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do you get emotional at night?

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andylawcc

Lifer
1) Met a girl last year, got along well. she drinks microbrews, nuff said.
2) She has a b/f, but he's in Asia, she's in Los Angeles doing Grad School.
3) upon hearing that, I lied to her claiming I too was having a long distance relationship.
4) she bought it. Time went by, we did a bunch of fun stuffs, and I wanted to tell her the truth.
5) Told her, and never met her since. she was beyond angry. She would ignore my calls/txt msg/emails.
6) Last time I met her again was last Xmas... where I originally met up with her friend, who initially introduced me to that Girl, and the Girl happened to be there too. She was hostile and confrontational.

almost a year later, I still miss her.
 
Originally posted by: Zugzwang152
why'd you lie in the first place?
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the answer will probably be longer than the story itself.

Firstly, I already knew she has a long D b/f before she even told me, and I was expecting her to ask me whether I have a g/f or not. Mentally, I was thinking, if I told her I am single, she may became defensive and not want to see me as often (we were literally seeing each other everyday, it was certainly one of the happiest period in my life. I had no school, just a part-time job, and after work I will do a bunch of stuff with her). Anyways, back to the question: In addition, if I told her I too had a long d g/f, I'd assume she will be more comfortable around me, since I won't be hitting on her and we could "just be friends." In retrospect, I don't think I'd really want her as a partner (she had her share of flaws too), but I definitely miss her as a friend.
 
if you lied once, why not just lie again and say you and your long distance g/f decided it wasnt working out and broke up
 
Originally posted by: andylawcc
1) Met a girl last year, got along well. she drinks microbrews, nuff said.
2) She has a b/f, but he's in Asia, she's in Los Angeles doing Grad School.
3) upon hearing that, I lied to her claiming I too was having a long distance relationship.
4) she bought it. Time went by, we did a bunch of fun stuffs, and I wanted to tell her the truth.
5) Told her, and never met her since. she was beyond angry. She would ignore my calls/txt msg/emails.
6) Last time I met her again was last Xmas... where I originally met up with her friend, who initially introduced me to that Girl, and the Girl happened to be there too. She was hostile and confrontational.

almost a year later, I still miss her.
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Stupid.... Stupid move!!! :|
Grow up, OP.
 
So none of y'all chastizing the OP have ever lied to a chick?

IMO the wiered part of all of this is WHY he lied: so that she'd be his friend. Never is it a good idea to begin any kind of lasting relationship with a lie.
 
why would you lie to start off the relationship. if she didnt' want to talk to you because she had a bf, then good for her.
 
Hey, as long as you nailed her, it's all that matters. Wait, you did nail her, right? Your mistake was telling her the truth. You NEVER tell a woman the truth, any woman.
 
The foundation of any successful relationship is honesty, so if you start off with a lie, for GOD'S SAKE, DON'T TELL HER THE TRUTH!!!
 
BTW, OP. The best thing you can do is be totally honest with yourself and realize, probably part of the reason you lied was because you were hoping that eventually this girl may "choose" you as a boyfriend. :roll: Or if that really isn't the case, you were too insecure and immature to realize that you need to be honest and genuine to make any real genuine friends.

Pretty dumb move, man, but all is not lost.

What you could do is confront her about it, and be totally honest with her about your reasons and tell her you were a "complete ass" for even lying to her, and ask her for forgiveness. (Of course if there was even an inkling of misintent <i.e. - you wanted her as a girlfriend which I suspect>, you better not even try) Basically, you have to grow up and MAN up if you wish to have any friendship with this girl.
 
The real lesson here is that you should have never told her the truth. You either have to always be honest, or always lie.... when you mix and match that's when bad things start happening.
 
there are a lot of answers to "do you have a gf".

shoot, have a cocky answer like "yeah, i have 6 gfs, why? are you interested in being #7 so i can have a different gf everyday of the week?"

just remember, never give her a direct answer for questions like that.
 
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