................... Fianlly, I am an adult......

[Old Hippie]

It's your house and your (smoking) rules. She would feel the same way.

I have my own life, and this would kill any romantic interests I might have.

It's your MoM for christsake. I'd give anything to see mine for just one minute. :brokenheart:

 

[TanisHalfElven]

Originally posted by: Old Hippie
It's your house and your (smoking) rules. She would feel the same way.

I have my own life, and this would kill any romantic interests I might have.

It's your MoM for christsake. I'd give anything to see mine for just one minute. :brokenheart:

i agree fear of burning the house down (and killing/hurting herself) is one thing BUT romantic interests!!!!!!!!!!!!!! For the love of GOD.

 

[Accipiter22]

telling someone that you put your mother up in your house and take care of her is NOT going to kill romantic opportunities with anyone worthwhile. Second of all, just tell her she can't smoke anymore. You'd be doing her a favor. and YES give her a 2nd chacne..

 

[MikeyIs4Dcats]

Originally posted by: SarcasticDwarf

Originally posted by: thatsright

Originally posted by: chrisms
That is your family. Not just family but your mother. She's obviously had a bad year, and as her son it is your responsibility to be there for her.

I know all families are different but you didn't mention any past abuse or arguements so I'll just assume you have a fairly normal relationship with her.

We have a great relationship. I am just worried safety wise, she is still smoking and this could happen all over again. She is absolutely 100% addicted to cigs...while its possible she could quit for good, I just don't trust her. She is smoking even now in the nursing home!

Personally, I would not take her in. Clearly, she has no control over her own actions and lacks responsibility-therefore she SHOULD be getting 24/7 care. While she IS your mother, she also has to live with her own decisions.

QFT. I know it's hard to accept, but you cannot always assume responsibility.