First month's anniversary with a girl, what SHOULD i do, and what SHOULDN'T i do?

[erikiksaz]

Well, our first month's anniversary is coming up in exactly one week, what should i do? I don't want to do anything that's been overdone in the past, eg. flowers, all that type of crap. What are my options gals? I appreciate all input, besides all the unwanted perv crap

 

[PsychoAndy]

Suprise her with a pasta salad!

-PAB

 

[erikiksaz]

Hmm, pasta salad. Is that a type of food, or is it my leg that's being yanked...

So long as you didn't tell me to toss her salad or something like that

 

[rubenswm]

Originally posted by: erikiksaz
Well, our first month's anniversary is coming up in exactly one week, what should i do? I don't want to do anything that's been overdone in the past, eg. flowers, all that type of crap. What are my options gals? I appreciate all input, besides all the unwanted perv crap

you could probably surprise her by not forgetting.

 

[Frosty3799]

Originally posted by: rubenswm

Originally posted by: erikiksaz
Well, our first month's anniversary is coming up in exactly one week, what should i do? I don't want to do anything that's been overdone in the past, eg. flowers, all that type of crap. What are my options gals? I appreciate all input, besides all the unwanted perv crap

you could probably surprise her by not forgetting.

yea that should probably be enough.

1 month isnt that big of an accomplishment... well i guess it depends how old you are

 

[notfred]

anniversaries are not measured in months.

 

[Deeko]

I remember when I hit 1 month with my girl, we thought it was huge. We didn't do anything that special though. Just went out to eat at a nice restaurant and stuff. Currently are at 8 months, 11 days. I hope we make it to a year...a week ago there would have been no doubt in my mind.

 

[PsychoAndy]

Originally posted by: erikiksaz
Hmm, pasta salad. Is that a type of food, or is it my leg that's being yanked...

So long as you didn't tell me to toss her salad or something like that

Food.

Homer Simpson's guide to marriage:

Make every day a celebration of your love!
Surpise her with a pasta salad!
Wear a mini-beret on your wang!

-PAB

 

[Vincent]

Just get her a nice card and write how you feel.

 

[gotsmack]

one month isn't really anything big. dinner should be enough. don't over do it because what are you going to do when you hit the 3, 6, and 12 month mark?

 

[MichaelD]

Originally posted by: notfred
anniversaries are not measured in months.

Thank you.

Here's what you SHOULD NOT do.

Spend a lot of money on ANYTHING for her, including dinner


What you can do
1. Cooking dinner for her would be nice, but I believe you live with your parents...so cooking for her is not an option
2. Get her a card and write something special (women love that crap)
3. Get her a single rose
4. Try to get the panties
5. Be pleased that you scored

 

[Jzero]

DO:
-Not say a word. It's a friggin month! I had a girl who was big on these fake anniversaries and it got to being a real PITA to have to remember to buy a flower and whatnot every goldarned month.

DON'T:
-Make a big deal about it b/c then it will become an expectation EVERY month.

 

[NakaNaka]

my gf and I have been going out six months tomorrow. On every month, we just say happy anniversary and go out to dinner. Nothing nice, but we just make it our business to see each other. For three months she took me out to a very nice dinner. I'm taking her out tomorrow (we usually alternate buying each other dinner each time we go out)

 

[SagaLore]

One MONTH anniversary? Don't celebrate that. Wait for your one year anniversary.

 

[xospec1alk]

ditto, one month is nothing...BFD i say...unless you're like 13 or something...and if she makes a big deal about it...i say drop her...only immature girls care about being w/ someone for a month

 

[Geekbabe]

Just do whatever it is that *you* feel like doing and above all just be yourself

 

[Que-TiP]

a single rose wouldnt be bad. Just leave the diamond ring at home this time.

 

[Knight125]

When my last serious relationship hit 1 month I invited my girlfriend over to my place and cooked dinner for her then we watched a movie. No big deal just a quiet evening. It was a great time.

For us one month was kind of important because we really hit it off and it was the longest relationship either of us had had in a long time.

As of next month we will have been married one and a half years.

 

[TNTrulez]

Originally posted by: Jzero
DO:
-Not say a word. It's a friggin month! I had a girl who was big on these fake anniversaries and it got to being a real PITA to have to remember to buy a flower and whatnot every goldarned month.

DON'T:
-Make a big deal about it b/c then it will become an expectation EVERY month.

 

[DeafeningSilence]

Originally posted by: TNTrulez

Originally posted by: Jzero
DO:
-Not say a word. It's a friggin month! I had a girl who was big on these fake anniversaries and it got to being a real PITA to have to remember to buy a flower and whatnot every goldarned month.

DON'T:
-Make a big deal about it b/c then it will become an expectation EVERY month.

Exactly right. Just for emphasis:
DON'T Make a big deal about it b/c then it will become an expectation EVERY month.

First, you gotta ask yourself, "Self, how big of a hole do I want to dig myself into?" Because it does become an expectation every month -- and that will become a chore each time you have to figure out how to out-do what you did last time.

Second, my advice is to keep things free and loose. Give her a flower, a special night out, or whatever, whenever you feel like it -- not whenever the calendar tells you to. Trust me, she will end up appreciating a spontaneous gift much more than a predictable one.

Sincerely,
Been in your shoes...

 

[Synoptic]

Basically, you are just supposed to do something to let her know you remembered. A card, dinner, something to that effect. It will make her feel special to know you remembered and let her know the relationship means something to you.

 

[littleprince]

Agree with above. Been together almost 4 years now. The 1 month,3,6, month stuff will not really be remembered. If you buy her something nice now, u better be extremely loaded to get through the rest of the aniversaries.

Something simple, like cook her a nice dinner.

 

[Maverick2002]

Don't do anything. One month is too short a time.

It's like a subliminal message: "I want to celebrate that we got this far". As in, you're surprised you lasted together for a whole month.

Me and my GF are getting close to a year but we never had any other anniversaries. Actually I don't even remember the exact day we hooked up because we never asked each other out or on a date or anything. It just gradually happened. Maybe it's better that way.

Oh yea, back to the subject. Don't do anything. Well, maybe a shmuckum.

EDIT: flowers should always be given, just not on 1 month anniversaries.

 

[Yo Ma Ma]

Do be casual about it, and at the same time acknowledge it, llike "hey today's been a month since we first went out, let's mark the event with some new hardware for my PC "

Don't be comparitive, like "Hey we've been going out almost a month, that's the longest time evar for me!"

 

[cmhockey24]

Well, our first month's anniversary is coming up in exactly one week, what should i do? I don't want to do anything that's been overdone in the past, eg. flowers, all that type of crap. What are my options gals? I appreciate all input, besides all the unwanted perv crap

just call her at midnight when it hits your one month and don't tell her you are doing that and don't say 'i love you' after it too early and you don't know if she feels the same way.

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