Does missing and thinking of someone day and night necessarily mean anything?

[Hoeboy]

Long story short, I stopped talking to someone 2 months back. My impatience along with some misunderstanding ruined a totally great friendship that could have sprung into something else. Since then I told myself that she means nothing and I'll get over her. But each day I think about her more and more. Now I find myself going to bed and waking up thinking about her. And constantly throughout the day I would ask myself, "Where did I go wrong?" There's so much sh*t between us that I'm not sure if we can ever even talk again, yet I still can't kick this feeling.

I refused to believe in love, but this feeling isn't the typical crush/infactuation that I've felt. I'm lost. I've kept this burden inside for awhile and it's killing me. I don't know if I should try to keep holding it inside and hope time do it's things, or what.

This is more of a ramble than a question post but advice are appreciated. Thanks.

 

[bigrash]

if you really need to talk to her, then maybe you should....if you feel it's not the right time now to talk to her, then you might wanna wait and think about it in the meantime.

 

[Insanitation]

With all sincerity, just give her a call. If it doesn't work out and you can't patch things up, then so be it. At least you tried.

 

[Siva]

Tell her how you feel, let her know that she is important to you and whatever you did make sure she knows you are sorry for it (and even if you aren't sorry, you are ). If she is on your mind that much you should at least call her, you'll definately regret it if you just let her get away.

 

[Elledan]

It sounds like you're one of the 'fortunate' people who have this program activated which causes/increases the production of many hormones and increases the activity of certain processes in the brain. This causes the state of mind which is commonly called 'love'.

If you won't allow interference of your conscious in the execution of this program, the next logical step would be to try to make clear to the selected female that you've no harmless intentions and would like to become more than just 'friends'. In this case, be prepared for many hardships and do consider your steps carefully, else your mission is doomed and you'll have to face up to the withdrawings-effects once the program has been aborted.

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

<< Does missing and thinking of someone day and night necessarily mean anything? >>

enfatuation? (sp?)

 

[Toolman]

You tried dating someone else? Try getting involved with something that you really enjoy and see if she still occupies your thots so much. If ya can't shake her, give her a call.

 

[Hoeboy]

Well one of the reasons why it all went downhill was because I was impatient on waiting until it develops into something more than friendship. She knew from the start that I was interested in more than just being friends. She rejected me at first because of her ex and mistrust in guys. But as time progresses we got closer and closer. But because of one misunderstanding, all my efforts went down the drain. I'm a pretty shy person so even if I call her up, I wouldn't know what to say.

I'm a pretty picky person. I mean I don't knitpick every single details but it's hard for me to like someone. It's been over 4-5 years since I really liked anyone. It's just not the same when you look at other girls after you like this one so much. It's like nothing can compare despite the many flaws you recognize in her. And noooooo please don't say it's &quot;l*ve.&quot; I don't like that word

 

[hopefloats]

Hoeboy, you sounded so sad. You are being haunted because you feel the situation is unresolved. Follow the advice the guys have given you, and call her or even email her, then follow-up in a day or two with a phone call. Tell her exactly what you told us. Emotional honesty earns a lot of respect with most women and you really shouldn?t carry this around with you for much longer without trying to resolve it.

 

[konichiwa]

Elledan never ceases to amaze me.

 

[Elledan]

konichiwa, read the quote in my signature if you hate to be amazed every time I post something

 

[pamchenko]

if she rejected you, what's to change her impression of you? I know you miss her, call her though so you don't get all depressed and stuff...seriously, do NOT get depressed over a girl. However, I wouldn't have high expectations since you were rejected once already.
I agree with toolman, but I'm sure you're only thinking about this unworthy girl.

 

[Azraele]

Definately tell her how you feel. You obviously have not entirely closed that chapter of your life, and it will not be closed until you've had your say. Who knows, she may be thinking of you too. From what it sounds like, you have nothing to lose by trying.

 

[Azraele]

<<I'm a pretty shy person so even if I call her up, I wouldn't know what to say. >>

Tell her your regrets, your feelings, your thoughts. Ask her to hear you out before she says anything. If you're afraid of forgetting, jot it down on paper before calling her.

 

[GoldenTiger]

For all you know, she's the exact same way, thinking about you... give it a shot. It can't hurt anything more than it is alreayd, and if it works, it works... if it doesn't well, you're back to square one .

 

[Scrapster]

I wouldn't do anything. If you guys run into eachother then sure you can talk and maybe build on that. But she's certainly not going to just be there everytime you are feeling lonely.