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Don't know how to diffuse this situation

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RedPickle

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OK, well I am a college student living off campus with 3 other guys. We generally share everything in the house. I am the most laid back guy and easiest going in the house. Recently I have been mopping and cleaning everything, because I don't want to live in a mess. So today I decide to cook a nice meal for myself and some friends of mine(not housemates). Before I start, the sink is FILLED to the top with dirty dishes and utensils. So we clean everything and get to cooking. Keep in mind that i paid for and cooked the entire meal. Now I offer my housemates some food and they gladly accept. I would have thought, since I paid for everything, cooked, and even cleaned their dishes, that the least they could do is help clean when they are done. Fast foward to tonight. I get a call from one of them asking when I would be back to clean the dishes. I have had enough. I never get offered anything from them. Food, even when they are making it right in front of me, or even car pooling to school when we have THE SAME CLASS together. I feel like I have been too easy going and I want to do something about it. People have offered to come over and "beat the crap out of these kids". I don't want anything close to that. I would like to be as least confrontational as possible. How can I tell my housemates that I am pissed off about this and have some positive results? I just don't know what to do. Please help.
 
You never should have taken to cleaning the dishes in the first place...you've established yourself as the maid. Start moving their dirty dishes from the sink to the middle of their bedroom floor.
 
Originally posted by: Isshinryu
You never should have taken to cleaning the dishes in the first place...you've established yourself as the maid. Start moving their dirty dishes from the sink to the middle of their bedroom floor.
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I understand that, but I need clean dishes for myself to eat and cook with. I know this seems like a stupid issue, but it means a lot to me. They clean up after themselves, just not all the time. I got pissed off when all of a sudden they CALL me up out of nowhere to ask me to clean after cooking and buying food for them.
 
Originally posted by: RedPickle
Originally posted by: Isshinryu
You never should have taken to cleaning the dishes in the first place...you've established yourself as the maid. Start moving their dirty dishes from the sink to the middle of their bedroom floor.
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I understand that, but I need clean dishes for myself to eat and cook with. I know this seems like a stupid issue, but it means a lot to me. They clean up after themselves, just not all the time. I got pissed off when all of a sudden they CALL me up out of nowhere to ask me to clean after cooking and buying food for them.
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I'm just telling you how I delt with the situation. It took about three days before they started cleaning after every use.
 
I had a similar issue with my roommate awhile back.

I suggested that we just wash dishes as soon as we're done using them... since then, I wash my dishes as soon as I'm done using them. if he lets his own dishes pile up in the sink, that's his issue.
 
Originally posted by: loki8481
I had a similar issue with my roommate awhile back.

I suggested that we just wash dishes as soon as we're done using them... since then, I wash my dishes as soon as I'm done using them. if he lets his own dishes pile up in the sink, that's his issue.
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Yea we tried that. I end up being the only one that washes after myself. If no one else washes their things ( pots and pans included), I can't use anything. I realize I must put a stop to this. But how?
 
Originally posted by: loki8481
I had a similar issue with my roommate awhile back.

I suggested that we just wash dishes as soon as we're done using them... since then, I wash my dishes as soon as I'm done using them. if he lets his own dishes pile up in the sink, that's his issue.
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+1
 
Originally posted by: TechnoKid
paper plates and plastic sporks. buy at costco for maximum value.
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Haha. my roommate actually washes plastic spoons to resuse even though we have more real spoons then we ever use up.
 
Originally posted by: z0mb13
do you have dishwasher??
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LOL, I go to school in Binghamton, NY, one of the poorest cities in America. The houses are practically all crumbling. Nope, no dishwasher. Thats for the higher class. I am a mere college student.

I just might end up using paper plates and bowls. I just want to see if I can fix the situation. I still have to use pots and pans🙁.
 
Clean the pots and pans one last time, make enough food to last as week, package it up and microwavable cartons... let them solve the dirty dishes problem. Makre sure your stash is safe.
 
Originally posted by: PhasmatisNox
Clean the pots and pans one last time, make enough food to last as week, package it up and microwavable cartons... let them solve the dirty dishes problem. Makre sure your stash is safe.
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Hehe, best solution yet. However, I'm just too nice of a kid and I would rather say something to them. I just don't know how to do it without being overly confrontational. Afterall I have to live with these guys another 8 months. 🙁
 
Originally posted by: Anubis
Originally posted by: RedPickle
Originally posted by: Anubis
did you buy the dishes and pots? if so take them all away and hide them
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Shared costs.
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take them away anyway
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How about I just build a kitchen in my own room? Haha, taking them away will only make things in the house worse. I love ATOT though, you guys really know how to cheer me up.
 
Originally posted by: AgaBooga
Write a letter to them, seriously
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That sounds like a good idea. Actually I think I may go and do that. I won't get uncontrollably mad and I can be fairly reasonable about things. AgaBooga you are a genius my friend. Now what to write in the damn letter...
 
Originally posted by: RedPickle
Originally posted by: AgaBooga
Write a letter to them, seriously
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That sounds like a good idea. Actually I think I may go and do that. I won't get uncontrollably mad and I can be fairly reasonable about things. AgaBooga you are a genius my friend. Now what to write in the damn letter...
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Dear Roommates,

Clean the fvcking dishes yourself you lazy sons of bitches! :|:|

Yours Truly,

RedPickle
 
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