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Family question..kinda.

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nativesunshine

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Basics:
My mom has been out of the country for 2 weeks....and I have been at school for 1 of those 2 weeks. I came home last saturday for spring break. My dad has been making dinner for everyone (himself, me and my brother - who's 25) for the last week.

Question:
Should I feel bad that he's making dinner almost every night? My mom called and asked me to help him and make dinner for him (i used to do it a lot when i lived at home)...but somehow my dad always beats me to it. Whenever i think..."oh, I should start making dinner"..he's already in the kitchen. So I was just wondering...am I a "bad" daughter for just sitting around while he makes dinner? I would help him but we're just not close enough for me to ask to help him.

Reason why I feel like a "bad" daughter....asian family = daughter must take care of parents, make dinner, do laundry, etc.. So by not making dinner every night for my dad....am I being disrespectful?

Ehh..I dunno why I'm asking on here, but I was curious...wondering what you guys would say/think, especially the Asian people out there w/ more old fashioned/traditional families....
 
It probably wouldn't hurt for you to ask your dad if he wanted any help. You shouldn't feel obligated to help because you're a woman but to contribute to the household you're living in. Your brother could help too.

My dad's not particularly traditional, but he wouldn't be able to cook to save his life. Actually, he probably could cook but my sister and I cook better and we would step in to avoid eating his cooking.
 
Maybe you could try helping out tomorrow (in case you have an off day and nothing much to do)

IMHO, Asking=being aware aware that he is doing the cooking
Helping= REALLY trying to help him.

p.s: In case you DO end up doing some cooking, post here what you cooked/ how did it taste 🙂
 
coming from a traditional Asian household, watching my father cook dinner would have been a monumentous event 😛

i don't think you're being a bad daughter. why not just help out, even though he's already started cooking? maybe set the table, get silverware, pour drinks, etc.

btw, if it's not too personal, why aren't you close enough w/ your father to ask him if he needs help? is he a stepfather?
 
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