Do your parents practice different religions?

[isasir]

So the girl I'm seeing is of a different religion than I am (I'm Hindu, she's Catholic). The talk of marriage has been discussed, and the discussion of how we'd raise our kids is always a potential sticky issue.

So my question is, if your parents are from different religions, did you choose to follow one religion over the other, or perhaps shun both? If you chose one over another, why did you choose it? Did you consider yourself "confused" in your upbringing?

 

[yukichigai]

My dad's Catholic, my mom's Protestant. Not exactly as different and Hindu and Catholic, but there are some fairly significant differences. My parents have been married for 34 years, (I think) and only got married in the Catholic church on their 25th anniversary. Never seems to be an issue, except mom doesn't go up for communion when the rest of us do.

 

[rgwalt]

I had a friend whose mother was a Jehova's Witness and whose father was Muslim. She followed the JW faith more closely, but obeyed the restrictions of both... She couldn't eat pork, wear makeup, salute the flag, celebrate birthdays... The list goes on.

R

 

[Ferrari355]

My mom is Christian and my dad is atheist.

 

[Ausm]

Old Man-Agnostic-but pretends to be religious to impress other religious people.

Step mother-Religious Zealot

Me-Agnostic

My Upbringing was confusing for me. My Step mother claimed to be a strict Christian yet she is the most unhappy,jealous,and hateful person I have ever ran into.She is also a couple beers short of a six pack but that is an entirely different issue

My Old man on the otherhand did not care one way or another as long as he was getting laid.

I chose my religious stance because of my step mother.


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[jjones]

I'm more or less athiest, my wife is catholic. No real problems for us. We agreed the kids would be raised catholic but they'll be exposed to a heavy dose of skepticism from me.

 

[melly]

Dad-Catholic

Mom-Methodist

They were married in a Catholic church since Catholicism basically overrides every religion. By that I mean: if one person is Catholic then they MUST be married in a Catholic Church. Unless they convert religions. We were raised Catholic, went to Catechism, etc. Mom would stay home while the rest of us went to church. Never caused problems in their marriage, when they were married.

 

[cronos]

Originally posted by: rgwalt
I had a friend whose mother was a Jehova's Witness and whose father was Muslim. She followed the JW faith more closely, but obeyed the restrictions of both... She couldn't eat pork, wear makeup, salute the flag, celebrate birthdays... The list goes on.

R

so JW can't wear makeup, salute the flag, and celebrate birthdays?

anyway, regarding the OP, i have a few friends whose parents were from mix religions. i'll say it can be confusing at times, but what's most important is how you two are explaining it to your kids. mixed families will have different ways and rules on how to handle the differences among them. most notably in regards to religious practices, holy days and stuff.

a relative of mine who is in a mix religion marriage actually have this rule in his family. if it's a boy, he's going to be brought up according to the father's religion. and if it's a daughter, she will follow the mother's. they have two kids, one boy and one girl, and up until they're in high school both kids went along with the arrangement. now they're all grown up and graduate from college and everything, and it turns out that the daughter converted to the father's religion.

 

[isasir]

Originally posted by: melly
Dad-Catholic

Mom-Methodist

They were married in a Catholic church since Catholicism basically overrides every religion. By that I mean: if one person is Catholic then they MUST be married in a Catholic Church. Unless they convert religions. We were raised Catholic, went to Catechism, etc. Mom would stay home while the rest of us went to church. Never caused problems in their marriage, when they were married.

Hmm, I think I'm going to need to find out more information about the "need" to be married in a Catholic Church. Neither of us intend on converting, but I think we'd likely do two wedding ceremonies, if such a thing is "allowed" by these two religions.

However, my main concern is whether any children we had would grow up confused, or, if we approach it in a sensible manner, hopefully they'd grow up enriched by having two religions in the household.

 

[CanOWorms]

Originally posted by: isasir

Originally posted by: melly
Dad-Catholic

Mom-Methodist

They were married in a Catholic church since Catholicism basically overrides every religion. By that I mean: if one person is Catholic then they MUST be married in a Catholic Church. Unless they convert religions. We were raised Catholic, went to Catechism, etc. Mom would stay home while the rest of us went to church. Never caused problems in their marriage, when they were married.

Hmm, I think I'm going to need to find out more information about the "need" to be married in a Catholic Church. Neither of us intend on converting, but I think we'd likely do two wedding ceremonies, if such a thing is "allowed" by these two religions.

However, my main concern is whether any children we had would grow up confused, or, if we approach it in a sensible manner, hopefully they'd grow up enriched by having two religions in the household.

I've known of some Hindus that have 2 weddings, one for their religion and one for their spouse's religion. I don't know if it's frowned upon or something, maybe they weren't as strict.

 

[isasir]

Originally posted by: CanOWorms

Originally posted by: isasir
Hmm, I think I'm going to need to find out more information about the "need" to be married in a Catholic Church. Neither of us intend on converting, but I think we'd likely do two wedding ceremonies, if such a thing is "allowed" by these two religions.

However, my main concern is whether any children we had would grow up confused, or, if we approach it in a sensible manner, hopefully they'd grow up enriched by having two religions in the household.

I've known of some Hindus that have 2 weddings, one for their religion and one for their spouse's religion. I don't know if it's frowned upon or something, maybe they weren't as strict.

Well I don't know of any issues with the Hindu side, since I have a few cousins that have married non-Hindus (one Christian, one Muslim). It's the Catholicism and it's strictness that I'm unfamiliar with.

 

[farmercal]

You do realize that Catholics don't believe in birth control, right? You do want to have ten kids, right? Good Luck, Daddy.

 

[isasir]

Originally posted by: farmercal
You do realize that Catholics don't believe in birth control, right? You do want to have ten kids, right? Good Luck, Daddy.

Well I think they also don't believe in premarital sex, but um.... :thumbsup:

 

[CPA]

My wife is a Christian. I am agnostic. She takes the kids to church every once in a while. no biggie.

 

[Jzero]

My mom was raised Catholic. My dad was from a Baptist family but never was very religious.
The Catholic Church, in its awe-inspiring wisdom, was unwilling to accommodate my father who was stationed in TX in the USAF while my mom was in NJ.
My mother, in her own awe-inspiring wisdom, told the Catholic Church where to go. The priest told her they would never make it as a couple. 40 years ago.

The Catholic Church is losing membership and needs to shape the fck up or they are going to find themselves gone the way of the Druids.

Edit:
Didn't answer the other questions. We were pretty much given the choice of what we wanted in terms of religion. If we wanted to go to church/Sunday school, we were allowed, if we didn't want to go, we weren't forced to do so. In the end, I ended up being what I call "spiritual, but not religious." I think my borhter is pretty much agnostic.

 

[toy4x4]

My wife is reglious(doesn't matter which one), where I will beleive it when I see it.

 

[Electric Amish]

I wasn't confused. I was smart enough to smell the BS that all religion is made up of.

We practiced LDS as a family for a few years, but then we all gave up on it.

My sister has since fallen in with some "Christian Fellowship" crap and is thoroughly brainwashed. I'm glad she moved away to N. Carolina.

 

[slpaulson]

My dad is Lutheran and my mom is Catholic. I'm a Catholic but I never finished all those classes I was supposed to take to be an adult or whatever the hell that was. I wouldn't say I'm atheist, but I haven't gone to church in probably 6+ years. I was baptised a Catholic but I'm more protistant in my beliefs I guess.

 

[cHeeZeFacTory]

i convinced my christian gf to not believing in anything...I think she believes in science now though

 

[Descartes]

My dad was something of an atheist/agnostic, and my mother was a Lutheran. Thankfully, neither impressed their belief systems upon me.

 

[Descartes]

Originally posted by: cHeeZeFacTory
i convinced my christian gf to not believing in anything...I think she believes in science now though

Scientology you mean?

 

[kage69]

Mom is christian, dad is agnostic with a very native-american outlook, and I'm atheist. Every now and then she gets on a holy-rolling trend and we have to bring her back to reality.

 

[isasir]

Originally posted by: Electric Amish
I wasn't confused. I was smart enough to smell the BS that all religion is made up of.

We practiced LDS as a family for a few years, but then we all gave up on it.

My sister has since fallen in with some "Christian Fellowship" crap and is thoroughly brainwashed. I'm glad she moved away to N. Carolina.

For me, I'd like it if my children do believe in God, even if it wasn't the same gods that I believe in. I think it'd bother me if, because of two religions in the household, they chose to shun both of them.

 

[rgwalt]

Originally posted by: cHeeZeFacTory
i convinced my christian gf to not believing in anything...I think she believes in science now though

Maybe she can convince you to believe in grammar/spelling...

R

 

[clamum]

My mom was raised Catholic and my dad was raised Methodist... she became a Methodist when she got married. Neither one of them are real strict about it; my dad never goes and my mom goes every so often, moreso lately.