Do you purposely try to do the opposite of your parents?

[LookBehindYou]

Do you? I thought about that this weekend while replacing a tire on my 8 year old son's bike. He blew a tire because he has been doing a lot of "skidding" on it, trying to leave tire marks.

When I was little I remember doing the same thing and my parents replaced the tire and told me if I do it again they wouldnt replace it again.

Instead of doing what my parents did, I replaced the tire with a mountain bike tire that was kevlar lined so it would last longer. I then told my son to skid all he wants, the tire should last longer. If he pops it again I'll replace it again.

Does anyone else catch themselves doing stuff like that because they remember whent the same thing happened to them? Another example would be me having 7 boxes of "sugary" cereal in the house because I remember my parents not letting me have any.

 

[shortylickens]

Not the complete opposite. Dad was an angry alcoholic.

I'm just angry.

 

[edro]

No. I had great parents.

 

[LookBehindYou]

No. I had great parents.

I feel I had great parents too, this has nothing to do with that. I'm just talking about "annoyances" that you had with your parents, where you said "I'll never do that to my kid" type things.

 

[Charlie98]

I could tell my daughter the sky is blue today and she would argue with me about it. She can't just accept instruction or discussion for what it is, she has to debate everything. I told her she would make a great politician or lawyer (and I don't mean in a nice way.)

When I was growing up, for the most part, I did what my parents told me to do. I didn't want to get into trouble nor did I want to disappoint them, either.

 

[Matthiasa]

Not really, but as I have at least some sense of morals it does tend to turn out that way...
Well compared to one of them anyways.

 

[Vdubchaos]

It depends on what it is.

My parents let me be a free range kid when I was young....my kids are the opposite (I let them out but not free range, I also spend a lot of time with them while out).

I'm guessing their kids will be free range....and the cycle goes on.

 

[nageov3t]

purposefully? no.

I do what I think is best... sometimes that's what my parents would have done, and sometimes it isn't. *shrug*

 

[waggy]

It depends on what it is.

My parents let me be a free range kid when I was young....my kids are the opposite (I let them out but not free range, I also spend a lot of time with them while out).

I'm guessing their kids will be free range....and the cycle goes on.

yeah my parents were the same. then again that was back in the 70's and 80's. hell we didn't get "cable" until i was like 12. IF it was nice i was outside rideing my bike or playing something. I would take off on my bike in the morning and just had to be back before dinner.

I had mini-bikes from 7 until 15, a bb gun at 6 and .22 at 12, i have always been interested in knives so every year from age 7 on i got them from family members. Yes i could carry them! even to school.

I let my kids be "free-range" to a point. i live in a small town and they can wonder all over. I am looking for 4 wheeler for the kids or something like that. right now they have a old lawn tractor they can ride to friends.

my daughter (10) wants a Bow and arrow set and a pocket knife. my son wants a sword (think i draw the line at that..).

so yeah i guess i do fallow my parents on how the raised me. Only thing diffrent is my dad worked a LOT and was never around. I wrestled for 20 odd years. from elementary school through college. I think he came to 2 matches or so. He did come to nearly every football game i played. bah

i go to all my daughters gymnastics tournements all my sons wrestling and tee-ball games.

 

[Vdubchaos]

Well, the reason why my kids are not "free range" is simple.

When I was a kid, I did ALL kinds of crazy shit I shouldn't be doing and got myself a lot of trouble.

NOTHING good ever came of being "free range". It simply gave me freedom to do stupid shit.

 

[Fritzo]

Sort of. My dad is 65 and has a HUGE belly. With those genes in play, I stay way from starches and sugar. I also make an effort to be more worldly than my parents.

Other than that, they raised me to be extremely moral and caring, and I've stuck with it.

 

[BoomerD]

Since both of my parents have died...I do my best to do the opposite.

 

[dave_the_nerd]

It depends on what it is. My parents made good choices and bad choices. They sometimes acknowledged those choices as such.

In the OP example, I'd want my kid to at least have some idea of cause->effect->consequence. Don't want to encourage him to ruin things he didn't pay for. (Of course, there's a limit to what you can do with an 8-year-old, too.)

I also don't know how much a new bike tire costs, or if it was a big expense for his parents whereas it might not be for him.

I agree with the "okay, first one's free" idea. But after that, if it were my kid, he'd probably be making it up in chores.

 

[edro]

I was just messing with you.

Yes... my dad used to be very narrow minded about people (race, religion, science, etc).
I try to be as open minded as possible.

 

[Deeko]

No, in fact, I'm essentially my father in every way, just shorter and stouter. My parents pissed me off plenty when I was a kid, but in hindsight, they did a pretty damn good job, so I would be foolish not to emulate their methods.

 

[AFurryReptile]

Do you? I thought about that this weekend while replacing a tire on my 8 year old son's bike. He blew a tire because he has been doing a lot of "skidding" on it, trying to leave tire marks.

When I was little I remember doing the same thing and my parents replaced the tire and told me if I do it again they wouldnt replace it again.

Instead of doing what my parents did, I replaced the tire with a mountain bike tire that was kevlar lined so it would last longer. I then told my son to skid all he wants, the tire should last longer. If he pops it again I'll replace it again.

Does anyone else catch themselves doing stuff like that because they remember whent the same thing happened to them? Another example would be me having 7 boxes of "sugary" cereal in the house because I remember my parents not letting me have any.

The skidding isn't about replacing the tire. It's about leaving black streaks all over things that aren't yours. I wouldn't let my kids do it.

 

[dave_the_nerd]

The skidding isn't about replacing the tire. It's about leaving black streaks all over things that aren't yours. I wouldn't let my kids do it.

It's a learning experience.

Congratulations, son! You get to learn how to clean concrete! Here's your gloves and respirator: let's get started!

 

[waggy]

Since both of my parents have died...I do my best to do the opposite.

well hate to tell you, but you are going to be just like them!

Well, the reason why my kids are not "free range" is simple.

When I was a kid, I did ALL kinds of crazy shit I shouldn't be doing and got myself a lot of trouble.

NOTHING good ever came of being "free range". It simply gave me freedom to do stupid shit.

sad part is you think keeping them close and hovering is going to keep them from doing stupid shit.

 

[Platypus]

purposefully? no.

I do what I think is best... sometimes that's what my parents would have done, and sometimes it isn't. *shrug*

agreed, though more often than not, I am where I am today and successful because I didn't listen to my parents.

 

[CraigRT]

No. I had great parents.

Honestly, I have to agree with this.
And not skidding on an expensive tire only makes sense, even if I would have been told not to, I would tell my kid the same.
I replaced the tires on my DH bike recently, they retail for like 80 a piece. I try not to skid as much as possible, hah.

 

[waggy]

agreed, though more often than not, I am where I am today and successful because I didn't listen to my parents.

odd. i think just the different. i think i am successful because i listened to them.

I am lucky. both parents married someone who knows a lot about life, business and finances.

 

[yllus]

Yes, for the most part my worldview was shaped by the thought of, "I'm not going to be like them."

 

[Mixolydian]

My parents are/were horrible, so yes.

 

[Platypus]

odd. i think just the different. i think i am successful because i listened to them.

I am lucky. both parents married someone who knows a lot about life, business and finances.

My father would constantly yell at me and tell me to stop messing around with computers when I was a little kid because "they're just a stupid fad and a giant waste of time and you should be outside playing baseball like a normal boy."

An irony he still doesn't comprehend when he calls me weekly for some retarded tech support question on his PC that a child could solve.

That's ok, I made twice his salary by the time I was 22.

 

[Dumac]

Yes, but its not really a conscious effort.

My mom drank a lot, smoked, gambled, threw away money, etc. I do none of those things.