Does this kind of family member sound familiar? Very kind, well meaning but...

[Locut0s]

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[yh125d]

Not really. My uncle is "that" guy, but he doesn't have good intentions and doesn't make any effort to be kind. He will do everything in his power to make everyone in the family bend to his will and if you don't, he'll more or less disown you.

For example, he's been church of christ his whole life. My parents raised me and my brothers in a baptist or nazarene church, but we always considered ourselves non-denominational. When my oldest brother was looking for colleges, he decided on a private baptist school (not at all to do with them being baptist, they just had a good business program). My uncle offered to pay my brothers -entire- tuition and living expenses to go to a different, private church of christ school with a bad business program. My brother of course did what he wanted, and now my uncle doesnt talk to him much these days, and when he does he's very patronizing and condescending.

now, about 6 years later that same brother joined the air force (something my uncle is very proud of, being a 16 year retired USAF colonel himself). He had his college degree but his GPA hadn't been quite high enough to go straight into officer training school (my uncle started as an officer as he was ROTC). But my brother wouldnt have done so anyways, he wanted to enlist and work his way up to officer rank (anyone who knows much about the military can acknowledge the diff between auto-officer and enlisted-officer). When my uncle learned of this he was furious! So my bro goes to basic, and writes letters home. He has always been an amazing blog writer and very humorous to read anything of his. Of course through the emotional bullshit that is BMT he keeps his sanity by writing these funny blogletters home. In a couple letters he uses some light profanity (mostly quoting other members of his flight/TIs). When my uncle reads them he becomes even more furious! He decides to write him a letter to show him the error of his ways. So while my brother is in the 3rd week of BMT, homesick, physically exhausted, mentally exhausted and emotionally torn, my uncle writes him a letter basically telling him how crass and vulgar his letters are, how he wont read an other letters from him and wont continue writing him, and told him how ashamed and embarassed he was by his behavior. This, well, aggravates our family. He gets told off by my mother, aunt, grandparents, etc, and he responds by telling my mother how shitty a job she has done by raising a son like him, how embarassed he is to have him as a nephew, etc.

He has an enormous unfounded contempt for my father. Basically he views my father as mooching off my mother and her family for 25 years before they got divorced (which is absolutely absurd). When I decided to follow in my fathers (and paternal uncle and grandfathers) footsteps by becoming a draftsman, he just stopped speaking to me (seriously, he hasnt said a word to me the past two christmases or thanksgiving. Not even hello or goodbye)


Such is life.

 

[JoLLyRoGer]

OMG you know my cousins!

 

[biggestmuff]

No, but I have a family member who thinks everyone is trying to one up him. He thinks others are shallow, nosy and condescending. He seems to have a low self worth and believes that others see him that way.





Sound like anyone you know?

 

[kranky]

Nobody in my family is condescending or brags about accomplishments because none of us has any basis to do so.

 

[moshquerade]

every body, and i mean every body has some controversy/drama/snobbery/assholes/drunks/jerks/selfish bastards, etc., in their family. there are only two reasons this would not be true.
1. You have no family or have like a very very very small family and you lucked out that the few of you are normal
OR
2. You are it.