Did you break up with your b/f or g/f when you left for college?

I do not have a g/f at the moment
However, many of my friends do, and some are thinking about breaking up with them before they leave for college. I'm thinking thats the right thing to do, but im basing that on nothing about the future. What happened with all of you? Did you stay together? Did you break up?

 

[shiner]

Nope, stayed together. Until I came home one weekend and caught her in bed with another guy.

 

[badluck]

nah, try to keep as many as you can in the stable......

 

[optoman]

Getting married in October.

 

[Supermercado]

I don't have a girlfriend. Unless your girlfriend really means something to you (like, someone that you might want to spend the rest of your life with), breaking up may not be a bad idea. Once you get to college, you're going to be meeting a LOT of new people and being "tied down" to someone at home may not be the best thing. The decision is entirely up to you and how you feel, though.

 

[rgwalt]

I didn't have one, but I would say stay together if she is going to the same university as you. Otherwise, you have to make the call on a case by case basis.

Ryan

 

[lawaris]

nah ! the break-up came much later

 

[AreaCode707]

We dated until spring break, our freshmen year. Keeping in touch just wasn't working, he didn't put much effort into it and I depended on it too much. I'm looking forward to seeing him this summer, first time since breaking up - we ended on good terms - but dating through the year just didn't work, for a variety of reasons.

 

[Deeko]

I am a senior in HS...I intend on staying with my girlfriend when I go. She is a year younger than me so she will still be in HS next year. My college is only like an hour away so it won't be too bad. While I do think it is ideal to go into college totally fresh, including relationship-less, I love my girlfriend way too much to let an hour keep me from her.

 

[LivinLaVivaPollo]

Well let's see. Her dream was to go to UCLA or UC Berkeley... I for one would have been glad to have gotten into UCSD, but alas, being asian and being average will get you into no good engineering school. She got into LA, Cal, SD, SCU, Cal Poly, etc. For all of you who think she jumped at the opportunity... she didn't, despite getting a 5K scholarship and guaranteed housing at UCSD.

She gave up her life dream to come with me to UC Santa Cruz. She loves me that much. So, no, we didn't break up.

 

[spanky]

nope, my hand came with me.

 

[EvilYoda]

Long twisted story for me on this subject.....my g/f's two years younger than me, so last year, my freshman year, we tried seeing other people (kind of....yeah, confusing already), but that didn't last, so we stayed together, which was a good idea, and we stayed together through this year (I go to school at UM Ann Arbor, and I live in Troy, which is an hour away), and saw each other about once every 2 weeks, averaged across the entire school year. I either drove home or she came up. It was a good decision, since she's made me so happy for the last 2 years and 5 months. Now, turns out, that she's going to the same school in the fall, so we have a whole situation to deal with, since if we stay together, we're talking about some serious stuff.

AHHHHHHHHHHHHH! I wish this were easier. I think I gave you way more knowledge than you ever wanted to know, eh? Sorries.

 

[pillage2001]

Originally posted by: shinerburke
Nope, stayed together. Until I came home one weekend and caught her in bed with another guy.

Oh shait......what did you do then?!?!? I would have shot that guy and then shoot my gf!

 

[shiner]

Oh shait......what did you do then?!?!? I would have shot that guy and then shoot my gf!

Lost my mind....I literally don't remember anything until almost 30 minutes later when I was sitting on her couch filling out a police report. I never laid a hand on her though. Put him in the hospital. Several broken ribs, concussion, broken arm, bloody this and bloody that. He didn't press charges though, think he was too afraid to. Not that I'm all badass or anything. Beating a naked guy senseless isn't exactly difficult.

 

[kru]

nope. but i should have.

had the breakup from hell with her about a year after doing the long distance thing (i was in L.A. and she was in the Philippines).

we broke up in '95, she got married in '00 and i thought that after seven years we could have a mature, civil conversation...but after her husband told me she didn't want to speak to me and told me to fsck off i guess i know better...

 

[Frosty3799]

Originally posted by: pillage2001

Originally posted by: shinerburke
Nope, stayed together. Until I came home one weekend and caught her in bed with another guy.

Oh shait......what did you do then?!?!? I would have shot that guy and then shoot my gf!

and then ruined your life............. and enjoyed the next 20-30 years in prison

 

[bunker]

Dumped her the summer before college started.

 

[pillage2001]

Originally posted by: shinerburke
Lost my mind....I literally don't remember anything until almost 30 minutes later when I was sitting on her couch filling out a police report. I never laid a hand on her though. Put him in the hospital. Several broken ribs, concussion, broken arm, bloody this and bloody that. He didn't press charges though, think he was too afraid to. Not that I'm all badass or anything. Beating a naked guy senseless isn't exactly difficult.

LOL, that's cool dude. At least he did not press charges of any kind on ya.

I was with my GF since high school and I'm a Senior in college now. She's about to become a Senior too. Been together for 4 years plus.

 

[Gibson486]

My G/F and I had a sad talk about that after she got her SAT scores back. Her scores would get her denied out of all my top choice colleges, all of which were in Boston. However, all came through when she got accepted to a Junior College that's a 5 min walk from all my top choice colleges

 

[Rivergater]

no i didn't but it was a mistake.

maintaining a long distance relationship is hard work. you really have to put in your time and effort to communicate and stay close. i was too immature to maintain the long distance thing and we ended up growing apart. it started to feel like a chore after a while to call and talk. its not like i met all these other girls that got in the way of our relationship, it was just that we grew apart. i didn't know what she was doing and she didn't know what i was doing and after a while i didn't have the patience to clue her in because i didn't understand at the time.

 

[ThaGrandCow]

We stayed together, she was a year older than me so she left first. I thought everything was going decently until I got a message from one of the guys she'd introduced me to that was "helping her with her programming." Apparently he'd been sleeping with her since almost the first day she'd been here at VT. I ended it quickly afterwards. Finally the guy realized that she was a slut (she cheated on him many, many times but he was a tool and just accepted it) and ended it with her too. Now she keeps sending me messages trying to get back together with me.

 

[AreaCode707]

Originally posted by: Rivergater
no i didn't but it was a mistake.

maintaining a long distance relationship is hard work. you really have to put in your time and effort to communicate and stay close. i was too immature to maintain the long distance thing and we ended up growing apart. it started to feel like a chore after a while to call and talk. its not like i met all these other girls that got in the way of our relationship, it was just that we grew apart. i didn't know what she was doing and she didn't know what i was doing and after a while i didn't have the patience to clue her in because i didn't understand at the time.

That's kinda what happened, I think, from my xbf's end. It wasn't anything about either of us particularly, just timing and distance.