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Gulzakar

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I sit here amongst a sea of female co-workers. All married, taken, pregnant, whatever.

They talk about having more kids, but then they $itch about their husbands/boyfriends...it almost seems like a mechanical process, there's no drive of emotion. "Yeah, I want to have 4 kids total"... I realized they placed having children above what their "significant other" meant to them.

So I say this:

You have to be a friend with someone before you can be a lover. Seeking love for love, or that need to be with someone is a recepe for disaster. Would you rather spend life with someone you can barely handle? or spend it alone in peace?
 
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Remember that you're not hearing everything, but rather just what they're comfortable talking about in a work environment.
 
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tami

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Originally posted by: toekramp
to each their own
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exactly. i love my husband. i feel sorry for the people who bitch about their husbands but yet are starting a family with them. hell, i feel sorrier for the kids.
 
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eakers

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Originally posted by: Gulzakar
I sit here amongst a sea of female co-workers. All married, taken, pregnant, whatever.

They talk about having more kids, but then they $itch about their husbands/boyfriends...it almost seems like a mechanical process, there's no drive of emotion. "Yeah, I want to have 4 kids total"... I realized they placed having children above what their "significant other" meant to them.

So I say this:

You have to be a friend with someone before you can be a lover. Seeking love for love, or that need to be with someone is a recepe for disaster. Would rather spend life with someone you can barely handle? or spend it alone in peace?
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I totally agree with you.
 
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DaShen

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Until I find a girl that I can talk to and hold a decent conversation with who isn't already taken, I am not going to settle for just "love". Whatever that means.

Date around and find a girl you can actually respect and be friends with IMHO, instead of looking for someone who is uber-hot. Although both is preferable, hot ones tend to be manipulative because they know they are hot (and I won't settle for that either).
 
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Scarpozzi

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Women need drama. Without drama, they aren't "normal" like the people they watch on TV. It's sad that so many of them work during the day and miss their soap operas, so they have to make their lives soap operas to compensate. Reality TV still isn't filling the void when it's basically a soap opera too....
 
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Zysoclaplem

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I don't think women hate their husbands as much as they say they do.

When you focus on the negative you tend to lose sight of the positive.
 
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Gulzakar

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I've worked with them for 3 years....met all their SO's.

The poor bastards look miserable (with the exception of one or two).

I know every story... not even my point...

They're just so...mechanical. There's no drive, no emotion, no warm feelings of love...it's sad they're all so stupid (and hot). But that seems to go hand in hand.
 
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toekramp

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Gulzakar, i understand your point. I also believe a lot of marriages/families are created because 'thats what you're supposed to do'. These ultimately lead to a life of unhappiness and discontent. So yes, I do feel sorry for a lot of people.
 
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Gulzakar

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"Gulzakar, i understand your point. I also believe a lot of marriages/families are created because 'thats what you're supposed to do'. These ultimately leads to a life of unhappiness and discontent. So yes, I do feel sorry for a lot of people."

exactly! it's almost as though it's become a process. kind of like buying a house.
 
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toekramp

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Originally posted by: Gulzakar
"Gulzakar, i understand your point. I also believe a lot of marriages/families are created because 'thats what you're supposed to do'. These ultimately leads to a life of unhappiness and discontent. So yes, I do feel sorry for a lot of people."

exactly! it's almost as though it's become a process. kind of like buying a house.
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your process is called 'The American Dream'

Wife, two and a half kids and a mortgage
 
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Gulzakar

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so is that good or bad? :)

I can never tell.

I'm 27. I was told by one of them, "at some point you grow up and have a family"... I didn't realize this was a prerequisite for growing up.
 
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Originally posted by: Gulzakar
so is that good or bad? :)

I can never tell.

I'm 27. I was told by one of them, "at some point you grow up have and have a family"... I didn't realize this was a prerequisite for growing up.
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screw that! i'm 30 and kids are still a couple years off for me (young wife - very busy with her career at the moment!). that, and i hate the phrase, "grow up". i mean, someone can be mature and fun-loving at the same time. it almost seems like if you're over a certain age, people expect you to behave a certain way. i say to hell with that.

edit: oh yeah, and i don't believe that being married OR having kids is a prerequisite of anything. most of my guy friends are single. like someone said, so each his own and down with those that crap on people.
 
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sixone

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Originally posted by: Astaroth33
Remember that you're not hearing everything, but rather just what they're comfortable talking about in a work environment.
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So true, and women can be very nasty to someone who is actually happy with their SO.
 
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