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Do you think you grew as a person as you aged?

Zeze

Zeze

Lifer
For me, thankfully, I can say yes in some areas.
  1. Empathy is #1 with me. I was just a punk into my 20s. Well I was always handling family stuff, and I was a nice kid actually. But lately, I have a surge of empathy. I wish well for my friends and people. I'm coaching a friend of mine to get a job in IT rather than being a little beeyotch about it. When I hear awful news about parents losing their child, I cringe in pain deep inside.
  2. You have less to prove to others. My friend and I in the teens were doing nasty roasts to each other, and egos get in the way, etc. Our friendships matured a lot. We still give each other crap, but we talk about life and family a lot and share really personal things to each other for support and advice.
  3. Be positive. Approach people with a smile and a genuine compliment - 99% of time they become your friends or allies. Why not do this to everyone you meet? Smiles become genuine - the person feels good, you feel good.
  4. Obviously don't suffer fools though. As you're more sure of yourself, you know when to put your foot down. I remember my coworker and I got into a petty power struggle and he was literally trash talking about me in this professional fortune #20 corporate office. He's a big black dude into his 40s. I pulled him aside and said let's work together. The effin' guy didn't even have the balls to make eye contact with me.
 
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I am all of the above and the exact opposite at the same time.

It's hard to explain obviously.
 
Empathy is a tough one for those of us that know we're supposed to be able to express it but don't really get it. I'm really good at knowing when and how to show it but it's still so much of an afterthought that I consistently fuck up. It's sort of like 'Are you going to be able to make it next Tuesday? Oh right and by the way, hope your open heart surgery goes well.'
 
I have grown a lot...up and out. When I started consciously trying to lose weight about 18 months ago, I was close to 300 lbs. When I was working, I rarely got over about 225. At 300 lbs, I was literally twice the man I was when I was in the Corps...or when I got married.
 
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