I don't have many friends, and infact i can say right now, i don't have any 'real' close friends because of them. I do have people i can call up, and who i visit and hang now and then with, but i really don't have 'real' friends, people that i call up when something good happens to me, or when something bad, and share with.
My last 'friend' was this girl who i got really close with for over a year. For over a year, i didn't really hang with anybody else but her... and i think we got a little too close, and it actually stunted my relationship with all my other friends. She was an ex-stripper, but aside from some things that occurred in the beginning, it never developed into anything more. We did a little more than flirting, but she was married, so i put a stop to that... and thankfully i did, because we developed a friendship that i've rarely experienced thanks to that. For over a year, she was my best friend, somebody who i confided in things to, and she confided things to me. We shared almost everything together, and when i wasn't with her, i was often on the phone with her. We had such a friendship that even her husband called me her boyfriend (he wasn't jealous of us, at least not in the beginning). Heck, most thought we were a couple when they first met us, and sometimes we even played bf/gf to strangers or others... one time, a girl called me, and she answered the phone and told her she was my wife... i'm not too sure if she was joking or if she was jealous of the call, but the girl that called was a bit upset, and i'm not too sure if she believed me when i told her it was only a friend joking around. And she was also the reason why i didn't have a gf all the while when i was with her... i didn't need one, she was that close to me. Sure, i guess i missed the sex, but at the time it really didn't seem that important believe it or not. And i don't think i could have had a gf anyways, i doubt any girl would have been secure enough with my relationship with her anyways.
But i felt betrayed by her, so i ended the relationship. Here's a vague description of what happened: she had a couple of other friends, who were brothers and sisters, that she knew before she met me... but she only knew them as slight acquitance. After we were friends, she started hanging around with the sister, and eventually came friends with the brother as well. Because i was with her so often, her friends soon became my friends. The sister was neurotic, and i've always thought so... and for one reason or another, i pissed off the sister. The brother was suppose to do something for me, something very important, and at the last minute, he didn't, because the sister told him not too. He didn't tell me he wasn't going to, because if he did, i could have had somebody else do it, but he decided to just ignore me until it was too late. I figured that something was up, because he was more than willing to do this thing for me, and i knew the sister didn't like me, so i figured if he wasn't mature enough to tell me, then i didn't want to be his friend anymore, so i stopped talking to him. I didn't tell my friend what happened, because i didn't want her to ruin her relationship with them over me, but then one day she confided crying to me, that she knew what happened, and she knew it was the sister's fault... and she told me she wasn't going to be their friend any longer if they treated me so disrespectfully. I felt so good knowing that she knew what happened, and that she was going to be loyal to me and stick with me. She told me that even her husband told her she should have broken off the friendship with them as soon as she found out what they did to me. But a few days later, she was with them, and i asked her what happened, wasn't she going to end her relationship with them? She told me that she told her husband that she was going to break off the friendship with them, but he thought it wasn't a good idea, since he's never seen her this happy in awhile (she's been sick for the last couple of years)... so she didn't, and she was still friends with them.
I didn't even bother replying to that, and i just left, and have never seen or talk to her since then. She's called me a couple of times in the beginning, but i screened the calls and never called back. It's been about 4-5 months now.
Would any of you guys broken off a friendship like this? I mean, she didn't even do anything... it's just that when she told me she knew what happened, and that she thought it was completely wrong of them to treat me this way, and that she was going to break off the relationship... i was so happy, because i thought i had lost her to them, but she told me she was going to break off the relationship. And then she didn't, and it just devastated me. But now, after all this time, i'm not too sure if i did the right thing.
CLIFF NOTES: hmm i'm not too sure i can, but lets see:
Ex-stripper and i became really close friends.
Then we became friends with this brother and sister.
Brother was suppose to do something for me.
I pissed off sister, and sister told brother not to do this thing for me.
My friend told me she found out what they did to me, and promised me she wasn't going to be friends with them any longer.
Couple of days later, i found her with them, and she told me she's still going to be friends with them.
I never saw her again.
Did i over-react? Probably a bit hard to judge if you didn't read my post!
My last 'friend' was this girl who i got really close with for over a year. For over a year, i didn't really hang with anybody else but her... and i think we got a little too close, and it actually stunted my relationship with all my other friends. She was an ex-stripper, but aside from some things that occurred in the beginning, it never developed into anything more. We did a little more than flirting, but she was married, so i put a stop to that... and thankfully i did, because we developed a friendship that i've rarely experienced thanks to that. For over a year, she was my best friend, somebody who i confided in things to, and she confided things to me. We shared almost everything together, and when i wasn't with her, i was often on the phone with her. We had such a friendship that even her husband called me her boyfriend (he wasn't jealous of us, at least not in the beginning). Heck, most thought we were a couple when they first met us, and sometimes we even played bf/gf to strangers or others... one time, a girl called me, and she answered the phone and told her she was my wife... i'm not too sure if she was joking or if she was jealous of the call, but the girl that called was a bit upset, and i'm not too sure if she believed me when i told her it was only a friend joking around. And she was also the reason why i didn't have a gf all the while when i was with her... i didn't need one, she was that close to me. Sure, i guess i missed the sex, but at the time it really didn't seem that important believe it or not. And i don't think i could have had a gf anyways, i doubt any girl would have been secure enough with my relationship with her anyways.
But i felt betrayed by her, so i ended the relationship. Here's a vague description of what happened: she had a couple of other friends, who were brothers and sisters, that she knew before she met me... but she only knew them as slight acquitance. After we were friends, she started hanging around with the sister, and eventually came friends with the brother as well. Because i was with her so often, her friends soon became my friends. The sister was neurotic, and i've always thought so... and for one reason or another, i pissed off the sister. The brother was suppose to do something for me, something very important, and at the last minute, he didn't, because the sister told him not too. He didn't tell me he wasn't going to, because if he did, i could have had somebody else do it, but he decided to just ignore me until it was too late. I figured that something was up, because he was more than willing to do this thing for me, and i knew the sister didn't like me, so i figured if he wasn't mature enough to tell me, then i didn't want to be his friend anymore, so i stopped talking to him. I didn't tell my friend what happened, because i didn't want her to ruin her relationship with them over me, but then one day she confided crying to me, that she knew what happened, and she knew it was the sister's fault... and she told me she wasn't going to be their friend any longer if they treated me so disrespectfully. I felt so good knowing that she knew what happened, and that she was going to be loyal to me and stick with me. She told me that even her husband told her she should have broken off the friendship with them as soon as she found out what they did to me. But a few days later, she was with them, and i asked her what happened, wasn't she going to end her relationship with them? She told me that she told her husband that she was going to break off the friendship with them, but he thought it wasn't a good idea, since he's never seen her this happy in awhile (she's been sick for the last couple of years)... so she didn't, and she was still friends with them.
I didn't even bother replying to that, and i just left, and have never seen or talk to her since then. She's called me a couple of times in the beginning, but i screened the calls and never called back. It's been about 4-5 months now.
Would any of you guys broken off a friendship like this? I mean, she didn't even do anything... it's just that when she told me she knew what happened, and that she thought it was completely wrong of them to treat me this way, and that she was going to break off the relationship... i was so happy, because i thought i had lost her to them, but she told me she was going to break off the relationship. And then she didn't, and it just devastated me. But now, after all this time, i'm not too sure if i did the right thing.
CLIFF NOTES: hmm i'm not too sure i can, but lets see:
Ex-stripper and i became really close friends.
Then we became friends with this brother and sister.
Brother was suppose to do something for me.
I pissed off sister, and sister told brother not to do this thing for me.
My friend told me she found out what they did to me, and promised me she wasn't going to be friends with them any longer.
Couple of days later, i found her with them, and she told me she's still going to be friends with them.
I never saw her again.
Did i over-react? Probably a bit hard to judge if you didn't read my post!
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