do you believe in giving people second chances?

[her34]

someone who cheated in a relationship or a parent who abandoned their child.

if the person was truly sorry would you give them a second chance?



what acts have you forgiven or seen someone else forgive, and how did it work out?

 

[quakefiend420]

in either of those situations?

nope

 

[BrianH1]

probably

 

[DAGTA]

Situational dependent. In an intimate relationship with a mate that cheated on me, I would likely not give her a second chance. In other situations, yes I have and will continue to give people second, third, fourth, etc chances. We're all human and we all mess up. I recognize that. I choose to have a higher criteria in my intimate relationships.

 

[alkemyst]

There are a lot of variables, but in general cheating probably.

Someone abandoning a child would have to have a great reason.

Pretty much though as long as there was justification and that it wasn't out of stupidity or selfish reasons...then yes.

 

[her34]

Originally posted by: alkemyst
There are a lot of variables, but in general cheating probably.

Someone abandoning a child would have to have a great reason.

Pretty much though as long as there was justification and that it wasn't out of stupidity or selfish reasons...then yes.

does the reason really matter? if a person made a mistake whether for selfish or noble reasons, but they are now sorry and a changed person, does how they got there matter?

 

[MX2]

We all make mistakes, whether large or small.

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

Depends on who they are and what they did. Cheaters and child abandoners? Fvck no I hope they burn in hell.

 

[DaveSimmons]

Originally posted by: her34
does the reason really matter? if a person made a mistake whether for selfish or noble reasons, but they are now sorry and a changed person, does how they got there matter?

You are not obligated to accept them back into your life just because they have changed and are sorry. That doesn't erase the hurt they caused you.

For me it depends on the specific person and situation so what-if isn't really answerable beyond "maybe, but not automatically."

 

[Sphexi]

Originally posted by: her34
someone who cheated in a relationship or a parent who abandoned their child.

if the person was truly sorry would you give them a second chance?



what acts have you forgiven or seen someone else forgive, and how did it work out?

I believe in 2nd chances, yes. But not in the two situations you just described. I think there are reasons a parent might have for giving up a child, or going away for a while, but simply abandoning their child would be just wrong. Cheating on a spouse/SO is wrong, and something I would not forgive.

 

[alkemyst]

Originally posted by: her34

Originally posted by: alkemyst
There are a lot of variables, but in general cheating probably.

Someone abandoning a child would have to have a great reason.

Pretty much though as long as there was justification and that it wasn't out of stupidity or selfish reasons...then yes.

does the reason really matter? if a person made a mistake whether for selfish or noble reasons, but they are now sorry and a changed person, does how they got there matter?

IMHO people don't really change. They can definitely be sorry...however, if done out of totally selfish reasons then there is not a lot to work with.

They don't have to be noble reasons though.

 

[stars]

No, never for cheating. People that care for another will not cheat. Hell hath no fury for a single mans porn. Haha. Abandoned for health and safety reasons is understandable if the parents where homeless, heavy drug users, etc.

 

[The Stigenator]

a second chance will only work if the other person means it and does things to mitigate that second chance.. meaning they got to change and not just show it for sake of showing it.

 

[Keyvan]

i might give them another chance depending on the situation, but even if I did, I would never ever trust them the way I did in the first place.
cheating and child-abandoning, i don't think I would. cheating is just bound to happen again, and I can't think of a good reason to literally "abandon" your children...

 

[Specop 007]

Originally posted by: DAGTA
Situational dependent. In an intimate relationship with a mate that cheated on me, I would likely not give her a second chance. In other situations, yes I have and will continue to give people second, third, fourth, etc chances. We're all human and we all mess up. I recognize that. I choose to have a higher criteria in my intimate relationships.

Well said.