Disagreement with my dad - need a little advice

[geno]

It's nothing too huge - but he's not happy about it. I'm going to pick my car up tomorrow morning, and my father was going to take me down there (it's about an hour drive). Well last night he desides that he wants to take the car back himself - stating that I don't know how to drive a standard (which I do). Well I met up with him tonight for dinner (we both left work), and he said that he's worried that something could be wrong with the car, like a wheel could fall off or somehting (?) and he'd know how to react better. So I tell him I'll think about it. Well before I left he said "I want to know now, if you'll be going or not" and I just told him "If I won't be driving it back, then I guess we're not going - I'll find a friend to drive me". He really expected me to back down - and I didn't. Well he was pissed, but not really showing it. From a neutral standpoint - do you think I'm wrong? I tend to think that he's way too worried about this. Any advice or help? I was thinking about caving in - but I could just find a friend to go with me and we'll be done with it.

 

[Zoltar]

You'll be getting a car, so let it be.

You'll have plenty of time to enjoy it from then on.

 

[rominl]

i always suggest explaining your position to your dad, that he's worrying too much, and you are old enough to take care of it.

 

[Soybomb]

I do think he has your safety in mind, but also if he really enjoys driving it maybe he'll be more likely to help you wish cash for mods in the future, or want one of his own. I'd let him drive I think

 

[StageLeft]

Tough to say, he's worrying which is comendible but on the other hand if i was a teenager (?) getting my first car you can bet your ass I'd want to drive it back. I'd be pissed otherwise cause you've been looking forward to it for a while - is it a car you're buying?

 

[geno]

Skoorb, it's my 2nd car. And I've been looking forward to it since November when I sealed the deal for it. I just called him up and kinda caved in. I told him I'd let him drive back with it - but I still think that it's ridiculous.

 

[mpg]

oh i didn't understand the first time i read, let him drive it home i say. what kind of car is it? basically if you f something up he can say "I told ya so" and you will regret it. If you follow his rules nothing bad can really happen.

 

[geno]

mpg - check the link in my Sig (no, not the rig!)

 

[mpg]

oh ya duh the csx, i was thinking about getting that car but I didn't know how to drive stick . I know how to to drive stick, after buying my car that i'm happy with automatic for dialy driver in los angeles. I want to get a csx sort of car in the future for fun .

 

[Mday]

it's your life geno... ;-)

 

[UberNeuman]

geno - when your his age you'll be doing the same to your kids... Be happy that he's worried, even if it does bother you... And let him have his way... If he wants to drive, then let him, but if he wants to drive you all the time, then I'd say something to him

 

[Valhalla1]

my dad has to drive 1300 miles round trip once a month to go get my sisters who live with their mom for his visitation..
when I bought my car, he wanted me to let him take it instead of his truck.

I bought and paid for everything on the car, even got the loan with no co-signer because I wanted it all in my name, even though my interest rate is astronomical.

I told him that I wasn't going to let him drive it, if he had paid for part of it or something (which I would never let anyone do, ever since I turned 15 I wouldn't let my parents pay for anything), then I would let him.

 

[Soybomb]

So......how's the car?

 

[mpg]

how is the car?

 

I would have argued with my father about that too.
If I was getting a car Im all hyped about getting, I would want to be the first human in my family to enjoy its driving pleasure.
Whats the difference if you drive on the way home, or when you get home? You could pull out of your drive way and total it right there. But sucessfully make that hour drive home.
You will see your parents try and flex what little control they have over you as you get older.
Accept it graciously, you will get through it smoother.

 

[geno]

Thanks for the advice everyone! I ended up caving a little, but I still made it very clear that I didn't agree with it one bit. I took it out for a spin yesterday (don't have it registered/insured yet - but had a dealer plate)....man she screams... Hearing the whistle of that turbo provides a great sense of power I'll have it registered in a few days - I gotta get it appraised first!

 

[montanafan]

You'll have no regrets, genocide. The other way, you may have. A wise choice.