get it? (basketball or golf with other friends, going out to a bar with the guys, etc.)

We fit into that category. Can't imagine it any other way.

:thumbsup:

 

[SWScorch]

I need a lot of personal space, much to the chagrin of my girlfriend. She's very needy and clingy, and wants to be with me every single moment. I prefer to have my own life, and have time to do stuff on my own without being interrupted or bothered. Even if I have nothing to do, if I can't see her, I can always find stuff to keep myself occupied. She, on the other hand, is a workaholic, and everytime she's by herself with more than a minute with nothing to do, starts doing homework or studying and stuff like that, even though it stresses her out. So she has to be with me or she gets really grumpy. Which sometimes makes me grumpy, but we've lasted over two years so something must be working right

 

[Klixxer]

One night in a lifetime for anyone i am seeing now.

 

[RedPickle]

Spend as much time as we can together during the summers cause once school time comes around we are 500 miles apart.