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Do women look at the earning potential of men a whole lot?

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ajayjuneja

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I just had a conversation with one of my female friends and she said "Of course they do!" This same girl blabbed at a restaurant a while back about how much I earned at a past job (I am still in school) to a waitress, and the waitress's eyes immediately perked up. This wasn't our waitress, so I know she wasn't doing it for the tip (we were sitting at the bar).

If this is the case, then I better watch my bank account when I get into a serious relationship after college ends!

Any other guys have similar experiences / Any ladies out there who can tell me how important earning potential is when picking out a mate?
 
My wife went from a well-to-do pompus ass to me, a broke ass techie with kids, and she hasn't complained once in five years. I think it's safe to say a fair amount of both men and women look at the bank books as highly important factors in their relationships, but not all.

DC
 
Its more important what you do. If you said you made 300 bucks an hour bending over for 20 guys a night, i'm sure the waitress woulda been somewhat less impressed.

And the waitress was asian wasnt she?....

wait, that was so wrong....🙂
 
Originally posted by: freebee
Its more important what you do. If you said you made 300 bucks an hour bending over for 20 guys a night, i'm sure the waitress woulda been somewhat less impressed.

And the waitress was asian wasnt she?....

wait, that was so wrong....🙂
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Heh, that wasn't too wrong. 😉 I think it actually depends on their upbringing. You know how a lot of asian parents stress money... 😉
 
Mine sure as hell didn't

She could care less what I make actually... She keeps talking about moving to South America to do research.... (she's a biologist...) and we have 2 kids :Q
 
Originally posted by: freebee
Its more important what you do. If you said you made 300 bucks an hour bending over for 20 guys a night, i'm sure the waitress woulda been somewhat less impressed.

And the waitress was asian wasnt she?....

wait, that was so wrong....🙂
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Haha, no the waitress was caucasian, a student @ Pitt (I go right next door to Carnegie Mellon).

Still, I prefer that a woman not look at me by earning potential. That tells me to stay away!
 
We have to realize of course, how much a man might look at how attractive a woman is, and whether considering that is any less or more shallow than how much money a person makes. I suppose men could tell themselves they're being more "enlightened" when they check out the cute check-out girl/woman at the BlockBuster. 🙂

I would certainly think that *employed* or trying to be is a much better mate than unemployed and doesn't care.
 

honestly they do at some level😛 you look at their looks, they gotta think of their future if they want kids😛
 
Why shouldn't they? And why shouldn't men do the same thing?

I'm not saying to only go out with people who have great jobs and make a lot of money, but I think that how someone is at their jobs can be a big indication of how someone can be in a relationship or even marriage.

I would say that most people who can keep a good job and do it well will have a better marriage than the couple where the guy doesn't work and just sits around and smokes pot all day.

Edit: On a side note, a friend of mine is starting at Pitt Law this fall.
 
Originally posted by: DeschutesCore
My wife went from a well-to-do pompus ass to me, a broke ass techie with kids, and she hasn't complained once in five years. I think it's safe to say a fair amount of both men and women look at the bank books as highly important factors in their relationships, but not all.

DC
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well your a techie based earner, so you do have some potential. i don' tthink she would have given you a second glance if she found out u were a garbage man even if you earned slightly more😛
 
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Originally posted by: DeschutesCore
My wife went from a well-to-do pompus ass to me, a broke ass techie with kids, and she hasn't complained once in five years. I think it's safe to say a fair amount of both men and women look at the bank books as highly important factors in their relationships, but not all.

DC
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well your a techie based earner, so you do have some potential. i don' tthink she would have given you a second glance if she found out u were a garbage man even if you earned slightly more😛
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Trash crews in my area earn $16/hr and are protected by unions. Park Rangers make $22/hr. Average shop tech in my area, $12/hr. Not sure about that potential thang either, but thanks for the cheer-up.

DC
 
Do women look at the earning potential of men a whole lot?
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Sure, they all do, wouldn't you?

However, how much of a priority it is varies from one woman to the next. Some are all about the earning potential, many in fact. Others aren't so obsessed with money that they would be willing to marry a real dick-head or fat guy with body odor just beause he makes a lot of money.

Younger women, I think more than older women, are money oriented.
 
Originally posted by: tcsenter
Do women look at the earning potential of men a whole lot?
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Sure, they all do, wouldn't you?

However, how much of a priority it is varies from one woman to the next. Some are all about the earning potential, many in fact. Others aren't so obsessed with money that they would be willing to marry a real dick-head or fat guy with body odor just beause he makes a lot of money.

Younger women, I think more than older women, are money oriented.
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probably cuz the older women can't get the rich guys 😛

i look at potential looks in a woman... if i was going to marry somebody, i'd want to make sure her mom wasn't butt ugly.
 
My girlfriend doesn't like when I say anything about how much money I make...It kinda upsets her because my job is so easy and I make 3 times as much as she does 🙂
 
Sure they do. They want to know you can provide for them and any kids.

And one of the things I look at women is their ability to contribute. I don't want some fat lazy woman sitting around the house all day while I work, only to tell me how I should spend my money on them. Sure, if I were married I'd want my wife to stay home for a few years, but as the kids got older, she'd probably need to work. If I meet a woman and they either don't work or they aren't going to school for something, I won't waste much time with them.
 
Of course they do and men do the other way around. I met mrs.skoorb in university so neither of us were making anything then but assumed we eventually would. I think that as long as one of us is making decent money the other one could make crap and it would be ok now but if I had to go out of the blue now at the age of 24 and find a new mate I wouldn't even bother if she wasn't at least making decent money or would be in the future.

Since there are so many fish in the sea why bother devoting time to a total stranger when they have a poor financial future? Money equals a hell of a lot in society and it doesn't just mean you're shallow. It takes a back seat to love but it's very important.
 
Originally posted by: Skoorb
Of course they do and men do the other way around. I met mrs.skoorb in university so neither of us were making anything then but assumed we eventually would. I think that as long as one of us is making decent money the other one could make crap and it would be ok now but if I had to go out of the blue now at the age of 24 and find a new mate I wouldn't even bother if she wasn't at least making decent money or would be in the future.

Since there are so many fish in the sea why bother devoting time to a total stranger when they have a poor financial future? Money equals a hell of a lot in society and it doesn't just mean you're shallow. It takes a back seat to love but it's very important.
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Wow! Earning potential here didn't include learning about run on sentences! 😀

My mother always told me to marry a geek as they make the best husbands...so I did! 😀
 
Originally posted by: tcsenter
probably cuz the older women can't get the rich guys
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Well by older I didn't mean 73. I meant 'older' than giggly hee hee 18 or 21 year olds who really have no clue what they want in a guy.
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yea i know what you mean... gold diggers are mostly young because most rich guys like young bodies.
 
so what about the flip side, do you guys out there look at a women to see if she is successful? doctor, laywer, etc? i never thought of it to be a quality i look for in a lady but now i think about it more and more.
 
I'd say not so much when youre young...like as in college or younger, but later on definitely. But it depends on the person. I know I'll be financially secure, so I could care less if a girl I go out w/ has money. Chicks definitely care a lot more than dudes. I dont know any dude that looks at how much a girl is makin...ever. When a chick is lookin to marry you, I guess it matters some. A lot of times its subliminal though, I know a chick who thinks a dude is really attractive because he bought a beamer himself, has a crotch rocket, has his pilots liscense, that kinda crap. A lot of chicks are golddiggers subconciously.
 
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