While I don't feel my wife should be olbigated to do those things, if you take the general concept of what she's asking--put your spouse ahead of yourself (NOTE: works both ways--you both should do that) then things will be happy at home. You do something that makes the spouse happy, in turn they are likely to do something to make you happy. Makes things exponentially better when both parties act that way. But, if you take the first step and they just take advantage--well:
Unfortunately, it gets really bad one one person thinks they are doing more than the other, and usually the other feels the same way. And suddenly nobody is doing anything. Bad times. Go back to step 1, hopefully the SO steps it up this time. Someones gotta take the first step though.