You'll have to find that out for the mobo. ECC is always optional, AFAIK, and may be on registered or unbuffered DIMMs.
For some chipsets, you'll have the option. I don't know if new Xeon ones are that way, but older ones were, as was the AMD 76x.
Now, though, with the rest of technology reaching par with servers, registered RAM, ECC support, and other such things (multi-CPU, FI) are being used as a dividing line. However, there are exceptions all over the place for single-CPU server/workstation boards, so w/o knowing what you have or are getting, it's hard to say.