Originally posted by: Corn
So the first point is that you deselected most of my post to respond to, picking that portion which you felt you could most easily deflect.
Deflect off what? I merely responed to that part which called me to do so.
In any event, you've got it backwards......its the dead who are desperate to feel alive, acting out their rage trying to free themselves from thier zombification. Pity, Moonie, behind this grin, pity them I do. Expressing one's emotions surely isn't a sign of weakness, being ruled by them at the exclusion of all else on the other hand.......
Very good Corn, you have stayed in the game to a point where meaningful things have been said. We have come far enough along that my backwardness has been clarified. See what you can do with this bit more:
"Expressing ones emotions surely isn't a sign of weakness, being ruled by them to the exclusion of all else on the other hand...." Hehe, I'm not sure why you didn't go ahead and spell out your feelings on that but we can assume you imply such a state of affairs is not good, something about which, behind your grin, you pity them for. Well now, I know it's neither here nor there, since I am a nobody, but these remarks of yours here impress me on a number of levels. They seem to posses a bit of character, honesty and integrity.
Lets start with the least self-flattering of the honest revelations you offer since we know that brutal frankness at times can be like confession. To grin when the feeling is pity.... Saying that says and means many things to me. It says that you feel helpless in the face of negative emotion. You know the emotion is sick which makes you feel sorry for the sick person, and you know that negative feelings are destructive, hence you would like to grin inferior the expression to try and turn it off, to deflect it from contaminating you, to shame the person to stop. All perfectly natural reactions in an upside down world. We can return to this more profitably after we examine how we are a bit deeper. What does someone feel who is raging at Bush? What is the root of that rage? How would anybody know? Is there a simple overarching principle at work? I say there is and the way the question gets answered is to have personally experienced that rage sufficiently to follow it down. This is what I suggest you will find:
Rage is a defense against sadness. Rage is a defense against tears. Sadness is a particularly tough issue for men so rage is an especially male disease. It is the reason that men are violent. They don't want to feel sad. So if you can get angry enough, if you can rage enough in the right setting, say your local men's support group or with a mentor who knows, you can get to your tears. When the damn bursts the flood of tears lasts seemingly for ever. Saddens, generalized sadness, is a defense against grief. So if you can cry and cry and cry you will cry so hard you will slip back to the past. You will be crying about something that's real, something that happened long ago. Then saddness becomes grief. Grief is saddness that's real. You know exactly why you cry. It's then you start to heal, because it's then you can finish out closed books. The bottomless pit of self pity has in fact a bottom. Grief fully experienced is grief transcended. This is naturally somewhat difficult to do.
So now we can understand a few things in relation to your comments. Yes, rage, constant rage is an illness. It is a suppressive instrument designed to block a deeper pain. But the cure is not to not feel rage, but to go all the way through, but consciously and in a setting where it's OK. So to pity the person who is angry has its up and its down. It's a pity we have to be angry, but pity can also be a defense against rage. 'I'm not going to allow myself to be so pathetic.' Hehe. Well of course that's even more pathetic because it's one step deeper asleep, one step farther removed from what you really feel, grief over the loss of your self. It's a pretense you aren't just like everybody else, infected with self hate, hate for your grieving self.
So we can get a glimpse of how the world is nuts:
The world: Anger is destructive; it is destroying our world. We will mock and put down the angry to make them shut up. We need to control.
Reality: Anger is destructive; it is destroying our world. It is the result of being mocked and put down as a child. Only through feeling and expressing can it be truly transcended, cured at the root. We need to love.
You can see there the conservative and the liberal and of course hopefully the potential for a third way.