zinfamous
No Lifer
- Jul 12, 2006
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Do the voices in my head count?
Seriously...my closest friends (whom I've maintained for 15 or so years now) live scattered aroudn the country. We keep in touch through annual visits or when we all return home at the same time...usually X-mas. none of them really do online stuff like gaming, or post in forums regualarly (that I'm aware of), so we maintain contact over phone, email, or visits. The few friends and aquantainces that I made while being in Chicago (~4 years now) have mostly moved away...I'm at an age where I just don't feel like making new close friends...mayeb when I head back to school in about 2 years. The people I work with and around aren't the type I'd make friends with (generation differences and major personality/interest differences)...so I'm getting kinda used to being on my own in the big city, and maintaining contact with others superficially. Have my GF here so...don't rally need much more.
Honestly though...I know it isn't easy to accept it, but it really shouldn't matter if you'r eat a bar alone, or go check out a movie on yoiur own. Believe ti or not, most girls (the ones that are worth any salt and not merely social whores) will dig dudes that show up at a bar or club on their own. How do new people that move into a town meet others anyway? It depends on personality. And seriously...jsut be comfortable with who you are. Go to a bar and tell chicks that you're hanging out on your own. (telling them that you have zero friends may be a turn-off...but hey, honesty really is the biggest thing.) As long as your comfortable with yourself, that's what matters to 98% of women--and dudes for that matter. The few others are idiots.
Seriously...my closest friends (whom I've maintained for 15 or so years now) live scattered aroudn the country. We keep in touch through annual visits or when we all return home at the same time...usually X-mas. none of them really do online stuff like gaming, or post in forums regualarly (that I'm aware of), so we maintain contact over phone, email, or visits. The few friends and aquantainces that I made while being in Chicago (~4 years now) have mostly moved away...I'm at an age where I just don't feel like making new close friends...mayeb when I head back to school in about 2 years. The people I work with and around aren't the type I'd make friends with (generation differences and major personality/interest differences)...so I'm getting kinda used to being on my own in the big city, and maintaining contact with others superficially. Have my GF here so...don't rally need much more.
Honestly though...I know it isn't easy to accept it, but it really shouldn't matter if you'r eat a bar alone, or go check out a movie on yoiur own. Believe ti or not, most girls (the ones that are worth any salt and not merely social whores) will dig dudes that show up at a bar or club on their own. How do new people that move into a town meet others anyway? It depends on personality. And seriously...jsut be comfortable with who you are. Go to a bar and tell chicks that you're hanging out on your own. (telling them that you have zero friends may be a turn-off...but hey, honesty really is the biggest thing.) As long as your comfortable with yourself, that's what matters to 98% of women--and dudes for that matter. The few others are idiots.
fatpat268
Diamond Member
- Jan 14, 2006
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I have very few friends myself... if any at all.
Throughout middle school and High school, I had a ton of friends, but it all kinda fell apart. My best friend moves away in my junior year, without even saying goodbye. After I graduated high school, a majority of my friends went to university, while I got stuck going to community college.
A few close friends went with me to community college, but they kinda branched away... and I have the one friend who only calls me if he needs something.
It's pretty tough making friends at my college, because this is primarily a military town, and I have very little in common with all of the GIs, military wives, and ex military people. Eh whatever, I'm doing fine though.
Throughout middle school and High school, I had a ton of friends, but it all kinda fell apart. My best friend moves away in my junior year, without even saying goodbye. After I graduated high school, a majority of my friends went to university, while I got stuck going to community college.
A few close friends went with me to community college, but they kinda branched away... and I have the one friend who only calls me if he needs something.
It's pretty tough making friends at my college, because this is primarily a military town, and I have very little in common with all of the GIs, military wives, and ex military people. Eh whatever, I'm doing fine though.
AnandTech is your friend :-D
I honestly don't hang out with my friends regularly I see em once or twice on the weekend and that's about it. It's different here in California when I moved it was hard getting used to now being able to go outside and ring my friends door bell and seeing if he wants to "play". since i moved here I've been staying inside more than I used to which is how I got into computers btw first I started playing "counter-strike" than I needed a new comp so I started looking into pc's shortly finding AnandTech and the fact that you can build your own computer with good hardware for a cheaper price. I guess it's kinda a bad thing or a good thing depeding on how you look at it.
I honestly don't hang out with my friends regularly I see em once or twice on the weekend and that's about it. It's different here in California when I moved it was hard getting used to now being able to go outside and ring my friends door bell and seeing if he wants to "play". since i moved here I've been staying inside more than I used to which is how I got into computers btw first I started playing "counter-strike" than I needed a new comp so I started looking into pc's shortly finding AnandTech and the fact that you can build your own computer with good hardware for a cheaper price. I guess it's kinda a bad thing or a good thing depeding on how you look at it.
I used to have tons of friends back in HS but the number gradually decreased as I went thru college. I did not make any friends in college probably because I was bonded strongly to my group of friends from HS. Now into the 5th year of the college life, I have about 2 people left that I could call or rely on as friends. One of them is like more than brother to me. Another one is like good ole' friend who will be always around. I guess time tells you the truth.
My theory is that no matter how hard you try or how much time you spend together with the person, if your personalities or beliefs dont meet, you wont able to form a "true" friendship. I have a buddy that I've known since highschool which is about 8years ago. We are still going to same college and always see each other around and chill/study together. I couldn't consider him as a "true" friend. Im sure its the same for him as well.
My theory is that no matter how hard you try or how much time you spend together with the person, if your personalities or beliefs dont meet, you wont able to form a "true" friendship. I have a buddy that I've known since highschool which is about 8years ago. We are still going to same college and always see each other around and chill/study together. I couldn't consider him as a "true" friend. Im sure its the same for him as well.
I don't have many friends. The only 2 i would even consider my friends is this short blue-haired emotionless girl and this headstrong fiery red-head girl.
that's kinda like me. I had a close group of girl friends and we'd plan to see each other for dinner or drinks or whatever at least once a month. But then one friend found herself a finance, another found herself other friends, and the last friend partied too much for my tastes.
So now my only friend is my boyfriend. Not that that's a bad thing but sometimes I wish I still had my girls. I have tons of online buddies I talk to, one who's almost like a brother to me, but they're just people i talk to..no one i hang out with or do things with.
ehh..who needs friends anyway? heh.
meltdown75
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- Nov 17, 2004
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I have absolutely no real friends. I have 1 dude from work who i seldom talk to outside of work, and 1 guy i know in school, and we usually just help each other out with homework no real friendship. In all my clasess i have aquantinces that I'll talk to if I ever ran into them, but never people I really hang out with.
Always had acquaintances, but was never really close to anyone in school. Couldn't stand how phony everyone was. All the back-talking, stabbing and 'itching. All of it's still there and worse in college. Also, found it's best to stay semi-distant as once people start showing their true colours, they get annoying.
Place I worked at for 3 years, pretty cool people, went out a bit with the crew. After I left, they also left, and then I realized is that all we ever talk about is work and how work sucks or is screwing us over. Now that I'm gone and don't care about that place anymore, just got nothing to say. Oh, and I've been there since a punk teenager so I kinda grew outta them (i.e. people I really liked, now I see how *itchy they are, and can't stand anymore).
Place I worked at for 3 years, pretty cool people, went out a bit with the crew. After I left, they also left, and then I realized is that all we ever talk about is work and how work sucks or is screwing us over. Now that I'm gone and don't care about that place anymore, just got nothing to say. Oh, and I've been there since a punk teenager so I kinda grew outta them (i.e. people I really liked, now I see how *itchy they are, and can't stand anymore).
Since i've been married I no longer have any extremely close friends. I have net buddies that I game with that i've known for 5 years now. But they are online friends and i'm not sure you could consider them close until you have met them more than a few times face to face. Anyhow, I think once you get married having friends to go out with and do things with seems less important than they once did.
Not usually. I whisper super quietly if I have to say anything at all. You'd be surprised.
I don't quite understand what you mean.
zinfamous
No Lifer
- Jul 12, 2006
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I was just messing. My intention was that when I'm with a large group of pals (honestly, I could never consider everyone in such a large group as you discuss to be true friends...maybe 4 or 6 of them and the rest would prob be aquantainces), I prefer to spend time with them and conversing, maybe at a bar or something, rather than isolated from them at a theater....it seems pointless (to me) to see a movie with such a huge group...
meltdown75 was simply referring to the fact that only teenagers would exercise such theater-going habits. So, he's saying your dating yourself as a teenager (the punk part). We were all teenagers at some point, and therefore all fo us were punks. I don't think any ill-will was intended. Also, People tend to maintain, spend time with such large groups only when they're younger. The real friends find their way through....or jsut heading off to college, new town or starting a job; you tend to make a new set of friends. And as your time becomes limited outside of work/school, or constant WoW; yoiu simply don't have time to maintain such large groups of friends.
Sure, going in large groups to a movie could be a result of living in a po-dunk town (I know the feeling) with nothing else to do and/or age limitations. (generally, you don't expect to see massive groups of teenagers hanging out at bars).
The point, I think...is to expect your 2 or more rows of friends to pare down to about 5 seats over the next few years...
It's pretty typical. I think it might have something to do with as people mature, they associate their highschool-era and younger friends with themselves at that age; when youg and stupid. Maybe most of us just want to distance ourselves from that. Actually, the majority of my closest friends are from my highschool days; none of them live in where I do now, but it works for me. I can understand getting new sets of friends...I guess it just doesn't really apply to me. Although, the herd certainly thinnned out as I got older, and let the drug dealers of the crew ruin their own lives; god bless 'em.....
meltdown75 was simply referring to the fact that only teenagers would exercise such theater-going habits. So, he's saying your dating yourself as a teenager (the punk part). We were all teenagers at some point, and therefore all fo us were punks. I don't think any ill-will was intended. Also, People tend to maintain, spend time with such large groups only when they're younger. The real friends find their way through....or jsut heading off to college, new town or starting a job; you tend to make a new set of friends. And as your time becomes limited outside of work/school, or constant WoW; yoiu simply don't have time to maintain such large groups of friends.
Sure, going in large groups to a movie could be a result of living in a po-dunk town (I know the feeling) with nothing else to do and/or age limitations. (generally, you don't expect to see massive groups of teenagers hanging out at bars).
The point, I think...is to expect your 2 or more rows of friends to pare down to about 5 seats over the next few years...
It's pretty typical. I think it might have something to do with as people mature, they associate their highschool-era and younger friends with themselves at that age; when youg and stupid. Maybe most of us just want to distance ourselves from that. Actually, the majority of my closest friends are from my highschool days; none of them live in where I do now, but it works for me. I can understand getting new sets of friends...I guess it just doesn't really apply to me. Although, the herd certainly thinnned out as I got older, and let the drug dealers of the crew ruin their own lives; god bless 'em.....
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