I completely understand this, but the 3GS can play plenty of games, and the 4 is slower. There are certainyl some games optimized for the 4S, or like when they made Real Racing for the 2/3G different than the 3GS. The point is, iPhone users are rarely going to be crying about missing out on this app or that app... maybe until they're left many generations behind.
Think you got a typo in the first sentence, the 3GS is considerably slower than the iPhone 4.
Apple user's only care about performance, apps, or features when Apple tells them they should care. Its a sad fact that the majority of them are not informed consumers at all.
But the fact is for Android users, we feel completely outdated in less than 6 months.... It's not just about a newer phone coming out every few months. It's the fact that an older phone is already considered crappy because it can't run X, Y, and Z. Just like last year's Nexus S is considered total crap already, but is anyone saying this about the iPhone 4 which is even older? Nah.
Fortunately, most of the 'new' phones are simply rehashes of the previous model with little improvement. Motorola and HTC have been doing this for a while, and consumers have noticed, notice their poor financials. The Samsung Galaxy S series, for example, doesn't have a marginally better model released every 4 months. There is very little the slightly older phones can't handle or run, so I'm not sure what you're referring to when you say they can't run X, Y, and Z. Even the Droid X, more than 18 months old, is fully capable of running ICS. Had Moto not released a baker's dozen of phones since then and skinned it with Blur, they'd easily have the dev resources and phone resources to release/run an ICS build. Manufacturers not supporting the device isn't the same as the device being incapable though, direct your nerd rage where it belongs.
How is the Nexus S considered crap though? Its Hummingbird is still damn solid, and its one of only two phones running official ICS builds. There's nothing crap about it. Its just not the latest and greatest, being a year old.