Feeling asexual lately

[Zysoclaplem]

Originally posted by: SampSon

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: Trygve

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: SampSon
Isn't the searching and dating part of the fun?

Well, may'be if you are heterosexual. Alot of gay guys are out for one thing. It's pretty discouraging.

If it's any comfort, the straight women are all out for one thing, too. It's just that the "one thing" in question is some hot, "bad boy"-type guy in a rock band.

I have always thought that women were out to find and settle down with the right guy. But I guess I cannot say what women want in life.

Think again.

Heh. Well shows how much I know, about women anyway.

 

[Platypus]

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: CorporateRecreation
Yah I'd get out of there, I think it might help you get back on your feet.

Honestly, I don't see a reason for you to rush back into it, relationships are bullsh!t anyway.
People are better off alone, that's the cynacist in me talking.

It may be cynical, but it's true.
I don't want to rush back into anything, but I doubt I will move. It's a nice place, and I don't want to have to go back to an apartment after living in a house.

It's the attitude I took for a few months after actively searching around. I got tired of caring after a while. Honestly I didn't see my current relationship lasting as long as it has (almost 3 years).

:music: You're not my girl, you're just tired.. :music:

 

[RollWave]

its been a couple years since my last REALLY solid relationship...I just havent found anyone I truly enjoy spending time with. :/ But in the end, I'm a bit busy to have that sort of commitment right now anyways so I feel that everything will work out for the best...dont worry about it Zys

 

[aidanjm]

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
I feel that I just can't go through all that searching/dating crap again, that it's not worth it. I'm feeling quite asexual, and really tired lately. Is this normal after the end of a long relationship?

How long did it take you to find someone, or to start dating again after your last break-up?

I think it's natural to feel sad, even depressed, after a relationship comes to an end. And depression often comes with tiredness/ exhaustion. This is 'normal'.

 

[aidanjm]

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: SampSon
Isn't the searching and dating part of the fun?

Well, may'be if you are heterosexual. Alot of gay guys are out for one thing. It's pretty discouraging.

But don't you think a lot of straight guys are out for one thing, too? I think that is just how most guys are programmed. It's human nature to want sex.

 

[aidanjm]

Originally posted by: Nitemare
I don't see how anything good can come out of it unless you 2 reconcile

The problem in that situation is deciding who has to move out. Hard decision, especially if it is a good place.

 

[ggnl]

I'm currently six weeks out of a three year relationship, so I know exactly what you're going through. The answer is yes, it is normal to feel disinterested in finding someone else immediately after ending a serious relationship.

Different people cope with in in different ways. Some people go out and screw a bunch of strangers. Some people bury themselves in work/hobbies. Some people just shut down and mope for a long time. It sounds like you're not acting self-destructively, so I'd venture to guess that you'll be back to normal sooner than you think.

 

[aidanjm]

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
We aren't on bad terms. He is my best/only close friend. That's pretty sad, but I was never too social to begin with.

I'd be your friend, but I'm on a different continent.

 

[chrisms]

Well, you've got a decision to make.

Option 1
Option 2

 

[gshock888]

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[cerebusPu]

you can be like me and pick up World of Warcraft as techno-crack. THe $12~$15 a month isnt a whole lot when you save money by not going out to dinner and movies every weekend.

 

[aidanjm]

Originally posted by: chrisms
Well, you've got a decision to make.

Option 1
Option 2

option 2 is hot. option 1 doesn't display cos you've exceed bandwidth

 

[91TTZ]

Originally posted by: ggnl

Different people cope with in in different ways. Some people go out and screw a bunch of strangers. Some people bury themselves in work/hobbies. Some people just shut down and mope for a long time.

While still others hide the truth and marry a woman, dress up like a clown, then rape and kill people. To each his own I guess.

 

[gshock888]

Originally posted by: aidanjm

Originally posted by: chrisms
Well, you've got a decision to make.

Option 1
Option 2

option 2 is hot. option 1 doesn't display cos you've exceed bandwidth

copy and paste link

 

[Kadarin]

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: SampSon

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: Trygve

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: SampSon
Isn't the searching and dating part of the fun?

Well, may'be if you are heterosexual. Alot of gay guys are out for one thing. It's pretty discouraging.

If it's any comfort, the straight women are all out for one thing, too. It's just that the "one thing" in question is some hot, "bad boy"-type guy in a rock band.

I have always thought that women were out to find and settle down with the right guy. But I guess I cannot say what women want in life.

Think again.

Heh. Well shows how much I know, about women anyway.

To generalize a bit, in relationships with women it depends on age:

In their teens, women (girls, really) are generally too clueless and stupid to know what they want. When they reach their twenties, they want the "outlaw biker" "rocker (plays in a band)" bad boy type guy. The kind of guy that gets their juices flowing, and damn the consequences. When women reach their 30s, that's when they finally get past that and mature a little bit. As an added bonus, their sex drive starts to kick into overdrive.