Elizabeth Edwards blasted for keeping husbands affair secret

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RALEIGH, North Carolina (AP) -- Two weeks after a devastating revelation sent her husband into political exile, Elizabeth Edwards isn't getting the steady sympathy usually afforded to a woman scorned.
Elizabeth Edwards, pictured with John Edwards in May, has been criticized for the way she handled his affair.

Elizabeth Edwards, pictured with John Edwards in May, has been criticized for the way she handled his affair.

Instead, she's faced criticism from dedicated Democrats who think she was too willing to keep the affair a secret to help John Edwards' political ambitions, as well as her own.

At a time when she was expected to hold a prominent role in pushing an agenda of improved health care for Americans, she stands silent. While fellow Democrats converge in Denver, Colorado, to nominate Barack Obama for president, Edwards remains in seclusion in North Carolina.

It seems an odd way to treat a woman with incurable cancer wronged by a cheating husband, the latest in a series of deep hardships in life that includes the death of a teenage son.

But some former followers have questioned the recklessness of keeping the affair under wraps even though her husband -- a former U.S. senator, two-time presidential candidate and the 2004 vice presidential nominee -- said he confessed the affair in 2006, before the campaign began in earnest the next year.

"I think she's complicit," said Brad Crone, a Raleigh-based Democratic consultant. "Obviously, she knew. While she's the victim, she clearly didn't stand in the way of the cover-up."

On a liberal blog that Elizabeth Edwards frequents, she explained why she stayed silent after her husband told her of the affair: "This was our private matter, and I frankly wanted it to be private because as painful as it was I did not want to have to play it out on a public stage as well."

Many people have come to know Elizabeth Edwards, 59, as a more forthright, revealing woman.

She wrote a memoir in 2007 that brought readers into the most wrenching moments of her life: the death of the couple's 16-year-old son and her 2004 breast cancer diagnosis. An attorney who worked in private practice and also taught at the University of North Carolina's law school, she first found out about the cancer the day after her husband and John Kerry lost their bid for the White House four years ago.

She has always had a passion for politics. Known for routinely writing about health care policy on the Internet, she has served as a visiting fellow at Harvard, where she held discussions with students and gave a speech after her husband dropped from the presidential race earlier this year. Presumptive Democratic presidential nominee Barack Obama said in June that he would be "partnering" with her on health care policy, and she was expected to serve as a campaign voice to challenge Republican candidate John McCain on the issue.

Yet during a visit to North Carolina two weeks after Edwards admitted to cheating on his wife, Obama didn't mention Elizabeth Edwards -- or her husband.

"It's a setback for both of them," said Chris Lehane, a Democratic consultant who helped President Clinton through his cheating scandal. "The question for her -- as well as for him -- is, what is their foundation? What gives them a platform to engage in public issues?

"Their big challenge is convincing people that they will continue to be active in politics and they're going to continue to have a voice."

In a post on the liberal blog Daily Kos, where Edwards has her own diary, she pleaded for privacy and later seemed to explain why she stuck by her spouse and his presidential ambitions.

"An imperfect man with a truly progressive vision who spoke to and for those whom others ignored? Yes, that is who I supported," she wrote. "An imperfect man who had come to face his own imperfections and was seeking to redeem himself to those closest to him? Yes, that is who I supported."

Some responded to the affair with words of kindness, while others angrily suggested that keeping the secret was no less a sin than the one committed by her philandering husband.

"She knew [he was running for] president with this bomb waiting to go off. She did. She kinda loses my sympathy," wrote one poster.

"I believe we are all owed a huge apology, not self-serving claims for pity by both John and Elizabeth Edwards, who both knew about the affair and both decided to go forward and seek the Democratic candidacy, regardless of the Titanic risk," wrote another.

Elizabeth Edwards is famously a denizen of the Internet. But she has not posted under her own name at Daily Kos since that day, nor has she posted anything on the Web site of the Center for American Progress, a liberal think tank in Washington where she writes about health care.

A spokeswoman for the center, Andrea Purse, said Elizabeth Edwards still has a job there but declined to comment further about her future role. Both Elizabeth and John Edwards have refused several requests for an interview.

Since her husband's admission, the only window into what Elizabeth Edwards has been thinking came from a People magazine interview with her brother and a close friend. They said she decided not to leave her husband in part because she is a mother of two young children fighting a cancer that has spread to her bone and cannot be cured.

"There was anguish -- excruciating anguish -- for her in dealing with this," Hargrave McElroy, a friend, told the magazine. "She was angry and furious and everything, but at one point she had to make a choice: Do I kick him out, or do we have a 30-year marriage that can be rebuilt?"

If the story was engineered to defend Edwards' decision, it has failed to create an outpouring of understanding.

"I thought it was very naive on both their parts," said Betsy Wells, who was an Edwards delegate at the Democratic convention four years ago and worked for each of his three campaigns for office. "It would be very sad if he were the nominee of our party right now."



Seriously....I am getting f'ing sick of the democratic party. The woman has cancer. She's lost a teenage son. Her husband fucked around behind her back. Do you think MAYBE she just wanted some privacy. Did people expect her to go to the press like 'hey guess what! I have cancer AND my husband's an adulterer!!" Fucking self-righteous democrats.
 

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On a liberal blog that Elizabeth Edwards frequents, she explained why she stayed silent after her husband told her of the affair: "This was our private matter, and I frankly wanted it to be private because as painful as it was I did not want to have to play it out on a public stage as well."

This is all that needs to be said. I hate people, I hate the media, and I hate people that want to put a political twist on EVERYTHING.
 

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From the OP's article, it just sounds like a few disappointed Edwards followers, who were probably too emotionally involved in hoping their man would get the VP pick, and not Democrats in general. Even so, there are idiots and assholes on both sides of the aisle.
As far as I am and have been concerned about this whole topic, the fact that Elizabeth chose not to speak out publicly against Edwards' affair made the entire issue a private matter that was none of our business entirely. Some people have open marriages, get over it.
 

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Originally posted by: Deeko
On a liberal blog that Elizabeth Edwards frequents, she explained why she stayed silent after her husband told her of the affair: "This was our private matter, and I frankly wanted it to be private because as painful as it was I did not want to have to play it out on a public stage as well."

This is all that needs to be said. I hate people, I hate the media, and I hate people that want to put a political twist on EVERYTHING.

People: Every presidential nominee gets picked apart and nothing is off-limits.

Media: Shock sells and this would sell. Just look at the attention the Wright story got and is still getting to a lesser degree.

Dems: WTH do you expect? The (D) party to parade John Edwards and his wife around the convention so the (R)'s can have a field day with them?
 

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Elizabeth Edwards blasted for keeping husbands affair secret

...has been criticized for the way she handled his affair.

Instead, she's faced criticism from dedicated Democrats who think she was too willing to keep the affair a secret to help John Edwards' political ambitions, as well as her own.

"I think she's complicit," said Brad Crone, a Raleigh-based Democratic consultant. "Obviously, she knew. While she's the victim, she clearly didn't stand in the way of the cover-up."

Etc Etc

^Unbe[fvcking]lievable.

I'd say more but I'm a conservative and nobody would care.

Fern

 

Deeko

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Originally posted by: Robor
Originally posted by: Deeko
On a liberal blog that Elizabeth Edwards frequents, she explained why she stayed silent after her husband told her of the affair: "This was our private matter, and I frankly wanted it to be private because as painful as it was I did not want to have to play it out on a public stage as well."

This is all that needs to be said. I hate people, I hate the media, and I hate people that want to put a political twist on EVERYTHING.

People: Every presidential nominee gets picked apart and nothing is off-limits.

Media: Shock sells and this would sell. Just look at the attention the Wright story got and is still getting to a lesser degree.

Dems: WTH do you expect? The (D) party to parade John Edwards and his wife around the convention so the (R)'s can have a field day with them?

You're missing the point. This article is about how she's labeled a terrible person for "hiding" his affair - she said it best, it's a private matter and none of their damn business, why in the hell would she rush to tell the world? Every person that thinks poorly of her over that is an asshole, bar none.
 

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and DomS uses Elizabeth Edwards in a attack on Democrats....

/self-righteous, indeed.....
 

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Originally posted by: Deeko
Originally posted by: Robor
Originally posted by: Deeko
On a liberal blog that Elizabeth Edwards frequents, she explained why she stayed silent after her husband told her of the affair: "This was our private matter, and I frankly wanted it to be private because as painful as it was I did not want to have to play it out on a public stage as well."

This is all that needs to be said. I hate people, I hate the media, and I hate people that want to put a political twist on EVERYTHING.

People: Every presidential nominee gets picked apart and nothing is off-limits.

Media: Shock sells and this would sell. Just look at the attention the Wright story got and is still getting to a lesser degree.

Dems: WTH do you expect? The (D) party to parade John Edwards and his wife around the convention so the (R)'s can have a field day with them?

You're missing the point. This article is about how she's labeled a terrible person for "hiding" his affair - she said it best, it's a private matter and none of their damn business, why in the hell would she rush to tell the world? Every person that thinks poorly of her over that is an asshole, bar none.

That may be true but when you're in a public position that's life. The same thing happens with celebs, star athletes, top level execs. With the wealth and fame go, well, this.
 

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Originally posted by: Robor

That may be true but when you're in a public position that's life. The same thing happens with celebs, star athletes, top level execs. With the wealth and fame go, well, this.

Oh I understand that it's the nature of the beast for it to go public. However, those that even consider chastising her for not making it public sooner need to think a little bit about their priorities, because clearly something is screwed up in their head.
 

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I'm a bit torn. Clearly she wanted privacy and I think she had no obligation to come forward and reveal the affair. BUT, I think by continuing to campaign and push for him when she knew about "the bomb" that she does earn some complicity.

Similar to when a lawyer knows his client has perjured himself on the stand. While he can't turn his client in for lying, he also can't knowingly use fradulent testimony in his closing statement/briefs. If Bitsy wanted privacy then she shouldn't have campaigned knowing that this smoking gun was out there waiting to be discovered. By actively participating on behalf of JE she helped try to nominate someone who could have destroyed any chance of a dem victory in nov had he won the nom. She played a dangerous game and got burned.

That said, leave the freaking woman alone now.
 

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She should have come out and announced her husband wasn't fit to be President. That piece of crap was running for the highest office in the land as a man too weak to keep his dick in his pants. We don't need any spineless worms for that position. President and character should go be intimately bonded together.
 

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Originally posted by: Moonbeam
She should have come out and announced her husband wasn't fit to be President. That piece of crap was running for the highest office in the land as a man too weak to keep his dick in his pants. We don't need any spineless worms for that position. President and character should go be intimately bonded together.

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Originally posted by: Vic
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From the OP's article, it just sounds like a few disappointed Edwards followers, who were probably too emotionally involved in hoping their man would get the VP pick, and not Democrats in general. Even so, there are idiots and assholes on both sides of the aisle.
As far as I am and have been concerned about this whole topic, the fact that Elizabeth chose not to speak out publicly against Edwards' affair made the entire issue a private matter that was none of our business entirely. Some people have open marriages, get over it.

more like the same disgruntled hillary supporters who claimed she would have won the nomination had edwards dropped out of iowa
 

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Laura Bush should come out and say that her piece of crap Husband is not fit to be President. She does not and that is a far greater sin even if, as far as we know, GWB is not cheating on Laura.

We the American people are really wacked out, if we think some adultry, is worse than being a serial liar, a mass murder, a total idiot, and the worse President in the history of the USA.
 

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Originally posted by: Moonbeam
She should have come out and announced her husband wasn't fit to be President.

Exactly what I was thinking when Michelle was giving her speech last night. ;)

Originally posted by: ElFenix
Originally posted by: Vic
Link?

From the OP's article, it just sounds like a few disappointed Edwards followers, who were probably too emotionally involved in hoping their man would get the VP pick, and not Democrats in general. Even so, there are idiots and assholes on both sides of the aisle.
As far as I am and have been concerned about this whole topic, the fact that Elizabeth chose not to speak out publicly against Edwards' affair made the entire issue a private matter that was none of our business entirely. Some people have open marriages, get over it.

more like the same disgruntled hillary supporters who claimed she would have won the nomination had edwards dropped out of iowa

Maybe but, I'm in contact with a hell of a lot of disgruntled Clinton supporters, on a regular basis, and I've never heard any of them lay any blame on Elizabeth.

John Edwards had an affair. John Edwards knew the story was out there and he chose to continue. Any blame related to this issue goes directly to John Edwards.

 

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At the end of the day, Bill Clinton has proved to be the far better President than GWB, his is almost the only public policy free of corruption administration since I do not know when, almost 100% of any Bill Clinton scandals involve his inability to keep his rocket in his pocket. But at the end of the day, if Hillary can find in her heart to forgive Bill and keep their marriage together, what business is of our ours?

As for me, if I ever cheated on my wife, I would be the next Bobbit. But the larger nation would little remember our divorce, or be outraged if my wife forgave me.
 

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Originally posted by: RY62
Originally posted by: Moonbeam
She should have come out and announced her husband wasn't fit to be President.

Exactly what I was thinking when Michelle was giving her speech last night. ;)

:roll: Your Troll avatar fits perfectly.

Originally posted by: RY62
Maybe but, I'm in contact with a hell of a lot of disgruntled Clinton supporters, on a regular basis, and I've never heard any of them lay any blame on Elizabeth.

John Edwards had an affair. John Edwards knew the story was out there and he chose to continue. Any blame related to this issue goes directly to John Edwards.

How convenient you blame the Edwards family on your queen's failed campaign. You people are pathetic.

 

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Originally posted by: Lemon law
At the end of the day, Bill Clinton has proved to be the far better President than GWB, his is almost the only public policy free of corruption administration since I do not know when, almost 100% of any Bill Clinton scandals involve his inability to keep his rocket in his pocket. But at the end of the day, if Hillary can find in her heart to forgive Bill and keep their marriage together, what business is of our ours?
Dude are you on drugs????

Louis Freeh FBI director under Clinton
?The problem was with Bill Clinton, the scandals and rumored scandals, the incubating ones and the dying ones never ended. Whatever moral compass the president was consulting was leading him in the wrong direction. His closets were full of skeletons just waiting to burst out.?
As for non sexual scandals:
The FBI files controversy
The travel office controversy
The campaign finance controversy
Henry Cisneros, Secretary of HUD, pleeding guilty to making false statements to Federal officials
Interior Secretary Bruce Babbitt's "major irregularities" involving indian casinos and campaign contributions to various Democrats
The possible selling of plane seats on international trade missions

He had one cabinet secretary pled guilty to a crime, one resign under indictment(later found innocent), one was investigated but not prosecuted due to insufficient evidence and one who died while under investigation.

And that is just a small part of them. Let's not forget White Water, the Rose Law firm records, Hillary's cattle futures problem etc etc etc.
 

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Originally posted by: Robor
Originally posted by: RY62
Maybe but, I'm in contact with a hell of a lot of disgruntled Clinton supporters, on a regular basis, and I've never heard any of them lay any blame on Elizabeth.

John Edwards had an affair. John Edwards knew the story was out there and he chose to continue. Any blame related to this issue goes directly to John Edwards.

How convenient you blame the Edwards family on your queen's failed campaign. You people are pathetic.

Can you read?

I cast no blame on the Edwards family for Senator Clinton's loss or for anything else. I said that I've not heard anyone blame Elizabeth for anything. John Edwards is to blame for his indiscretion and any fallout because of it.

 
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Originally posted by: Moonbeam
She should have come out and announced her husband wasn't fit to be President. That piece of crap was running for the highest office in the land as a man too weak to keep his dick in his pants. We don't need any spineless worms for that position. President and character should go be intimately bonded together.
Lol...you talking about Bill?

 

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Originally posted by: RY62
Originally posted by: Robor
Originally posted by: RY62
Maybe but, I'm in contact with a hell of a lot of disgruntled Clinton supporters, on a regular basis, and I've never heard any of them lay any blame on Elizabeth.

John Edwards had an affair. John Edwards knew the story was out there and he chose to continue. Any blame related to this issue goes directly to John Edwards.

How convenient you blame the Edwards family on your queen's failed campaign. You people are pathetic.

Can you read?

I cast no blame on the Edwards family for Senator Clinton's loss or for anything else. I said that I've not heard anyone blame Elizabeth for anything. John Edwards is to blame for his indiscretion and any fallout because of it.

Right. Go back and read the bolded portion above. You didn't say 'anyone', you said 'disgruntled Clinton supporters'. What do they have to do with the Edwards marital issues aside from the nomination race?

 

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Originally posted by: Robor
Originally posted by: RY62
Originally posted by: Robor
Originally posted by: RY62
Maybe but, I'm in contact with a hell of a lot of disgruntled Clinton supporters, on a regular basis, and I've never heard any of them lay any blame on Elizabeth.

John Edwards had an affair. John Edwards knew the story was out there and he chose to continue. Any blame related to this issue goes directly to John Edwards.

How convenient you blame the Edwards family on your queen's failed campaign. You people are pathetic.

Can you read?

I cast no blame on the Edwards family for Senator Clinton's loss or for anything else. I said that I've not heard anyone blame Elizabeth for anything. John Edwards is to blame for his indiscretion and any fallout because of it.

Right. Go back and read the bolded portion above. You didn't say 'anyone', you said 'disgruntled Clinton supporters'. What do they have to do with the Edwards marital issues aside from the nomination race?

Still can't read, huh? Did you even look to see why I mentioned disgruntled Clinton supporters? I was responding to the post where ElFenix said "more like the same disgruntled hillary supporters who claimed she would have won the nomination had edwards dropped out of iowa".

Don't try to put words in my mouth. If you can't keep up with the conversation, don't reply.

 

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Absolutely, and I didn't vote for him either, for that very reason. Just don't tell bamacre. :)
 

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Originally posted by: Lemon law
Laura Bush should come out and say that her piece of crap Husband is not fit to be President. She does not and that is a far greater sin even if, as far as we know, GWB is not cheating on Laura.

We the American people are really wacked out, if we think some adultry, is worse than being a serial liar, a mass murder, a total idiot, and the worst President in the history of the USA.
:confused: WTF does this have to do with GWB, or matters of scale?! I haven't seen anyone here, besides you, compare Edwards to GWB; so, as usual, your comment is entirely worthless. (shocker!)

There is more than one way to be a total scumbag and bring dishonor to the highest office in the land... just ask Bill Clinton! That man had corruption and adultery down to a science!!
 

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Originally posted by: RY62
Originally posted by: Robor
Right. Go back and read the bolded portion above. You didn't say 'anyone', you said 'disgruntled Clinton supporters'. What do they have to do with the Edwards marital issues aside from the nomination race?

Still can't read, huh? Did you even look to see why I mentioned disgruntled Clinton supporters? I was responding to the post where ElFenix said "more like the same disgruntled hillary supporters who claimed she would have won the nomination had edwards dropped out of iowa".

Don't try to put words in my mouth. If you can't keep up with the conversation, don't reply.

Uh, then WTF even mention blame and Edwards? If you want to say you didn't mean it that way sorry, I don't believe you. Either way, I don't care so go ahead and get in your last word.