Explanation for dad's behavior?

[AgaBoogaBoo]

Oh yeah, many times he doesn't give his ideas what we can do together as a family because he feels his ideas won't matter and we won't care about them

 

[Slacker]

Do you know where the remote is? oh somehow it fell into the couch cushion, could we leave it on the end table when we are done with it?(repeat daily for one year, phrasing changes but tone is the same)

Hmmm, have you seen the remote? ahh there it is, it fell behind the tv stand, please put it on the table when you're not using it.(repeat daily for one year, phrasing changes but tone is the same)


Where is the Damn remote control, every F'ing day searching for the remote, WTF is it doing in the bathroom? :|(repeat daily for one year, phrasing changes but tone is the same)

WHERE THE FVCK IS THE G@D DAMN REMOTE CONTROL, WTF, FOR YEARS ITS BEEN THE SAME SH!T SEARCH HERE SEARCH THERE UNDER THE COUCH ON THE MICROWAVE IN THE KIDS ROOM, F@CK, ENOUGH ALREADY, DO WE NEED TO CHAIN THE DAMN THING TO THE TABLE? (repeat daily forEVER, phrasing changes but tone is the same)

 

[AgaBoogaBoo]

Originally posted by: minendo
Mid-life crisis

My dad's been going through it for years. It explains the two British sports cars, 3 dodge stealths, and 2 luxury cars we own.

I think that might be it, but I know he doesn't have the money for more cars right now.

 

[AgaBoogaBoo]

Originally posted by: Coquito

Originally posted by: Wingznut
Women have this bad habit of making their husbands feel as if their wants/needs are mostly insignificant and that nothing they do is good enough for their wife.

Dr Laura actually wrote a book about this recently. The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands. (Amazon link)

This attitude isn't overwhelming or obvious. But it's something that grates on a man in an accumulative manner, and after a while, he just feels that he may as well give up trying.

My father acts just like what the OP described, plus he also treats my mother in the way you described women do to thier husbands. Of course he's depressed, but he acts like such a baby. He doesn't clean up after himself, he doesn't want to do anything with the family, super defensive about everything, obese, very childish at the most unoportunistic times possible(dribbling a basket ball in the living room at 12:30am, blasting the tv), heavy drinker, pot head, just a terrible person to be around once he gets started. He puts my mother & her family down just to make himself feel better. He's self destructing, & doesn't care who he takes out. I'm not going to baby sit this guy & wipe his ass for him. I'm sorry I feel this way, but he hasn't been my father past the time I was able to walk to school by myself. If he wants his family back... whatever, I'm just sick of talking about it.

My situation is nothing of this extent. The past two or three months he's drunk beer a little more, but that's still just 2 or maybe 3 a night, a couple nights in a month. He usually does it at night in the family room watching TV. Before that he drank beer at home maybe every few months.

 

[Coquito]

Originally posted by: Slacker
Hmmm, have you seen the remote? ahh there it is, it fell behind the tv stand, please put it on the table when you're not using it.(repeat daily for one year, phrasing changes but tone is the same)

...socks in hamper, garbage in can, piss in toilet, pipe out of public view, drool on your own pillow, smash holes into your own wall, drill your own screws into your own furniture...

 

[Coquito]

Originally posted by: AgaBoogaBoo

My situation is nothing of this extent. The past two or three months he's drunk beer a little more, but that's still just 2 or maybe 3 a night, a couple nights in a month. He usually does it at night in the family room watching TV. Before that he drank beer at home maybe every few months.

My father is almost a normal human being right before his first one. As you said, in the family living room. This is every single day, whether he worked or not. Replace the beer with mixed screwdrivers, & increase the numbers some. As I said, I can almost have a conversation with him before he gets started. He just seems to love that crap more then his family. Nothing will get those type of people out of other then a brush with death. Not family, not military interventions, not winning the lottery.

 

[Landroval]

why don't you take him aside and talk one on one about it. maybe he will reveal some of his frustraions to you so you understand what is causing it.

 

[AgaBoogaBoo]

Originally posted by: Landroval
why don't you take him aside and talk one on one about it. maybe he will reveal some of his frustraions to you so you understand what is causing it.

I think I will

 

[Landroval]

Originally posted by: AgaBoogaBoo

Originally posted by: Landroval
why don't you take him aside and talk one on one about it. maybe he will reveal some of his frustraions to you so you understand what is causing it.

I think I will

 

[xSauronx]

Originally posted by: Slacker
Do you know where the remote is? oh somehow it fell into the couch cushion, could we leave it on the end table when we are done with it?(repeat daily for one year, phrasing changes but tone is the same)

Hmmm, have you seen the remote? ahh there it is, it fell behind the tv stand, please put it on the table when you're not using it.(repeat daily for one year, phrasing changes but tone is the same)


Where is the Damn remote control, every F'ing day searching for the remote, WTF is it doing in the bathroom? :|(repeat daily for one year, phrasing changes but tone is the same)

WHERE THE FVCK IS THE G@D DAMN REMOTE CONTROL, WTF, FOR YEARS ITS BEEN THE SAME SH!T SEARCH HERE SEARCH THERE UNDER THE COUCH ON THE MICROWAVE IN THE KIDS ROOM, F@CK, ENOUGH ALREADY, DO WE NEED TO CHAIN THE DAMN THING TO THE TABLE? (repeat daily forEVER, phrasing changes but tone is the same)

what the holy hell?

 

[Wingznut]

Originally posted by: AgaBoogaBoo

Originally posted by: Wingznut
Women have this bad habit of making their husbands feel as if their wants/needs are mostly insignificant and that nothing they do is good enough for their wife.

Dr Laura actually wrote a book about this recently. The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands. (Amazon link)

This attitude isn't overwhelming or obvious. But it's something that grates on a man in an accumulative manner, and after a while, he just feels that he may as well give up trying.

Hmm, I think that might be related a little, but that was just one incident, I don't think other things are like that.

I'm telling you, it's all accumulative. Just a little bit here, and a little bit there. After a while, it just becomes a huge burden.

I'll bet that most of the ways these things happen, you wouldn't even notice.