Did you marry someone from another country? How's it working out?

[MichaelD]

Did you marry someone from another country? How is it working out? Assuming you both speak the same language very well, communication is not a problem.

But the cultural differences, like music for example, can be "speedbumps" if you will. What about the whole "adjusting to another country" thing for your S.O.? How'd that go?

I believe that when you have trust and communication (in that order) you can get thru anything.

I'm curious to hear your stories.

Thanks.

 

[Electric Amish]

Yeah, she's a female from the country for Vaginaland.

 

[MichaelD]

Originally posted by: Electric Amish
Yeah, she's a female from the country for Vaginaland.

Mmm, that's right next to Micronesia, right?

 

[Sphexi]

I'm from the US, married a Canadian, but her family background is Chinese, her parents/aunts/uncles are all from Hong Kong, and moved to Canada over the past 30+ years. So now that I've moved up here I'm dealing with the Canadian culture (very laid back), and the Chinese culture (not so much, pretty busy), but it all melds together well.

 

[Rumpltzer]

Cultural differences like music being a speedbump??? You're not seriously considering marriage now if you need to ask something like that, are you?

Living in the US is tough. Leaving friends and family and career is very, very tough. We're working on it, and it's going okay.

Choose the right person, and it'll work out.

 

[Electric Amish]

Mmm, that's right next to Micronesia, right?

It is when we're having sex...

 

[amish]

are you thinking about a mail order bride?

 

[MichaelD]

Thanks, Sphexi.

I have to ask; are you of Chinese descent? If so...I guess you didn't have any trouble with her family. But if you are NOT, did you encounter any resistance from them?

You sound happy though. :thumbsup:

 

[EagleKeeper]

My wife is from Phillipines. No real problems. We have attempted to accomidated our differences.

 

[MichaelD]

Originally posted by: amish
are you thinking about a mail order bride?

God no! BTW, your Username is strikingly similar to someone else's. I doubt that other person has the need for another account...but wow....

 

[Sphexi]

Originally posted by: MichaelD
Thanks, Sphexi.

I have to ask; are you of Chinese descent? If so...I guess you didn't have any trouble with her family. But if you are NOT, did you encounter any resistance from them?

You sound happy though. :thumbsup:

Nope, I'm whiter than bleached bread. 3/4 Scottish - 1/8 English - 1/8 French, so basically I'm as white as they come. Her family obviously would've preferred a nice Chinese boy, but the one or two that she dated were pretty much total tools, and so far I've proven myself to be better than any of her past boyfriends without an issue. Plus, now that we have a kid, they really don't have a choice

 

[MichaelD]

Originally posted by: Rumpltzer
Cultural differences like music being a speedbump??? You're not seriously considering marriage now if you need to ask something like that, are you?

Living in the US is tough. Leaving friends and family and career is very, very tough. We're working on it, and it's going okay.

Choose the right person, and it'll work out.

I guess I chose a poor example by using music as the example in my OP. My fingers outran my brain, I guess.

I think i've found the right person...let me rephrase that. I honestly FEEL that I've found the right person. Nothing is definite ATM...but we've talked about it.

 

[MichaelD]

Originally posted by: Sphexi

Originally posted by: MichaelD
Thanks, Sphexi.

I have to ask; are you of Chinese descent? If so...I guess you didn't have any trouble with her family. But if you are NOT, did you encounter any resistance from them?

You sound happy though. :thumbsup:

Nope, I'm whiter than bleached bread. 3/4 Scottish - 1/8 English - 1/8 French, so basically I'm as white as they come. Her family obviously would've preferred a nice Chinese boy, but the one or two that she dated were pretty much total tools, and so far I've proven myself to be better than any of her past boyfriends without an issue. Plus, now that we have a kid, they really don't have a choice

LMAO!!! I often describe myself the same way when posting in some kind of "racial thread" here on ATOT. Rock on with the happiness, man! :beer: Thanks!

 

[JS80]

Awaits parody: Did you marry someone from another state? How's it working out?
Did you marry someone from another time period? How's it working out?
Did you marry someone from another species? How's it working out?
Did you marry someone from another world? How's it working out?

 

[MichaelD]

Originally posted by: JS80
Awaits parody: Did you marry someone from another state? How's it working out?
Did you marry someone from another time period? How's it working out?
Did you marry someone from another species? How's it working out?
Did you marry someone from another world? How's it working out?

How about no?

 

[MiniDoom]

yes, el salvador. she moved here when she was 8 so she is pretty americanized. we get along. I like her food. she tolerates me.

 

[dr150]

I married someone from the ex-Communist State of Labia.

All is goooood!!

 

[saymyname]

There will be cultural differences. They can be tough. Then they'll acclimate and you'll get a reverse cultural difference shock since odds are you married someone from another country since you didn't like the ones in your own.

That's what I've seen.

 

[wyvrn]

Yes, she is from Cambodia. She is cool, her parents are very strict and conservative. It causes tension but we find a way to work things out. Not recommended unless you're a strong person and don't mind fighting for what you want.

 

[Alienwho]

MichaelD where is she from?

I would love to marry a cultured/multilingual girl from another country, infact when opportunities arise I actively pursue it. I'd like to find a nice italian girl.

 

[Armitage]

My ex was from Peru. Some cultural issues, but nothing insurmountable. She had some expectations that weren't realistic in the US, or I didn't agree with (maid and/or live-in nanny being one). She had lived in the US for about 12 years when we met though, so was already pretty adjusted.

In the end she was just psychotic though - and I mean that in the clinical sense. I don't think being from a foreign country had anything to do with that.

 

[MichaelD]

Originally posted by: saymyname
Then they'll acclimate and you'll get a reverse cultural difference shock since odds are you married someone from another country since you didn't like the ones in your own.

You know, you're half right.

I haven't liked (enough, obviously) what I've seen so far with American women. Yet I know that somewhere out there, there's probably one for me...but I'll be damned if I spend the next X-years dating all the fcked in the head ones (like I've been doing) until I find one that I don't either want to strangle, or run away screaming from.

Not that I'm hellbent on getting married, but when something great drops into your lap, and you're at "that point in your life", you really have to make a decision.

 

[Linflas]

I'm married to a Canadian from Montreal. About the only thing that we definitely have a different outlook on would be guns, hers is what you would expect from a Canadian and mine is pretty much typically southern. We've made it 21 years so far.

 

[saymyname]

Women are mostly the same all across the globe from what I've seen. They want a confident man. They want one who can take care of them. The big difference with American women is that they all seem to have an awfull lot of baggage. It seems like they're all damaged goods.

I never would have known the difference until I dated women in other countries.

Don't give up the fight though. There's gotta be one out there.

 

[interchange]

Originally posted by: dr150
I married someone from the ex-Communist State of Labia.

All is goooood!!

I heard that it's a penile colony now.