Disturbing - what to do about a stalker who moved from MA to CA to be near me?

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meltdown75

Lifer
Nov 17, 2004
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Originally posted by: JulesMaximus
Originally posted by: pclstyle
damn even the ugly ones have stalkers these days

back in my day, a stalker or two was a symbol of status. I used to handfeed mine when she behaved.

what's this world coming to?

WTF??? :confused:

Apparently we need to add 'serial killers and general psychopaths' to our user base listing... ;) pcl
 

BooGiMaN

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if all else fails stalk him back...tell him you want all his phone numbers and access to all his email accounts passwords, bank accounts etc...

and start stalking him...reading his email/phone messages deleting them..calling him at all hours of the day making him do errands for you...


call him at 2 in the morning telling him you are craving ice cream when he brings it to you, open the door take the ice cream and slam the door saying thanks....lets see how long he can take that....

 

imported_Tomato

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Originally posted by: Skoorb
Have you actually done what was mentioned above, which is tell him outright and with certainty that you never want to hear from him again? Tell him he seems like a nice enough guy, but that his behaviour freaks you out, you have a fiancee, and you are not interested in him in any way at all.

Thanks Skoorb... but yes, I've actually told him to leave me alone dozens of times in many different ways (angry, polite, mature, threatening) over the course of a couple years. :( Do you think I should go ahead and call him at his new workplace and reiterate that to him, live and in person? I've tried doing it via phone and e-mail years ago, but maybe he needs to hear it again. I'm willing to do almost anything at this point (I'm leaning towards the compactor idea :p ).
 

TheNinja

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Jan 22, 2003
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Would you like to hire my services? I'm quite stealthy and extremely deadly!

P.S. - But I DO love you and I CAN take care of you forever and ever!!! Why can't you see that and come back to me??!

P.P.S - Ummmm, nevermind that P.S......
 

PricklyPete

Lifer
Sep 17, 2002
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Originally posted by: Nitemare
Dear Tomato, I wrote but you still ain't callin
I left my cell, my pager, and my home phone at the bottom
I sent two letters back in autumn, you must not-a got 'em
There probably was a problem at the post office or somethin
Sometimes I scribble addresses too sloppy when I jot 'em
but anyways; fvck it, what's been up? Girl how's your posting?
My girlfriend's pregnant too, I'm bout to be a father
If I have a daughter, guess what I'ma call her?
I'm a name her Mater
I read about your Uncle Ronnie too I'm sorry
I had a friend kill himself over some b!tch who didn't want him
I know you probably hear this everyday, but I'm your biggest fan
I even got the underground sh!t that you did with Xanga
I got a room full of your posters and your pictures man
I like the sh!t you did with Blogging too, that sh!t was fat
Anyways, I hope you get this girl, hit me back,
just to chat, truly yours, your biggest fan
Your friend in Christ, Steve.

Well done Stan.
 

SP33Demon

Lifer
Jun 22, 2001
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Originally posted by: Nitemare
Dear Tomato, I wrote but you still ain't callin
I left my cell, my pager, and my home phone at the bottom
I sent two letters back in autumn, you must not-a got 'em
There probably was a problem at the post office or somethin
Sometimes I scribble addresses too sloppy when I jot 'em
but anyways; fvck it, what's been up? Girl how's your posting?
My girlfriend's pregnant too, I'm bout to be a father
If I have a daughter, guess what I'ma call her?
I'm a name her Mater
I read about your Uncle Ronnie too I'm sorry
I had a friend kill himself over some b!tch who didn't want him
I know you probably hear this everyday, but I'm your biggest fan
I even got the underground sh!t that you did with Xanga
I got a room full of your posters and your pictures man
I like the sh!t you did with Blogging too, that sh!t was fat
Anyways, I hope you get this girl, hit me back,
just to chat, truly yours, your biggest fan
Your friend in Christ, Steve.
lol... Slim Shady, is that you?

 

JulesMaximus

No Lifer
Jul 3, 2003
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Originally posted by: Tomato
Originally posted by: Hammer
i read that whole thing. to be honest, i'm skeptical he really did move. hey may just be messing with you. its difficult to move across the country, find a job, take care of all your documentation (license plate, DL, etc); not to mention expensive. are you really sure he's actually moved at any point? if you're that worried, just get the restraining order. if you've kept all the emails, it should be a problem getting one i'd image.

He sent me the e-mail from his new workplace, and I typed in the URL of his new company which is indeed located in Laguna Beach. :( The e-mail also has his new phone number and company address, which is only 40 minutes away. :(

Post it on here along with this loser's name. Maybe a little ATOT effect is in order? :D
 

PricklyPete

Lifer
Sep 17, 2002
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Originally posted by: Tomato
Originally posted by: Skoorb
Have you actually done what was mentioned above, which is tell him outright and with certainty that you never want to hear from him again? Tell him he seems like a nice enough guy, but that his behaviour freaks you out, you have a fiancee, and you are not interested in him in any way at all.

Thanks Skoorb... but yes, I've actually told him to leave me alone dozens of times in many different ways (angry, polite, mature, threatening) over the course of a couple years. :( Do you think I should go ahead and call him at his new workplace and reiterate that to him, live and in person? I've tried doing it via phone and e-mail years ago, but maybe he needs to hear it again. I'm willing to do almost anything at this point (I'm leaning towards the compactor idea :p ).

You definitely should in my opinion. He may think that what you told him before was just from the relationship angst. Telling him again so many years later may cement in his mind that you really want nothing to do with him.

 

Bryophyte

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Ooh, you considered telling him that if he ever contacts you again that you'll notify his employer? He is using his work time/resources for stalking. That couldn't be something they condone.
 

imported_Tomato

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Originally posted by: JulesMaximus
Originally posted by: Tomato
Originally posted by: Hammer
i read that whole thing. to be honest, i'm skeptical he really did move. hey may just be messing with you. its difficult to move across the country, find a job, take care of all your documentation (license plate, DL, etc); not to mention expensive. are you really sure he's actually moved at any point? if you're that worried, just get the restraining order. if you've kept all the emails, it should be a problem getting one i'd image.

He sent me the e-mail from his new workplace, and I typed in the URL of his new company which is indeed located in Laguna Beach. :( The e-mail also has his new phone number and company address, which is only 40 minutes away. :(

Post it on here along with this loser's name. Maybe a little ATOT effect is in order? :D

Tempting, but it may do more harm than good. I know there are a number of AT-ers who despise me for one reason or another, and I wouldn't want them helping him in any way, shape or form. I guess I can give his name, which is Adam Siegel.
 

meltdown75

Lifer
Nov 17, 2004
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Originally posted by: Bryophyte
Ooh, you considered telling him that if he ever contacts you again that you'll notify his employer? He is using his work time/resources for stalking. That couldn't be something they condone.

No doubt! Not to mention the fact that (allegedly) he moved there just to be closer to the Tomato sauce. That wouldn't place him too highly on the whole corporate totem pole, if you know what I mean. Moving for career aspirations, ok. Moving to enable extreme stalker mode.. uhh.. can you say ISSUES?
 

imported_Tomato

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Originally posted by: Bryophyte
Ooh, you considered telling him that if he ever contacts you again that you'll notify his employer? He is using his work time/resources for stalking. That couldn't be something they condone.

LOVE the idea... he claims his friend is the one who owns the company he now works for, but still, it couldn't hurt. Do you think it would help if I contacted his employer and explained the situation? Or would it just make things worse? I don't want to piss him off and encourage him to retaliate in any way. :(
 

richardycc

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can't you just ignore him? seems like he is in aggressive passive mode, ie: sending you a headsup email, call and hung up, etc. he is pressing your button to see which one will make you tick. the best thing to do is just ignore him, if you give him any attention, it will make the situation worst. good luck..and no I am not that stalker. :p
 

Stark

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Jun 16, 2000
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no offense, ivy

but your online escapades make it extremely easy for someone to stalk you. You may need think about to re-making yourself online, if not taking an extended break from the internet entirely.

He's obviously keeping up with your life somehow... if he simply lurked here and bbzzdd, he'd know what you looked like, what your friends look like, and what you do every weekend. :roll:

And little fat stalker troll... if you are lurking here, there are plenty of members here who would like nothing better than to make your life miserable if don't back off. :evil:
 

imported_Tomato

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Sep 11, 2002
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Originally posted by: Stark
no offense, ivy

but your online escapades make it extremely easy for someone to stalk you. You may need think about to re-making yourself online, if not taking an extended break from the internet entirely.

He's obviously keeping up with your life somehow... if he simply lurked here and bbzzdd, he'd know what you looked like, what your friends look like, and what you do every weekend. :roll:

And little fat stalker troll... if you are lurking here, there are plenty of members here who would like nothing better than to make your life miserable if don't back off. :evil:

No offense taken Stark... it's become blatantly obvious that my internet activity has made it way too easy to people to find me/find out every detail of my life, pretty much. I haven't been smart about protecting my privacy, and am in the process of taking serious steps to try and stop the damage. No more public online journals, myspace/friendster activity, or use of old e-mail addresses. I have a lot of crap scattered everywhere, but hopefully it won't take too long to clean up. :\
 

liquidblue

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Jan 20, 2005
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Originally posted by: DougK62
He's reading this right now.....dun dun DUUUUUNN!!!!!!

ROFL.

My coworkers must think I'm strange for going... "pffffttt!!" containing my laughter.
 

Stark

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Jun 16, 2000
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Originally posted by: Tomato

No offense taken Stark... it's become blatantly obvious that my internet activity has made it way too easy to people to find me/find out every detail of my life, pretty much. I haven't been smart about protecting my privacy, and am in the process of taking serious steps to try and stop the damage. No more public online journals, myspace/friendster activity, or use of old e-mail addresses. I have a lot of crap scattered everywhere, but hopefully it won't take too long to clean up. :\

before you do all that and disappear, can you at least post his info (anonymously, of course)?

as much as i hate to do a profit post...

1. post info
2. atot hoards let loose on him
3. stalker exposed, photochopped into tubgrl and sent to everyone in address book, loses job, house, becomes bum
3. profit!