do you rarely call people?

[skim milk]

The people I do keep somewhat in touch with in this city.. I rarely call them. (wouldn't consider them friends.. just hangout buddies?)
They usually call me or send me a text message... but I'm just not the type to call people. Not in high school or in college

To be quite honest, I just don't get bored and don't really care about a gathering to go drinking. I just sometimes tag along for the heck of it.
I can be perfectly fine not going so that's why I rarely call people and ask them to hang out
I think some of them are getting irritated that they are always the ones calling me but I could be making a big deal over nothing

Do I need to put more effort in contacting others or should I just go with what feels most natural

 

[LtPage1]

I'm kinda the same- some people do get annoyed by this and think that because you never call them, you must not like hanging out with them. Figure out who those people are (assuming you do want to hang out with them, of course), and make the effort.

 

[PHiuR]

friendship is a 2-way street

 

[irBABoON]

Originally posted by: PHiuR
friendship is a 2-way street

for real

 

[cHeeZeFacTory]

i know both types.

seems like more of the females i know just call every once in a while just to see how I'm doing.

 

[y2kc]

I call (and get calls) so infrequently that I don't know my home phone number, I keep it written down in my wallet. I was cool with that until this weekend though.

It was a long weekend and my birthday but I spent it alone for the most part because I make myself so scarce to those whom I consider friends I wasn't considered at all (by them)... and when I tried to reach out to people they weren't really available.

Friendship is like anything else, you get out of it what you put into it.

 

[Stuxnet]

Originally posted by: fritolays
The people I do keep somewhat in touch with in this city.. I rarely call them. (wouldn't consider them friends.. just hangout buddies?)
They usually call me or send me a text message... but I'm just not the type to call people. Not in high school or in college

To be quite honest, I just don't get bored and don't really care about a gathering to go drinking. I just sometimes tag along for the heck of it.
I can be perfectly fine not going so that's why I rarely call people and ask them to hang out
I think some of them are getting irritated that they are always the ones calling me but I could be making a big deal over nothing

Do I need to put more effort in contacting others or should I just go with what feels most natural

I've always been the same way. My friends have always had to contact me to get something together. It's just not something that really crosses my mind.

Plus, I HATE telephones. HATE them. I get so pissed when my wife's phone starts ringing *every fscking night* because her Mom and/or sister don't know/care that we eat dinner at 6:30/7.

One of these days it's going to ring and I'm just going to smash it up into little bits and pieces.

 

[Cristatus]

Originally posted by: y2kc
I call (and get calls) so infrequently that I don't know my home phone number, I keep it written down in my wallet. I was cool with that until this weekend though.

It was a long weekend and my birthday but I spent it alone for the most part because I make myself so scarce to those whom I consider friends I wasn't considered at all (by them)... and when I tried to reach out to people they weren't really available.

Friendship is like anything else, you get out of it what you put into it.

I am kind of the same way.

I was just thinking the other day: maybe I'm very picky with who I hang out with. I only mostly hang out with maybe two to four people in our group of 15 - 18 people. But then the guy that I hang out with, he hangs with EVERYONE! He visits like a couple of people per day. (Mind you, some people live together, and he has a car, and I don't, so it's easier for him to meet most of the other mates because we are not all within walking distance of each other).

 

[UncleWai]

At some point loneliness will get you. I don't have a large group of acquantaines, people that I consider friends are close friends of mine.
I bet if I just initiated to call other classmates, I could have gotten some more "friends".
Also, I've lost contact with two used to be really close friends because I never call them up.

 

[SilentZero]

How old are you in the important question. When I was 19-26 I usually was more proactive in calling people on a routine basis to hang out and go places (when I got a kitchen pass), but the past 3 years I have rarely called anyone and just rather stay inside and be productive.

 

[puffff]

i at least make an effort to keep in touch via email or IM. i'll call my closer friends (that dont live in the same city as i) once every couple months just to see whats up.

and most of them will do the same. however, if i dont hear from someone in like half a year, screw them. i dont need friends like that.

 

[DaShen]

Originally posted by: fritolays
The people I do keep somewhat in touch with in this city.. I rarely call them. (wouldn't consider them friends.. just hangout buddies?)
They usually call me or send me a text message... but I'm just not the type to call people. Not in high school or in college

To be quite honest, I just don't get bored and don't really care about a gathering to go drinking. I just sometimes tag along for the heck of it.
I can be perfectly fine not going so that's why I rarely call people and ask them to hang out
I think some of them are getting irritated that they are always the ones calling me but I could be making a big deal over nothing

Do I need to put more effort in contacting others or should I just go with what feels most natural

I am exactly the same way. I have some really close friends, but otherwise most everyone else are acquaintences that I will hang out with every once in a while. I have been labeled a recluse and a hermit before.

I will call my old friends when I am in their towns though, but that is very rare.

 

[Mo0o]

Well I rarely call anyone to chat but if it's the weekend I'll try to call up my good friends to go hang out.

 

[ladyjd]

My phone never rings. Maybe once a week.
SInce I'm not a drinker-partyier and none of my friends are either, life stays quiet.

 

[skim milk]

Originally posted by: SilentZero
How old are you in the important question. When I was 19-26 I usually was more proactive in calling people on a routine basis to hang out and go places (when I got a kitchen pass), but the past 3 years I have rarely called anyone and just rather stay inside and be productive.

21 years old

 

[skim milk]

Originally posted by: DaShen

Originally posted by: fritolays
The people I do keep somewhat in touch with in this city.. I rarely call them. (wouldn't consider them friends.. just hangout buddies?)
They usually call me or send me a text message... but I'm just not the type to call people. Not in high school or in college

To be quite honest, I just don't get bored and don't really care about a gathering to go drinking. I just sometimes tag along for the heck of it.
I can be perfectly fine not going so that's why I rarely call people and ask them to hang out
I think some of them are getting irritated that they are always the ones calling me but I could be making a big deal over nothing

Do I need to put more effort in contacting others or should I just go with what feels most natural

I am exactly the same way. I have some really close friends, but otherwise most everyone else are acquaintences that I will hang out with every once in a while. I have been labeled a recluse and a hermit before.

I will call my old friends when I am in their towns though, but that is very rare.

yeah... most people think I'm a recluse and a loner.
It has the good stigma as well as the bad

 

[Mill]

I probably get 10 calls a day and make about 20 a day. You should certainly start calling people back or initiating the conversation.

 

[ValkyrieofHouston]

Originally posted by: y2kc

Friendship is like anything else, you get out of it what you put into it.

Never more truer words...

 

[FoBoT]

i avoid calling people