So...my last single (female) friend got engaged a couple days ago. Now granted my circle of close friends is pretty small...maybe 20 people...but I've realized that everyone in that group is now married or engaged (except for me). It's a weird feeling. Not quite loneliness, not quite left-out-ness, not quite dispair or sadness. Maybe a combination. Don't get me wrong: I'm happy for her. Just a little bummed at what her engagement represents.
It's caused me to sit down and think about what I've been doing (or not doing) in the last 7 or 8 years since I finally left grad school and entered the real world. Edumacation? Check. Career? Check. Investments? Check. Own a house? Check. No debt? Check. Personal life? Bzzzt.
So it seems I've done something wrong (or, at least, "not right"). It's not that I've not been on dates lately though obviously fewer than I'd like (I average maybe 2-3/month?). It's just that I seem to be no closer to finding "the one" than I was back in college. I've found it's much more difficult at 33 to meet new people than it was a few years ago when there were weekly or monthly parties and gatherings. Now that everybody has settled down, those gatherings are semi-annual and mainly attended by the same folks time and again.
I've also found that the singles I typically meet these days are with kid(s). I suppose this is to be expected and while it's not necessarily a deal-breaker, it certainly makes dating more complicated if only for logistics reasons.
Anyway, no real point to this post. Just venting. Carry on.
It's caused me to sit down and think about what I've been doing (or not doing) in the last 7 or 8 years since I finally left grad school and entered the real world. Edumacation? Check. Career? Check. Investments? Check. Own a house? Check. No debt? Check. Personal life? Bzzzt.
So it seems I've done something wrong (or, at least, "not right"). It's not that I've not been on dates lately though obviously fewer than I'd like (I average maybe 2-3/month?). It's just that I seem to be no closer to finding "the one" than I was back in college. I've found it's much more difficult at 33 to meet new people than it was a few years ago when there were weekly or monthly parties and gatherings. Now that everybody has settled down, those gatherings are semi-annual and mainly attended by the same folks time and again.
I've also found that the singles I typically meet these days are with kid(s). I suppose this is to be expected and while it's not necessarily a deal-breaker, it certainly makes dating more complicated if only for logistics reasons.
Anyway, no real point to this post. Just venting. Carry on.
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