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Schadenfreude

Lifer
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Okay people, I have a lil' situation here, nothing bad by any means, but hear me out:

I'm in a gen-ed class where we have midterms this week (10/8-10/12) and I met a girl in class. She seems interested, and I asked her to study, which we did, and everything went fine - I'm not asking for what to do, but when to do it. Well, she said that she's swamped with midterms this week, and I'm generally a busy person, (But I'm willing to make an exception for her). I want to ask her to dinner, but when? I can't ask her to go this week, since it's "fall break" (friday off - sonsovbitches call that "Fall Break" - anyhow, back to topic), so it obviously has to be later.

Well, I think she's interested (we have that prolonged contact, she blushes [like a baby] when I talk to her sometimes, smiling, etc.) and I didn't bring anything up about dating or anything during study, so she said she'd call if she had "Questions about the exam". But do I ask her to have dinner/lunch with me next week now, or should I wait until later? I'm thinking it's kinda creepy to ask her this early (dunno why honestly, but I'd be creeped out if some chick asked me to dinner for next week now), but at the same time, I don't really want to wait. I'm leaning towards the "wait it out" option - I'll get to see her later, and we can just chat or something.

And one more thing, for you pessimists out there, even if she says no, I won't feel too bad - I think she's almost "out of my league" - she's too damn gorgeous! :D
 
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gotsmack

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ask her out to lunch one day. if she can't spare 1 or 2 hours for lunch then she's not interested.
 
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Schadenfreude

Lifer
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Um, I'm 21 and she's 20. Yeah.
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kherman

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next time you see her, you should suggest that you go out to see a movie after finals to get your moinds off of things.
 
alexruiz

alexruiz

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I am in no way an expert. If you have sensed that she doesn?t dislike you ask her NOW to go out for lunch/dinner when she is available.

Good luck!

Alex
A fellow dork ;)
 
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Lifer
Dec 28, 2001
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Hmm . . . I'm getting a lot of "ask her now"s . . .. I was thinking I should ask her to lunch (this week) first to thank her for "helping" me out with the study session (I just copied her notes), and then to dinner. Of course, me and my roommates are throwing a party next weekend, so I could invite her to that as well
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Schadenfreude

Lifer
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Originally posted by: baffled2
Whew !!! I'm not a dork, so I'm off the hook as far as giving advice goes :)
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Then you're just mean for not giving advice! Damn you!:)

Oh, and for the people who voted "she's going to say no anyway" - thanks a lot, jerkfaces.:p
 
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Lifer
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But now I'm wondering if I'm moving too fast - she seemed taken aback a little when I asked her to study . . . hmm, I wonder if I am/ but then again, am I overanalyzing?

. . . :confused:
 
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Maverick

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don't ask her to dinner for a first date...ask her out for coffee or lunch. Dinner should always be the 2nd date...girls find coffee or lunch non-threatening for some reason.
 
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fastz28

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Just ask her now. It's not too early to ask now for next week. In fact, this shows that you are a busy person and need to plan out your social life weeks in advance. ;)

Also, if she's interested, she'll make time to go out with you. You said so yourself:

and I'm generally a busy person, (But I'm willing to make an exception for her).
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This is a great test to see her interest level.
 
Kadarin

Kadarin

Lifer
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Whatever the outcome, ask her now, and if she's interested, she'll make time now, or let you know she'll be available later. If you don't ask, she'll probably assume you're not interested, and you'll slide headfirst into "the friend zone(TM)"..
 
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Lifer
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Originally posted by: Shiva112
don't ask her to dinner for a first date...ask her out for coffee or lunch. Dinner should always be the 2nd date...girls find coffee or lunch non-threatening for some reason.
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Yeah - I thought dinner was rather too quick - I'm going to ask her to coffee after the exam tomarrow. And then maybe dinner later next week.

Oh, and 9 votes for "she's going to say no anyway"?! Geez, how many jerkfaces are on these boards?
(I should stab them . . ..) ;)
 

This is just too funny. Jehovah, I so remembered your girl question long time ago about a Japanese chick who was supposedly sending you mixed signals. Too funny after all of your promises to finally ask her out as suggested by others, you "chickened out". LOL!

Anyway, it's up to you when to ask a lady out. As someone already suggested, there's no formula to it: If a woman is really interested in you, she'll make room for you. The same is true if a guy is interested in a lady. If she cannot make room for you, then your whole waiting period to contemplate when to ask her out would be a waste of time. So, to keep it simple: Ask when you yourself can make space for the event. Also create a substitute date in case she says it won't work. If she says she's too busy on that date and the alternative date but offers nothing to substitute for that, then she's really not interested in the date. If however she does respond that she's busy but can make room some other time with specific date and time given at that moment, then she is at least a bit interested. But if you yourself are not willing to make room for the convenient time she picks, then you really aren't serious either.

Take a cue. . . . ;)
 
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Lifer
Dec 28, 2001
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Originally posted by: luvly
This is just to funny. Jehovah, I so remembered your girl question long time ago about a Japanese chick who was supposedly sending you mixed signals. Too funny after all of your promises to finally ask her out as suggested by others, you "chickened out". LOL!

Anyway, it's up to you when to ask a lady out. As someone already suggested, there's no formula to it: If a woman is really interested in you, she'll make room for you. The same is true if a guy is interested in a lady. If she cannot make room for you, then your whole waiting period to contemplate when to ask her out would be a waste of time. So, to keep it simple: Ask when you yourself can make space for the event. Also create a substitute date in case she says it won't work. If she says she's too busy still on that date and the alternative date but offers nothing to substitute for that, then she's really not interested in the date. If however she does respond that she's busy but can make room some other time with specific date and time given at that moment, then she is at least a bit interested. But if you yourself are not willing to make room for the convenient time she picks, then you really aren't serious either.

Take a cue. . . . ;)
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:eek:

Yeah, lemmie tell ya - the scariest (and the best) things in the world are women. :)
 
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Schadenfreude

Lifer
Dec 28, 2001
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WOW MA I BAD AT TAKING HINTS.

Erm, sorry for the caps. Apparently, she has a boyfriend. I only found out after I asked her to coffee
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. Damn.
 
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