First girlfriend problems...

[JonTheBaller]

I've been with my first real girlfriend for a month now, and it's been going great. Yet... it's so hard for me to not flirt with girls, want to meet new girls, etc. For example, I met a girl at a club on Friday, and she called me up, and I had a hard time telling her I had a girlfriend (next time she calls I'm going to let her know). I guess I'm not used to this commitment. Any advice on getting past these immature feelings?

 

[Kipper]

I don't think you're ready for this commitment thing yet if you couldn't tell a girl that you had a girlfriend the FIRST time she called.

 

[JonTheBaller]

Originally posted by: MadCowDisease
I don't think you're ready for this commitment thing yet if you couldn't tell a girl that you had a girlfriend the FIRST time she called.

Well, I actually knew her slightly from the past so we were talking about different things and catching up. I think I've been doing a good job overall, it's just the temptation that comes up every so often. And anyway, if I don't experience the demands of commitment I'll never be ready for it.

 

[jyates]

My advice would be.....

If you aren't through "playing the field" don't have a steady girlfriend
that may be thinking that she is the center of your world when actually
she isn't.

Nothing wrong with playing the field at all, but I believe it's wrong if you are
in a relationship with a "girlfriend".

 

[mugs]

You could start by not giving your number to girls you meet in clubs

Get their numbers instead so you can call them when you're single again.

 

[imported_Tomato]

If you're already feeling restless, it's an early sign you aren't ready for that kind of commitment.

 

[StormRider]

If I had a girlfriend and another girl came up to me to talk, I would yell, "Get the fvck away from me you temptress!"

 

[raanemaan]

Originally posted by: MadCowDisease
I don't think you're ready for this commitment thing yet if you couldn't tell a girl that you had a girlfriend the FIRST time she called.

Sounds like you are not ready to commit yet. Someone who is your first real girlfriend should be mentioned the first thing.

 

[farmercal]

Any advice on getting past these immature feelings?

Grow Up?

 

[Zim Hosein]

Originally posted by: StormRider
If I had a girlfriend and another girl came up to me to talk, I would yell, "Get the fvck away from me you temptress!"

LMFAO!

Cheers StormRider :beer:

 

[clamum]

Only a month and it's hard not to want to meet new girls? Are you really happy with her? I suppose you're used to being single though...

 

[JonTheBaller]

Originally posted by: clamum
Only a month and it's hard not to want to meet new girls? Are you really happy with her? I suppose you're used to being single though...

I think I'm making this situation worse than it is. I really have been loyal to her. I haven't even flirted with any girls or anything like that. I just am so used to being single (like you said), that I have some qualms about my abilities to be a good boyfriend.

 

[clamum]

Originally posted by: johnnytightlips

Originally posted by: clamum
Only a month and it's hard not to want to meet new girls? Are you really happy with her? I suppose you're used to being single though...

I think I'm making this situation worse than it is. I really have been loyal to her. I haven't even flirted with any girls or anything like that. I just am so used to being single (like you said), that I have some qualms about my abilities to be a good boyfriend.

Well as long as you're loyal it's all good... how old are you if I may ask? I'm in my first serious relationship, thankfully my girlfriend is a lot better than me about these things, I've learned quite a bit!

 

[JonTheBaller]

I'm 22... I've had girlfriends before but this is the only one that's actually mattered to me. I've been playing the field for too long.

 

[dethman]

johnnytightlips spilling the beans....

 

[DAGTA]

When you are in a 'situation', ask yourself, "Would I like it if my girlfriend did 'this' or 'that' if she were in this situation?" Let that guide your conscious and you'll probably be fine. Remember, we all face temptation and 'bad' thoughts but it's our actions that show who we are.

 

[clamum]

Originally posted by: DAGTA
When you are in a 'situation', ask yourself, "Would I like it if my girlfriend did 'this' or 'that' if she were in this situation?" Let that guide your conscious and you'll probably be fine. Remember, we all face temptation and 'bad' thoughts but it's our actions that show who we are.

Yeah good advice :thumbsup:

 

[JonTheBaller]

Originally posted by: DAGTA
When you are in a 'situation', ask yourself, "Would I like it if my girlfriend did 'this' or 'that' if she were in this situation?" Let that guide your conscious and you'll probably be fine. Remember, we all face temptation and 'bad' thoughts but it's our actions that show who we are.

Thanks, I needed to hear something as simple as that.