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[OS]

Would you accept this arrangement if your spouse was for it?

"Neither of us is promiscuous, but if she meets some guy....or girl that she is interested in, she will tell me. And if the situation seems ok, she will get the green light to pursue her interest. And she does the same for me if I meet a woman that interests me. We always have a veto power in case things seem to be getting out of hand"


buried somewhere in here

For some reason, I was appalled, but then, if everyone involved is ok with it, is there a problem?

 

[hendon]

urm, if you go to such a site, I think you'll expect such responses?

 

[OS]

Actually, I found that site from a link in another thread here.

Good point though, I wonder why I never thought about that before

 

[dc]

that site = jerry springer's pool of guests


people in the earlier thread pretty much agreed with that assessment. heh

 

[Sluggo]

It does seem to violate most of the basic premises of marriage. Although if all parties were in agreement about it, and proper protections were used, I guess to each their own.

It sure does seem to be the highest point of a very slippery slope, walk carefully.

And of course never judge a person, till you have spent time in his shoes.

 

[OS]

Ok great, I was wondering if traditional family values and ideas were still alive anymore

Yeah I mean I don't think I could do that myself, even if I found another woman to be attractive and my wife was ok with it. I don't know why.

 

[RossGr]

If this were a perfect world such arrangments might work. There are some potential flys in the ointment though. STD, Herpes & AIDS just to mention the obvious. Then there is the fact that a relationship with just 2 is difficult, now through in a cast of 1000s and it is nearly impossible. You are inviting total strangers into the heart of your marriage this can lead to disaster. Proceed with exteremn caution. The best solution is to learn to be happy with what you have, develope and nurture your marriage rather then looking for some strange.

 

[bacillus]

<< And of course never judge a person, till you have spent time in his shoes. >>


does that hold true if the person is a transvestite??
think that I'll have a hard time in high heeled stilletoe shoes! :Q

 

[BeHeMOTH]

It's good to see the world is going to hell in a hurry :frown:

Did anyone else notice it was women that cheated and thought it was ok? Something tells me that if it was a man, the women would be out to get him.
LOL well I guess the old double standard is here.

The rule &quot;it was ok because we weren't married,engaged, or dating&quot; only works for the cheater, just remember that it is only an excuse to justify the wrong doing.

 

[gittyup]

Would you accept this arrangement if your spouse was for it?

Uh, NO!

If you are interested in other people, they you are not with the right one...

 

[Amused]

<< Would you accept this arrangement if your spouse was for it?

Uh, NO!

If you are interested in other people, they you are not with the right one... >>



That sounds nice and romantic, but it's just not true.

There are few, if any, married folks who have not once been at least a little sexually attracted to someone other than their spouse.

Just because you're sexually tempted by someone else does NOT mean your spouse is not the right one for you.

 

[gittyup]

Just because you're sexually tempted by someone else does NOT mean your spouse is not the right one for you.

I guess you also think that even though you're sexually tempted and just happen to act on those temptations once, does not mean your spouse is not the right one for you!

 

[Emulex]

once you go there, your relationship is all down hill from then on..

Doesn't matter who you look at or think about as long as you take it home for the real action..

 

[OS]

wanna hear more

 

[GasX]

I know of several marriages with such an &quot;exemption&quot; clause. However, they are all for specific people. i.e. if the man has the opportunity to sleep with Drew Barrymore it is okay.

I think it is healthy to discuss such &quot;exemptions&quot; as they are unlikely to be fulfilled and allow a little freedom to the relationship.

 

[buck]

No way in hell!:|
Why get married? Whats the point? Disgusting!

 

[SirFshAlot]

you have to establish your own morals and values, and then live with the rewards and consequences of such

 

[chaotic]

I say NO WAY. I'm on the road to marriage (2 months), and we are very open with each other about who we think is attractive and who is not attractive. As for 'doing it' with anyone else, we both agree that is wrong. Errgh. That article made me mad.

 

[Mountain]

aint gonna work. the end.

 

[Noriaki]

wow gittyup, takea reality pill. There's a big difference between being attracted to someone and having sex with them.

AmusedOne said that many people are attracted to people other than their spouse, he didn't say you should do it.

Hell the girl I like points out other girls she thinks I'd think are cute. There's nothing wrong with being a little attracted to someone else geez...

As for the subject at hand, no I don't think it's ok to go with other people. But if both agreed I guess...whatever works...I wouldn't agree though so...

Besides, for all I really like looking at cute girls, there's only one girl I'd really enjoy having sex with. Sex without Love is meaningless to me, it might as well be masterbation. Safer to...