Do you & your SO have to say I love you every time you talk on the phone

[shadow9d9]

Originally posted by: sao123
Good lord...
these young lovey dovey couples i know... they say i love you on the phone every time.... its like its attached to the goodbye or something.

I understand saying it, if its a see you tomorrow goodnight, or going out of town goodbye...

BUT Phone conversations like the below werent meant to be 3 stanza love poems... and it is really annoying:


Hello?
Hello.
Hi honey,
Hey...
Whats up?
I have to stop and pick up milk and then I'll be over.
Ok.
I love you & miss you...
I Love you too...
bye...
bye...

OMFG... that just annoys the hell out of me... maybe it because im married, i dunno
Geez with us its like... Direct connect walkie talkie style...

this is how it should be done

Hey...
Yea?
I have to get some milk and I'll be there in ten.
K.
<click>

So? Communicate to her that it annoys you.. end of story.

 

[ATLien247]

My wife usually says it at the end of every call, and I respond appropriately.

If she doesn't say it, then there is an awkward pause at the end until my brain processes it, at which point I know she is mad at me for some reason and I tell her I love her.

"Those three words
are said too much,
they're not enough."
--Snow Patrol, Chasing Cars

 

[sourceninja]

I say it because I never know if my wife will die horribly before I see her again.

 

[dman]

Originally posted by: ATLien247
My wife usually says it at the end of every call, and I respond appropriately.

If she doesn't say it, then there is an awkward pause at the end until my brain processes it, at which point I know she is mad at me for some reason and I tell her I love her.

QFT.

 

[SirChadwick]

Yes we say I love yous at the end of every conversation and most text messages/emails. It means a lot to her and comes from how her and her family are very close and say it often. I made the mistake of telling her that we say it too much and then I had to endure a 3 hr cry session followed up by a 2-3 month reminder of how I hurt her feelings. Was it worth it? No. All she said to me was that she'd try to say it less to make me happy... which defeats the purpose. I just want her to mean it everytime she says it instead of it becoming a routine. It's so habitual that it's ridiculous. Anyway, we're back to saying it at the end of every convo.

 

[jdini76]

Originally posted by: SirChadwick
Yes we say I love yous at the end of every conversation and most text messages/emails. It means a lot to her and comes from how her and her family are very close and say it often. I made the mistake of telling her that we say it too much and then I had to endure a 3 hr cry session followed up by a 2-3 month reminder of how I hurt her feelings. Was it worth it? No. All she said to me was that she'd try to say it less to make me happy... which defeats the purpose. I just want her to mean it everytime she says it instead of it becoming a routine. It's so habitual that it's ridiculous. Anyway, we're back to saying it at the end of every convo.

The three month reminders are the worst.

 

[Aharami]

i refuse to say love you to my gf on every single phone convo. IMO it dilutes the meaning of the phrase and should be used when you're genuinely feeling it

 

[chickadee]

theres usually a "love ya" thrown out at the end of each convo. it comes out of habit mostly. plus you never know when something might happen to somoene and you dont want your last words to them to be "dont forget butter"

 

[SirChadwick]

Originally posted by: Aharami
i refuse to say love you to my gf on every single phone convo. IMO it dilutes the meaning of the phrase and should be used when you're genuinely feeling it

But if you don't always feel like you genuinely love her and let her know, then you don't truly love her.

LOL.

 

[Lola]

No. not usually. as a matter of fact, the last time we said i love you over the phone was probably when he was still in school and i was calling him from my house.

Now, we say it to each other at night... and when we are leaving for work.
I don't need him to say it to me to know that he does love me.

 

[amicold]

Originally posted by: batmang
i dont mind saying it, because we only talk on the phone a max of once a day. if my wife called me.. 2-4 times a day, i would be annoyed. id be annoyed with her calling me so much.
but telling my wife i love her, that never gots annoying to me.

:thumbsup:

 

[Lola]

Originally posted by: amicold

Originally posted by: batmang
i dont mind saying it, because we only talk on the phone a max of once a day. if my wife called me.. 2-4 times a day, i would be annoyed. id be annoyed with her calling me so much.
but telling my wife i love her, that never gots annoying to me.

:thumbsup:

Good for you for sure. that is very VERY sweet. :heart:

 

[FoBoT]

been married 18 years and we do , unless she is really pissed about something

 

[VTHodge]

I tried to ween off of the "I love you"s after short conversations and got into a mini-fight about it. Now I just do it. What is annoying is if you get through the whole goodbye routine, then there is an "Oh yeah I forgot to tell you" and we have to go through it again.

The other thing that annoys me is when (for example), I call to say I am leaving work and say that I'll be over at 6:30. Then I get a call at 6:15 to tell me about a funny commercial that just came on. SAVE IT FOR 15 DAMN MINUTES!

 

[shopbruin]

yes. or else i know someone is mad.

 

[shelaby]

Originally posted by: Joemonkey
my wife and i say it, same with my parents and i, every phone conversation. You never know if it will the the last words they ever hear from you, or the last words you ever hear from them.

thats my take on it too. you should be grateful to have somebody to love and who loves you back

 

[hans030390]

I don't always say it, but usually.

What's the big deal, it's not like I'm like "I LOVE YOU BLAH!!!!!!"

It takes up a whole 2 seconds (max)....ooooohhhhhh. Soooo annoying.

 

[DougK62]

I say it every once in a while. If someone doesn't know that I love them by my actions then I'm doing something wrong.

 

[BD2003]

Originally posted by: DougK62
I say it every once in a while. If someone doesn't know that I love them by my actions then I'm doing something wrong.

Same. The last thing I want those words to become is routine. I say it often, but not every time. That way, when I or she says it, it has impact, rather than being something routine. She knows I love her.

 

[Kelemvor]

We don't have to but we do...

 

[ArchCenturion]

I haven't ever gotten to a point in a relationship where I have really loved a girl. Usually I just like them and am waiting to see where things go.

I'm hoping to find someone that I will want to say "I love you" to. Just seems to me that it should be something of a higher value rather than at the end of of every conversation, it would become boring and unmeaningful.

 

[LongCoolMother]

whats the big deal? why does it bother you so much?

 

[Zenmervolt]

I say it to both my girlfriend and to my immediate family when I'm on the phone with them or closing out a conversation where I'm going away from them. Now that I've moved farther away and my parents are getting older (even though they aren't "old" yet), I realise that each time I talk with them could be the last time and I want to know that I told those closest to me how I felt about them if the worst should happen.

It's kinda silly, but I don't want the last thing I ever say to my family or my girlfriend to be "I'm picking up some milk, bye."

ZV

 

[Kwaipie]

I work with someone that was in a committed gay relationship. Their phone calls used to drive me nuts. Every single call ended with:

Okay, love you.
*smoochie sound*
Love you

Then I started to make a game of it.

On a personal note, I get SO used to saying "love you too" that sometimes I'll say it before she says she loves me. now That isn't awkward.

 

[40sTheme]

God this annoys me. And I don't do it every time i'm on the phone. In high school, two of my friends started dating, and they were SO FREAKING COUPLE.... -Y that I hardly ever got a chance to speak with them. They always said they didn't spend enough time together. 24/7/365 isn't enough time?