**EDIT: Sort of General girlfriend questions.**

Degenerate

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What are some indications that a girl like you?
Why do boy's seem like the one who is always the one to ask some one out first and not the other way around.
What is a good, small gift.

If a girl I like seem to show no sign whether she likes me or not, is she playing hard to get or just that she dosent like me. I am only 16, never dated with anyone. Look, she is only 14, she asks me for help for some of her some work questions. I always said nice things to her but not so much that it is soo clear that am trying to get. You know, i just talk to her as if she was a good friend - yet nice. We never disagreed on anything really. Somtimes she says nice things but not often. (well she dosent say bad things either) She goes to a different school. I know i am not giving much information but can anyone contribute to this?

Something about myself would be nice. I am in 12th grade, I love cooking gardening or what ever guys dont usually do. I do well at school (I mean I top the school in 5 of the 6 subjects i do). From this I suppos you can tell i dont have much of a social life. To be honest, i dont know many girls at all (That mean I can count them using the fingers on ONE hand :p) - The one i am talking about is probably the only one i know well. Even that, i still dont knoe 95% of her. I went to a school dance once and I HATED every second of it. It isnt that girls just stay away from me or anything, it is that i dont approach them. I mean i see some of my friends go to parties or something but I can never understand the fun of a party.

Well well... thats about all.

P.s. I am NOT bad looking. Actually i dont think low about myself AT ALL. I feel just about KICK @$$ every day.
 

damiano

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didn't read all your post cuz it' too long...

but I think that you asking this here is a bad sign for you and your chances of getting a girlfriend...

 

Degenerate

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hehe.. indeed it could.
anyway i am off to sleep, it is 1.30am here, no schoool tomorrow though :)
 

LuNoTiCK

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Thats a long post. She might just think of you as a friend and nothing more. I dont think it's good to make the first move on a girl like that.
 

Pepsei

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if they laugh at your jokes...

and only way that'll happen is if you're 1) good looking enough that they'll laugh at everything you said even if not funny
2) avg. looking enough + very funny personality.

doesn't work if you're 1) fatty 2) ugly or both.
 

notfred

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We need a "no annoying high school kids who are afraid of girls and still, by 16, haven't learned basic English grammar" policy here.

edit: "I mean I top the school in 5 of the 6 subjects i do" That sixth subject is English, right?
 

samgau

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There is no need to pick on the youngin... ;) well not too much anyway...

How about you ask her to go to a movie or 2... let her pick the flick though... so then you'll get to know her a little better and probably you'll get a better idea if she likes you that way or no... do you know if she already has a bf or no? also.. don't monopolize the conversation... girls hate that...

anyway.. good luck
 

no0b

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Originally posted by: notfred
We need a "no annoying high school kids who are afraid of girls and still, by 16, haven't learned basic English grammar" policy here.

edit: "I mean I top the school in 5 of the 6 subjects i do" That sixth subject is English, right?

At least he used paragraphs and not just a huge block of text.
 

SaltBoy

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Hey, give the guy a break with his grammar -- it looks like from his profile that he's probably not a native English speaker.

Anyway, Degenerate, all I can say is when a girl likes you, you will know it. Perhaps the biggest sign that I've seen that will let you know is when she tries to find an excuse to hang around you, even if what you're doing is not that interesting. That's all I can think of right now. Good luck!
 

Pepsei

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Originally posted by: notfred
We need a "no annoying high school kids who are afraid of girls and still, by 16, haven't learned basic English grammar" policy here.

edit: "I mean I top the school in 5 of the 6 subjects i do" That sixth subject is English, right?
what are you? a grammar nazi? Why is it that we have one or two on every forum.
geez... correcting everyone as if you're a better person.

sorry, it's just one of my pet peeves.
 

MiniGolfIsFun

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To me, I don't see any real way to tell if a girl likes me or not. But what I have learned is that sometimes you'll just have to take the risk and go for it unless you're willing to remain in the dreaded Friends Zone.
 

Koing

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Originally posted by: notfred
We need a "no annoying high school kids who are afraid of girls and still, by 16, haven't learned basic English grammar" policy here.

edit: "I mean I top the school in 5 of the 6 subjects i do" That sixth subject is English, right?

:p

Well if she touches you then she likes you. If she talks about sex and more private things with you then shes likes you more. But at 14 I don't think she'll be talking about sex with you, but I could be wrong.

If this girl calls you to speak with you then she likes you. A girl doesn't call for no perticular reason unless shes asking you to do something for her. If shes asking you to come over and fix her pc and not just make chit chat then its not good in general.

Here is your friend. Lots of advice and such.

Just ask her out somewhere. Movies, skating, or anywhere. I'd suggest the bars and clubs but your 16 and shes 14 and I don't think her parents would like you taking her to bars and clubs at her age.

Most important thing to learn is this IMO: Confidence. If you have this then you will have no problems with hooking up to girls. But trust me you will be burnt a few times before you know what to do. i sure have.....but life goes on mate. You learn that one quick.
 

Hammer

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I don't know I can just tell when I'm talking to a girl. I don't really think about it, I just know. Maybe I'm picking up on the body language or her attitude.
 

Degenerate

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Ohh... Morning has come. I really can't tell at all whether she like me or not. If i do ask her to a movie or something and she says no, do most girls break it off right there? As in, would she just completly ignore me?

The problem i think i have is that i dont know many people at all. Mabey that is why would just hate if she says no. Anyway, thanks for your contributions.

notfred, Yeah, enghish is my 6th subject. I probably spend twice as much time on my english assignments than other people. I can't help it.
 

erikiksaz

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Well, from the limited information, and from what i know, i don't think she was giving off any signs- otherwise, flirting. I'm pretty sure that you would know if she's flirting. At this point, if you're getting happy over a conversation, i have a feeling that you'd pee in your pants if she did flirt with you :p
 

JohnCU

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You just know when a girl likes you. You can just kinda tell in the way she talks/acts/ all that.
 

fatbaby

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Originally posted by: Ameesh
age 16 and in 12th grade? you skip a couple of grades?

Err, that is possible...Say you were born in july 1986, entered school at age 4, 4+12(1st grade through senior year)=16

So he probably is about to turn 17.

P.s. I am NOT bad looking. Actually i dont think low about myself AT ALL. I feel just about KICK @$$ every day.

eh?

Assuming you really are a senior, even if you get into a relationship with a freshy, it is bound to fail, for in a few months, ur in college, she's barely a sophmore
 

Degenerate

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Oh OH!.. my bad.. :0 What did i type. I am 17, just turned 17. She is 14. My bday is 30th April 1985

what is a "sophmore"
 

xirtam

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Sophmore = sophomore = 10th grade = 2nd year of high school.

Hey, I feel your pain. Here's a tell-tale sign.

If you ask her whether or not she likes you, and she says, "Yes, as a friend," she hates your guts.

If you ask her whether or not she likes you, and she says, "No," she really means it.

If you ask her whether or not she likes you, and she says, "Let me think about it," start looking for another girl.

If you ask her whether or not she likes you, and she says, "Yes," then she likes you... today, anyway.
 

Degenerate

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mm.. sometime though, girls hate to let anyone feel bad. If they dont like you , or just a friends, they try to tell you it in such a way that it might take all the AT'ers computers to decript. The secret language of girls are just like that.
 

Degenerate

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A bit of a bump before i go to sleep. last of the exams to finish off. At'er's can help me a bit more here. :)