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Do people realize how few "true" friends we all have?

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Mallow

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I think this realization is usually held by sour older people... however, in my short life (<25 years) I have come to the conclusion that the people we all call friends can often be very far from it. I think it may take being stabbed in the back by so called friends a few times before we start to see the true ways of the world.

There are so many people that come in and out of our lives we call friends but IMO that is a status many do not deserve. I have see complete strangers behave as a truer friend than people I have known and liked since grade school. I was just curious what you all thought about my epiphany. I truely believe I only have about 3 true friends out of my dozens of "so-called" friends.
 
I agree, of course. Of all my "friends" or acquantances, I have only a few real friends. Other people I don't bother associating myself with very much other than what's necessary.
 
Looks like it's not only me who thinks this way. I'm not saying it's a good thing, of course. There's definitely something wrong about it, but many people wouldn't like to do anything to change it.

For example, I know it's a shame, but I don't currently have any friends. Yeah, my life went that way. It's that strangers are your temporary 'friends', and they always change. I'm not seeing anything wrong in it. I didn't want that somebody to be my friend, we just don't have much in common at all, then another man I'd like to make friends with is unreachable. It's all that complicated stuff.
 
I know what ya mean. I believe I only have 2 true friends. One of the funny things is that one of those friends was a person i used to hate with a passion. 😛
 
I came to the realization when I left university and most of the people I know fell out of contact. Same as happened after highschool. Same as happens when you change jobs, etc.
 
Originally posted by: d33pt
you know who your real friends are when money is involved
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Yeah, money is your only friend if it's involved. Everything else is of secondary importance usually.
 
When you're down in the gutter, you know who your true friends are.

Oh & friends help you move. Real friends help you move bodies.

 
Originally posted by: Skoorb
I came to the realization when I left university and most of the people I know fell out of contact. Same as happened after highschool. Same as happens when you change jobs, etc.
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You have me!@
 
I think I have one true friend aside from family. Another one of my friends was killed in a car accident last year 🙁. The rest of 'em are fun to hang out with every once in a while but nothing more than that. BTW, it tooks you guys an awful long time to realize this. I'm only 17 😛. I've moved around a lot and there have been very few people I keep in touch with after moving. I kinda like leaving it all behind every few years .. maybe that's not a good thing.
 
It sucks when you finally realize this. I only have 5 "true" friends in my life and one of them is my sister.
 
Originally posted by: AstIsis
It sucks when you finally realize this. I only have 5 "true" friends in my life and one of them is my sister.
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Well if siblings count, I'd have to say I'm good friends with two of my eight siblings .. my brother and sister just older than me.
 
There are those we call friends, and then there are those whom with we are friendly.

There is a very clear distinction between the two.

~wnied~
 
Originally posted by: Deslocke
Originally posted by: AstIsis
It sucks when you finally realize this. I only have 5 "true" friends in my life and one of them is my sister.
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Well if siblings count, I'd have to say I'm good friends with two of my eight siblings .. my brother and sister just older than me.
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I think siblings count. After you reach a certain age, you start to realize that they are for more then just fighting with all the time. 😉
 
Took you long enough to realize the difference between friends and acquaintances.
I thought most came to this realization around 15-16... guess not.
 
Originally posted by: Mallow
I think this realization is usually held by sour older people... however, in my short life (<25 years) I have come to the conclusion that the people we all call friends can often be very far from it. I think it may take being stabbed in the back by so called friends a few times before we start to see the true ways of the world.

There are so many people that come in and out of our lives we call friends but IMO that is a status many do not deserve. I have see complete strangers behave as a truer friend than people I have known and liked since grade school. I was just curious what you all thought about my epiphany. I truely believe I only have about 3 true friends out of my dozens of "so-called" friends.
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Mallow what makes you say that?
Did anythnig not happy happened just recently btw you and your so called friends?
Sounds like there is something you want to share
 
Originally posted by: Ernieb
Originally posted by: Mallow
I think this realization is usually held by sour older people... however, in my short life (<25 years) I have come to the conclusion that the people we all call friends can often be very far from it. I think it may take being stabbed in the back by so called friends a few times before we start to see the true ways of the world.

There are so many people that come in and out of our lives we call friends but IMO that is a status many do not deserve. I have see complete strangers behave as a truer friend than people I have known and liked since grade school. I was just curious what you all thought about my epiphany. I truely believe I only have about 3 true friends out of my dozens of "so-called" friends.
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Mallow what makes you say that?
Did anythnig not happy happened just recently btw you and your so called friends?
Sounds like there is something you want to share
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Honestly there is not one single occurance that has recently lead me to this realization. Instead it is years of accumulated experiences.

The thing that all of a sudden made me think to write this thread is how different people don't care to call you back when you leave a message. Seems like an off topic thing to start me thinking about friendship but it just did. I can not stand it when people know I'm trying to contact them and they don't call me back. :/
 
Also, I think others in this thread have been right.

You know who your true friends are when money is at stake and when you are at your low points. People who are your friends only during your high points must be discarded.
 
i've never made an effort to keep in touch with past "friends" so i guess i fall in that category of someone you wouldn't consider a true friend mallow.

me, i have my family (wife and kids) i have my parents and my brother and sister. outside of that there is no one i would trust with anything really really important to me personally. call me a loser if you will, but i'm too busy with work and family to have "friends".

that's more just a high school/college thing anyway.
 
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