According to
Peter Sommer and the
OECD:
"A true cyberwar is an event with the characteristics of conventional war but fought exclusively in cyberspace."
Nothing that Flame does, or can do, amounts to an act of war.
Calling Flame a cyber weapon is not helpful. One of the problems sited by Sommer's is:
"... the lack of agreement on terminology and the use of exaggerated language."
From my perspective, anyone that lets their users download and install 20 MB worth of malware, like Flame, is likely to have a problem. I'll call that a malware problem.
If you want to call it something different, that is your prerogative.
But when you start using terms like cyber war and cyber weapon, I'll call it FUD.
Uno