Do you get offended when people don't take your advice?

[Leros]

It seems that when I ask people for their advice, they take offense if I end up not taking their advice. I often get responses like "Why did you even ask me?" or "What is wrong with my opinion?". It kinda bugs me

When I ask people for advice on things, I'm interested in their ideas and their reasons for those ideas. If their thoughts provoke me to change my opinion then I will. The more information and opinions I have to make my decision the better, but asking does not mean I'm going to do whatever you say. Gah.

 

[mjrpes3]

People shouldn't give advice if they expect the advice to be taken. On the other hand, our relationship will be strained if you end up taking the blue pill.

 

[CraigRT]

It depends on who it is, and if they share their opinion before or after I give mine.

Sometimes it annoys me when my advice at least to me, is a better idea, and it's not used or whatever. Classic is when dealing with a GF.. Of course sometimes I think my ideas are better, and sometimes she would.. It can be annoying at times yes.

 

[gaidensensei]

I think you gotta tell them something like "Thanks for your opinion, cool" something along those lines.
Ignore them or say "fuck that" kind of stuff is only going to make them feel like they wasted time if they were being serious.

 

[Leros]

I usually say something like "hmm, thats interesting, but i still think <my idea> makes the most sense for me."

 

[lxskllr]

I get offended when my advice isn't even considered. They just want someone to agree with them, and don't truly want advice. That ties in to your first point. When I ask for advice, I'm not looking for someone to tell me what to do. I want another opinion to consider. I may ultimately reject it, but it will be considered. It's nothing to get offended over.

 

[anxi80]

you've come to the right place to ask this question.

thread: "this girl said i looked cute but she was making out with another guy... should i call her?"
atot x 50: "no."
thread starter: "screw you virgins, im calling her anyways."
(2 days later)
thread starter: "ive called her 8 times and left messages and havent heard a thing; should i send her a text/email/facebook friend request?"

 

[Leros]

Classic is when dealing with a GF.. Of course sometimes I think my ideas are better, and sometimes she would.. It can be annoying at times yes.

I've been asking my girlfriend for advice on some things lately which is what actually prompted me to make this thread. Her ideas have influenced my thoughts a lot which is why I keep asking her, but I only take about 25% of her advice which drives her crazy.

 

[JS80]

I get pretty annoyed when people don't use the Sprint SERO link to get the phone and overpay. I get even more annoyed when people get Verizon.

 

[RelaxTheMind]

I somewhat get satisfaction when i give advice to someone who in turn doesnt take it and it ends up in a huge "i told you so" situation. In where the "i told you so" isnt necessary, its understood with the look of frustration/anger in their face.

Most people nowadays inevitably choose the easiest option. Being successful, being fit and having a good relationship all take hard work and sacrifices at some point. </blanket statements>

 

[Bignate603]

I only get offended if they disregard it and then expect me to help clean up their mistake.

 

[TridenT]

Depends...

When I tell them they should not do drugs/drink-excessive-amounts-of-alcohol/have-unprotected-sex/be-with-a-loser-boyfriend/get-stupid(read: any)-tattoos/quit-school then yeah, I get offended. I'm like, "Why the fuck even tell me this stupid shit or ask me for my advice or whatever if you're just gonna be a dumbfuck who lives in drama and a shithole of a life?" After that, I usually cut off all communication with them.

Anyway, it depends on what it is. Generally I will get annoyed if they don't take my advice on something IF my advice is held as the smart option but not the option they like. (i.e. going to college to get a USEFUL degree instead of one in fucking music or whatever)

 

[TuxDave]

They just want someone to agree with them, and don't truly want advice.

Mostly this. If I don't see any notion of consideration, I tend to believe either the above or that they regard me as stupid. Regardless, I'm offended.

 

[gaidensensei]

I get offended when my advice isn't even considered. They just want someone to agree with them, and don't truly want advice. That ties in to your first point. When I ask for advice, I'm not looking for someone to tell me what to do. I want another opinion to consider. I may ultimately reject it, but it will be considered. It's nothing to get offended over.

I agree with this post. I don't need your insight on what you think about it though. :twisted:

 

[OverVolt]

I prefer if people don't change their minds after I give advice. All because a friend gives you advice doesn't mean you go drastically changing your plans. I just go fishing for opinions when I ask for advice and then I assimilate them all.

Honestly I don't know anyone who ever got irked by me asking them for advice. =/

 

[Ricemarine]

A friend of mine was trying to give his roommate "advice" to bail out on dating this 16 year old from Idaho he met over the internet... Nonetheless, the roommate continued on going out with the girl. So, during this big trip between the two of them and another friend, he scolded his roommate for a whole seven day trip to California for not listening to him. Unpleasant experience for the both of them. In the end, the roommate banged her and the two won't be dorming with each other next year. Woohoo!

 

[gaidensensei]

^ If you don't take our advice and toss your lab partner under the bus, we will all be very offended.

 

[Hacp]

Who the hell cares? I do get offended when people don't take my advice, then mess up and come back asking for help. Fuck that.

 

[Ricemarine]

^ If you don't take our advice and toss your lab partner under the bus, we will all be very offended.

Yeah...I don't think he's even gonna meet me tomorrow.

Here's to four more weeks of hell!
and hopefully throwing my partner under the bus with the approval of my professor.:awe:

 

[Hacp]

Yeah...I don't think he's even gonna meet me tomorrow.

Here's to four more weeks of hell!
and hopefully throwing my partner under the bus with the approval of my professor.:awe:

Btw, did you ever move out of your home? Or are your parents still deciding who your friends are?

 

[Ricemarine]

Btw, did you ever move out of your home? Or are your parents still deciding who your friends are?

Dad's against me moving out... mom's all the hell for it... as long as I go on one final family trip. They still expect me home for holidays however (...yeah...)
I'm moving out next month. Already found an apartment, saved the required $$$, made arrangements to buy furniture (bed, dining table, etc),and bought some extra things. Now all's to do is wait... save more $$$... and wait for the crossover in June, and then pay some friends to help move. Woo.

 

[darkswordsman17]

If this is something that happens often to you (people asking for your advice and then basically ignoring it completely) you might try to change how you give them the advice. You might be acting snobbish, or you might be too meek ("I think that's probably right..." versus "that is right").

Also, keep in mind what it is that's being asked. I would say most of the time, people aren't even actually seeking any real advice, they're just looking for validation (and plenty of times they are validating that the decision they intend to make is a bad one). Its one of those nonsensical things that people tend to do.

On a further point on understanding what exactly is going on. There's a big difference between "are they the person I want to marry" and "which is the best _____ to buy?", where literally no one but you can answer the former, but there should be plenty of people that can offer good advice on the latter.

I really need to stop babbling...

 

[Adrenaline]

If I give someone advice and they don't take it and then a mess up happens, they don't need to come back asking for advice to clean that mess up. If they ask a second time and it happens again, they don't need to bother asking me for advice again. If you aren't going to use the advice, why bother asking?

 

[fleabag]

I don't get offended, I just get upset.

 

[Sea Moose]

I don't get offended, I just get upset.

do you cry?