Originally posted by: BigJ
Originally posted by: mobobuff
If the dimmer only has 3 terminals, it's a single pole switch. In that case wire both black wires coming into the wall box to the two terminals, cap the red wire, and connect the ground.
This is fine. Just to clarify, cap the red wire that is coming into the box, not the red wire on the dimmer.
Since you don't see a white (neutral) wire in the wall box where you want to put the dimmer, this means that that switch is "past" the light in the wire run, so it goes FIRST SWITCH > LIGHT > SECOND SWITCH.The black wire NOT connected to the COM terminal of the current switch will now be your neutral. You say the dimmer has a red wire, black wire, and ground wire. So your neutral should go to red, COM to black, and ground is normal. If you have to wire it this way, you'll have to leave the first switch on all the time (unless you remove the first switch completely, cap the two black wires together, and cap off the other end of the red wire (make sure you still have a ground connection)).
I'm pretty tired and my wiring knowledge is a bit rusty so you might want to wait for a confirmation.
This is where I lost you. Where did a neutral come into play? The black COM is going to be the wire hooked up to the other switch, and the other black is going to be the load line for the light. The non-traveler black is supplying power, it is not a neutral.
Incandescent light switches in residential applications almost never have neutral lines hooked up to them. On top of that, you don't use a black wire as a neutral, end of conversation. Even if it is a white wire marked as a hot with black electrical tape, it's still not hooked up to neutral system and will not function as one.
To expand on what mobobuff said to completely override the other switch and just have the dimmer control the light:
With the first switch (the one you're not replacing). Take the line Black (the one that's not the black traveler) and hook it up to just the black COM (black traveler).
Then on the switch you're replacing, hook up the black COM line to the black wire, and hook up the other black wire to your red wire, which is going out to the light.
What you're essentially doing is just completely ignoring the first switch (it will not have any power going to it, and will not have any switching) and just having a straight wire run to your new switch.