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Ever considered pre-arranged marriages ??

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CTrain

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Anyhow, I not getting any younger(33 in August).
The problem is that I'm Asian(Vietnamese) but I grew up here and pretty much Americanized.
So most everyone I know is are non-Asian.

Ive pretty much ruled out marrying someone non-Asian.
1) I don't know if the culture diferences gonna work(too mmany divorces here)
2) My parents would be very disappointed.
3) Plus, I'm very attracted to Asian women.

I like to marry an Asian girl but I don't hang out with Asian, hence my problem.
Plus, I work so damm much now that I hardly go out anymore(hence I'm here)

Anyway, a few months ago, a cousin of mine went back to Vietnam and married some girl he was set-up with.
He brought back pictures and I was truely impressed. She was beautiful and educated.

It got me thinking that this is the best way for me to go.
My mom knows alot of peole back home and she can pretty much find me someone that I'll find incredibly attractive.
I'm a decent looking guy with a stable career so I can pretty much pick who ever I want.

The biggest PLUS about the situation is that I'll be able to have that sweet, wholesome wife that most guys are looking for.
The NEGATIVE is the time it'll take for us to know each other and my native language is not strong.

Anyone else ever thought about going this route ????
 
Whoa!
I thought the younger generation would be trying to talk the older one out of this practice, instead of the other way around.
 
Oldest YAGT ever. Anyways, being Irish, this hasn't come up. We prefer to meet our women during drinking games down at the pub.
 
weird.. im asian and raised around mostly non-asians and personally cant stand being around other asians hahahaha 😛

most of my firends and pass relationships are all non-asian 🙂 Though im been digging this one asian girl but shes adopted by white folks... go figure 🙂 hahaha.

anyways as for pre-arranged marriges... NO WAY!
 
Sure. Why not.

The traditional way isn't working any better, as evident by the divorce rate. Arranged marriage, on the other hand, tend to have better records.
 
NEVER, I repeat, NEVER go back to Vietnam and marry any of them because they marry you for the $$$. Trust me on this. I've seen too many Viet ppl like that. They want a hot wife to show off, but that is so wrong. They'll divorce you as soon as they got their citizenship. So stick with girls in America. There are plenty out there. You just have to make yourself available, meaning make time out of work to go have fun somewhere else.

btw, I'm Viet too 🙂
 
One of my 48 year old friend who married a nice lady from China about 8 years younger than him had a pre-arranged marriage. They have a five or six year old boy now. They are now in the process of getting a divorce...

 
I was kinda in the same situation, although I am younger than you. My mom wanted me to marry this girl from China. But then I went to med school and they found out I would be school for 4 more years and therefore poor as hell so the deal was off.
 
Originally posted by: SubZeroX
I was kinda in the same situation, although I am younger than you. My mom wanted me to marry this girl from China. But then I went to med school and they found out I would be school for 4 more years and therefore poor as hell so the deal was off.
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Lol, seems kinda shallow.
 
Seems a little desperate to me, instead of complaining about how you never get out why don't you quit posting and go meet some ladies? Why do you work so much? Start working less.
 
You know marrying for love is great and everything but when:

1) I don't hang around Asians and I like to have an Asian wife......thats kinda hard.
2) I work about 55-65 hrs a week and when I'm off work, I so tired that I just sit around the house and do nothing.

So with those 2 scenarios, I'll be hitting 40 before you know it and still be single.

I know about alot of these mail order brides that doesn't work out but I not talking about just finding some random girl.
Like I was saying my family still knows alot of people back home, and it'll be someone that my family knows her family sort of thing.

My 2 biggest fear in life:

1) Getting old and still with NO career
2) Getting old and still single and lonely

Just need to worry about #2 for right now.
 
Yes, actually, though not any time soon. Since I am only 22 and all, I always know that I have a backup.

My family is fairly traditional, both my dad's brothers got married through arranged marriages and they've worked. Though arranged marriages are a bit different in Japan cause it's more of the parents playing matchmaker than actually arranging anything.
 
Originally posted by: SubZeroX
I was kinda in the same situation, although I am younger than you. My mom wanted me to marry this girl from China. But then I went to med school and they found out I would be school for 4 more years and therefore poor as hell so the deal was off.
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lol, that's supposed to make you a better catch, so to say.
 
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