For people who are/have been depressed and went to a psychologist

[weezergirl]

my younger cousin is severely depressed. she's been seeing an in-school training type psychologist and they recommended that she see a real one outside of school...she used to be a straight A student and in 1 year all of that has changed...she has been making Cs, Ds, and even an F.

well her parents are asian...and if you know asians..it would be totally weird to tell them about this and i'm sure they wouldn't take her. anyways, she asked me to take her behind her parents back.

on one hand, i DO want to help her..but on the other hand i dont want to go behind her parents back and do this.

btw, her parents are the typical super strict type parents. they never let her leave the house except for school.

anyways, i also want to know from people who have gone to psychologists for their problems...was it worth it..did it help???

 

[Mill]

Originally posted by: weezergirl
my younger cousin is severely depressed. she's been seeing an in-school training type psychologist and they recommended that she see a real one outside of school...she used to be a straight A student and in 1 year all of that has changed...she has been making Cs, Ds, and even an F.

well her parents are asian...and if you know asians..it would be totally weird to tell them about this and i'm sure they wouldn't take her. anyways, she asked me to take her behind her parents back.

on one hand, i DO want to help her..but on the other hand i dont want to go behind her parents back and do this.

btw, her parents are the typical super strict type parents. they never let her leave the house except for school.

anyways, i also want to know from people who have gone to psychologists for their problems...was it worth it..did it help???

She's probably depressed because her parents are assholes.

 

[weezergirl]

Originally posted by: Mill

Originally posted by: weezergirl
my younger cousin is severely depressed. she's been seeing an in-school training type psychologist and they recommended that she see a real one outside of school...she used to be a straight A student and in 1 year all of that has changed...she has been making Cs, Ds, and even an F.

well her parents are asian...and if you know asians..it would be totally weird to tell them about this and i'm sure they wouldn't take her. anyways, she asked me to take her behind her parents back.

on one hand, i DO want to help her..but on the other hand i dont want to go behind her parents back and do this.

btw, her parents are the typical super strict type parents. they never let her leave the house except for school.

anyways, i also want to know from people who have gone to psychologists for their problems...was it worth it..did it help???

She's probably depressed because her parents are assholes.

Yes..I would say 90% of the cause would be her parents...mostly her dad.

 

[Mill]

Originally posted by: weezergirl

Originally posted by: Mill

Originally posted by: weezergirl
my younger cousin is severely depressed. she's been seeing an in-school training type psychologist and they recommended that she see a real one outside of school...she used to be a straight A student and in 1 year all of that has changed...she has been making Cs, Ds, and even an F.

well her parents are asian...and if you know asians..it would be totally weird to tell them about this and i'm sure they wouldn't take her. anyways, she asked me to take her behind her parents back.

on one hand, i DO want to help her..but on the other hand i dont want to go behind her parents back and do this.

btw, her parents are the typical super strict type parents. they never let her leave the house except for school.

anyways, i also want to know from people who have gone to psychologists for their problems...was it worth it..did it help???

She's probably depressed because her parents are assholes.

Yes..I would say 90% of the cause would be her parents...mostly her dad.

In that cause I'm not sure how much a shrink can help. Other than give her advice and try to talk to them and get them to loosen up. How long before she is 18? Maybe you can sneak her out to go hang out more often? It will take up your time, but it might really help her.

 

[weezergirl]

Originally posted by: Mill

Originally posted by: weezergirl

Originally posted by: Mill

Originally posted by: weezergirl
my younger cousin is severely depressed. she's been seeing an in-school training type psychologist and they recommended that she see a real one outside of school...she used to be a straight A student and in 1 year all of that has changed...she has been making Cs, Ds, and even an F.

well her parents are asian...and if you know asians..it would be totally weird to tell them about this and i'm sure they wouldn't take her. anyways, she asked me to take her behind her parents back.

on one hand, i DO want to help her..but on the other hand i dont want to go behind her parents back and do this.

btw, her parents are the typical super strict type parents. they never let her leave the house except for school.

anyways, i also want to know from people who have gone to psychologists for their problems...was it worth it..did it help???

She's probably depressed because her parents are assholes.

Yes..I would say 90% of the cause would be her parents...mostly her dad.

In that cause I'm not sure how much a shrink can help. Other than give her advice and try to talk to them and get them to loosen up. How long before she is 18? Maybe you can sneak her out to go hang out more often? It will take up your time, but it might really help her.

That's true. She's 16 right now...I always told her just to make the best grades she can, not for her parents but for herself so she can get out of the house. And I try to hang out with her as much as I can on the weekends (her parents allow her to go out with me) but I live about 30-40 minutes away and I can't come all the time. I guess that hasn't been helping though.

 

[yllus]

Hey, tell her she can join my club for the emotionally damaged by one's own parents. Especially if she's cute.

Seriously though, there are two ways to go about fixing her problem. If she's not yet at college/university, her number one plan should be to attend somewhere far enough that living at home is not an option. Once she's used this natural out to get out, she needs to STAY out! Confrontation of the problem is certainly important, but you can't do that when you're naturally subjugated by being a rent-free tenant in your parents' house.

If she's already at college and stuck at home, look into some help available on campus. Most pyschs will mostly just talk about how she can better deal with her parents and keep her studies up until she can escape the situation and find something healthier - coping mechanisms, in short. Once she gets 'out', the real healing can begin.

Edit: To reiterate the most important point, MAKE SURE SHE ATTENDS COLLEGE AWAY FROM HOME! That is the one golden opportunity to not have to break off relations and support from one's family and at the same time escape their overt control. Pound this fact into her, and if she doesn't comply then she's responsible for her own woes.

Edit 2: Oh she's 16, overlook my comments about her being cute and all that.

 

[Mill]

Originally posted by: weezergirl

Originally posted by: Mill

Originally posted by: weezergirl

Originally posted by: Mill

Originally posted by: weezergirl
my younger cousin is severely depressed. she's been seeing an in-school training type psychologist and they recommended that she see a real one outside of school...she used to be a straight A student and in 1 year all of that has changed...she has been making Cs, Ds, and even an F.

well her parents are asian...and if you know asians..it would be totally weird to tell them about this and i'm sure they wouldn't take her. anyways, she asked me to take her behind her parents back.

on one hand, i DO want to help her..but on the other hand i dont want to go behind her parents back and do this.

btw, her parents are the typical super strict type parents. they never let her leave the house except for school.

anyways, i also want to know from people who have gone to psychologists for their problems...was it worth it..did it help???

She's probably depressed because her parents are assholes.

Yes..I would say 90% of the cause would be her parents...mostly her dad.

In that cause I'm not sure how much a shrink can help. Other than give her advice and try to talk to them and get them to loosen up. How long before she is 18? Maybe you can sneak her out to go hang out more often? It will take up your time, but it might really help her.

That's true. She's 16 right now...I always told her just to make the best grades she can, not for her parents but for herself so she can get out of the house. And I try to hang out with her as much as I can on the weekends (her parents allow her to go out with me) but I live about 30-40 minutes away and I can't come all the time. I guess that hasn't been helping though.

Yeah, that would be really tough for you to do. That's a fairly long drive, and I'm sure you have a life as well. I hate to say it, but it honestly sounds like she needs to find a boyfriend or another girl that is quasi rebellious. Not into drugs, smoking, or drinking, but someone who is sort of mischievous. It really sounds like she has to sit at home all day and has become quite introverted. I feel for her. Guess Asian parents try too hard to make sure their kids suceed sometimes.

 

[weezergirl]

Originally posted by: yllus
Hey, tell her she can join my club for the emotionally damaged by one's own parents. Especially if she's cute.

Seriously though, there are two ways to go about fixing her problem. If she's not yet at college/university, her number one plan should be to attend somewhere far enough that living at home is not an option. Once she's used this natural out to get out, she needs to STAY out! Confrontation of the problem is certainly important, but you can't do that when you're naturally subjugated by being a rent-free tenant in your parents' house.

If she's already at college and stuck at home, look into some help available on campus. Most pyschs will mostly just talk about how she can better deal with her parents and keep her studies up until she can escape the situation and find something healthier - coping mechanisms, in short. Once she gets 'out', the real healing can begin.

Edit: To reiterate the most important point, MAKE SURE SHE ATTENDS COLLEGE AWAY FROM HOME! That is the one golden opportunity to not have to break off relations and support from one's family and at the same time escape their overt control. Pound this fact into her, and if she doesn't comply then she's responsible for her own woes.

Edit 2: Oh she's 16, overlook my comments about her being cute and all that.

I've always reiterated this fact with her! And she knows it too..and up til recently she had been making straight A's. I'm not really sure what happened...but suddenly she got really depressed. And you know how when you get depressed it gets harder to concentrate, etc...and no matter how hard she "tries" or wants to she can't seem to bring her grades back up. She's honestly a good kid. She doesnt' do anything "bad" and always tries to please her parents...which I think the fact that she is failing her classes makes her even more depressed, worsening the situation.

So anyways, at this point...she will be lucky if she gets into college. She has really bad grades...and this time in high school is so crucial in getting into college. I just feel like she's sinking deeper and deeper and there's nothing I can do.

 

[Dragnov]

- I went without my parents knowledge for the same reasons.
- No, it did not help. They do NOT really hand out advice. They are there more or less to just talk to anonymously. I just stopped going after the third time.
- Take her, just so that she feels she tried all alternatives.

She's probably depressed because her parents are assholes.

I'd definitely agree with this. I didn't want to put the blame on them, and struggled with this for years, as they say work it out with your parents is healthiest. I figured maybe I was just dumb/need to grow up. I finally accepted that it wasn't because of me or "depression" why I was having trouble, and I'm much happier. I don't know exaclty for her situation, but for me the solution was get away ASAP.