Did you leave at 18, or close to it?

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Did you leave your house for good when you turned 18 or thereabout?

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SpunkyJones

Diamond Member
Apr 1, 2004
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Commuted to college, moved out shortly after graduation when I got my first job @ about 23ish.
 

smackababy

Lifer
Oct 30, 2008
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This is the more traditional story I expected. Surprised to see nearly 50% leave home for good at 18. How do you survive paying your own living expenses and still save enough for college/your first place? Did you have to go to near 30 to get out from under debt? And by debt I don't mean a mortgage.

For me, I worked full time and qualified for quite a bit of financial aid (helps when your family is poor). Eventually, though, it did prove to be too much and I dropped out of college to join the military. Luckily for me, it worked out about the same (if not better) because what I was in college for I did in the military. Got professional experience, which counts about the same in my field. Add in a drive to actually succeed and the discipline to learn my craft on my own, and I do okay.
 

Exterous

Super Moderator
Jun 20, 2006
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I went to college at 18 but came back home for the summer and holidays for a little less than two years. The second summer I got my own apartment and have been on this side of the state ever since
 

crashtech

Lifer
Jan 4, 2013
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Left when I was 17, crash landed onto mom's couch at 19, left for good half a year later.
 

DigDog

Lifer
Jun 3, 2011
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if you have to leave the home you were born in, something's wrong with your family.

(something was in fact wrong with my family, had to leave at 25)
 

JulesMaximus

No Lifer
Jul 3, 2003
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Yes, I moved out of my Mom's house around that age.

Been on my own ever since and there was nothing wrong with my family.
 
Feb 25, 2011
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Lived at home for college. Moved to grad school in another state at 21. Have lived "on my own"* for 11 years.

*I have a housemate and cats.
 

MrPickins

Diamond Member
May 24, 2003
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This is the more traditional story I expected. Surprised to see nearly 50% leave home for good at 18. How do you survive paying your own living expenses and still save enough for college/your first place? Did you have to go to near 30 to get out from under debt? And by debt I don't mean a mortgage.

Roommates, full time job and student loans (but no other debts).

Sure it wasn't a glamorous lifestyle, but I survived and learned a lot of good life lessons from it.
 

Platypus

Lifer
Apr 26, 2001
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This is the more traditional story I expected. Surprised to see nearly 50% leave home for good at 18. How do you survive paying your own living expenses and still save enough for college/your first place? Did you have to go to near 30 to get out from under debt? And by debt I don't mean a mortgage.

I got a job immediately while taking 21 credit hours in school and I suffered through it. I got student loans to pay for school and used some of the money for room and board and food. I got roommates after my first year to offset the cost of an apartment. I took classes in the summer which were cheaper and still counted for credit at my uni. I am 30 with no debt, my car is paid off and I do very well for myself.

When you're in a bad situation you can adapt if you have to. People who have never had to go through that don't have the same appreciation for the capabilities of the human spirit to endure whatever it is to get to a better place. People have ridiculous expectations of what they think they need when the reality is, you don't need hardly anything to survive. You can do it if you put in the work and effort.

For me personally, it was either get the fuck out of my nowhere white trash environment and away from my family situation or die. It's really a pretty easy choice to make when you think about it like that.
 

MrPickins

Diamond Member
May 24, 2003
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When you're in a bad situation you can adapt if you have to. People who have never had to go through that don't have the same appreciation for the capabilities of the human spirit to endure whatever it is to get to a better place. People have ridiculous expectations of what they think they need when the reality is, you don't need hardly anything to survive. You can do it if you put in the work and effort.


For me personally, it was either get the fuck out of my nowhere white trash environment and away from my family situation or die. It's really a pretty easy choice to make when you think about it like that.

:thumbsup:
 

zinfamous

No Lifer
Jul 12, 2006
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went to school in the same town, so I was around for weekends and summers (first summer after first year in college I lived at home).

Final semester of school, and next ~1/2 year, I moved back home because I was out of the country for that first semester and previous summer, so it didn't make sense to find anything.

Then I moved out of state at...23?
 

cronos

Diamond Member
Nov 7, 2001
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As far as place of living, the answer is yes. I moved out right after high school and only came back for visits. But I wasn't completely on my own until grad school (mid-20s).
 

Tombstone1881

Senior member
Aug 8, 2014
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I had about two months of high school left to go when I turned 18.
I graduated, then 8 days after my HS graduation, I was off to boot camp and lived on my own ever since.

I've always thought that 18 is when you should leave home, providing that you don't have to be a caregiver or have something else going on that would force you to have to remain at home. Otherwise, 18 is the age you should spread your wings and become an independent adult.
 

olds

Elite Member
Mar 3, 2000
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Turned 18 in December, graduated high school in February, moved out a week later.
 

thestrangebrew1

Diamond Member
Dec 7, 2011
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Moved to college about 2 mos after graduating at 18. Screwed that up, moved back home around 22, got my shit together in a year, moved out, went back to school and haven't moved back since.
 

JTsyo

Lifer
Nov 18, 2007
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18 went to college, still home for breaks and summer
21 moved for work would still come home on most weekends
 

Childs

Lifer
Jul 9, 2000
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I was somewhat on my own at 16. Right before my senior year my father had a heart attack and my parents thought it would be better to move closer to sea level. I had just transferred to play basketball at a big time school, so they let me stay. Got a small studio apartment and got a job when the season was over. Then JC to play more ball, and then off to college. I had jobs to pay for rent and stuff so I never went home during summer breaks. Longest I've been home since I was 16 was two months.
 

gorcorps

aka Brandon
Jul 18, 2004
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Went to school so lived up there most of the time. Lived at home for the first summer, then I was in an apartment or condo for the rest of my time there.
 

ringtail

Golden Member
Mar 10, 2012
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escaped FOREVER at 17


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