Dealing with people that are always broke

[Texashiker]

<serious thread>

My wife and I have a friend who poor mouths all the the time, and I mean ALL the time. When we mention doing something like going to the movies, the first words out of his mouth is "I need to see how much money I have".

The problem is, he guy inherited a house from his grandfather, so he does not have a house note. He works a full time job, wife does not work and they have 3 kids.

The guy and his wife bought a gas hog SUV to transport their family around, and then complains about their gas bill.

Even though the kids can get WIC, neither the dad or the mom will go through the process of applying for the program. They can poor mouth, but they also pass up a couple of hundred dollars worth of free food every month.

Mr. Poor Mouth always needs to borrow money or food, or even both.

How do you handle someone that is always broke, even though the family should be able to live within their means.

 

[HAL9000]

Mr. Poor Mouth always needs to borrow money or food, or even both.

Just say no. Always.

 

[nageov3t]

it's their life. I don't give a shit how they manage their own finances.

but I wouldn't habitually give... er, "loan" them money.

 

[slayer202]

go "poor mouth" yourself

 

[kt]

Tell them your family need to be fed too.

 

[OverVolt]

How do people like that even have friends.

With that type of stuff I consider the person habitually asking me for money a complete asshole.

I'm always fair when I go out and spend money with a group.

So in case you missed it, your friend, is an asshole. So he needs to be dealt with the same way you deal with other assholes. Such as "can you spot me more money?" and you go "no go fuck yourself what happened to the last loan!?"

He sounds like the typical "adults are just children with bank accounts" manchild.

If a friend forgets their wallet and I know they can pay me back I have no problem covering it, but my job as their friend isn't to fill in their budget gaps.

 

[Atomic Playboy]

Sounds like that dude is just lazy. It's not hard to apply for food stamps or welfare, and it's not terribly hard to qualify, so if he actually NEEDED it (like his kids would die without it), he'd do it. I have plenty of friends who live paycheck to paycheck and won't be able to do things when their finances get stretched thin; actually, I know significantly more people like this than people who are never strapped for cash. The dude's laziness shouldn't be your concern, nor should his financial burdens; it's not on you to make sure he's fed when there are other options he hasn't pursued.

 

[Icepick]

If the guy is habitually asking you for money then stay away from him and get some new friends.

 

[SonicIce]

if he pays u back I would be fine with it but if he doesn't then no

 

[Bignate603]

How do you handle someone that is always broke, even though the family should be able to live within their means.

Simple answer, you don't. Their financial problems are theirs, not yours. Don't loan them money and don't make adjustments to your plans because they can't afford it. If they can't afford to go to the movies (or something else for that matter) just accept it and go without them.

 

[sygyzy]

Is "pour mouths" really a verb in Texas?

 

[Texashiker]

Is "pour mouths" really a verb in Texas?

Poor-mouths should be an adjective

Poor-mouthing should be a verb

 

[UberNeuman]

Just say no. Always.

^this - and quit telling him your future plans.... and "I like to help ya out, but money is kinda of tight right now...."

 

[sleep]

kids always used to ask me for money in school and they never paid back.

so now that i'm older i don't give out money at all, not even family.

tell him no. if he is using his money wastefully it's his own fault. if he is using his money in a good way paying for kids food and payments then it's still his own fault.

 

[eldorado99]

Poor-mouths should be an adjective

Poor-mouthing should be a verb

Are you sure you know what an adjective is? Maybe its just the dialect but that sounds completely wrong to me.

 

[quakefiend420]

Are you sure you know what an adjective is? Maybe its just the dialect but that sounds completely wrong to me.

I've lived in TX almost my entire life and I have no idea what he's on about.

 

[Squisher]

When my daughter was younger she'd continuously borrow $20 on Monday and then pay me when she got paid on Friday. I looked at her and said, I'm not really sure whose $20 this is, it's in your pocket for 4 days out of the week and in mine only for 3.

 

[sportage]

i get the impression the poor mouth family dont realy like you. take the hint.

 

[foghorn67]

Poor mouth? Is that like a brew pub? A what not?

 

[RockinZ28]

Most of my friends were always broke when we were 16-21, actually most still are getting close to 30. Anyway, when we were younger I'd always have money and they wouldn't have any to even grab something at McD's or see a movie.

I'd offer to pay but they would always decline. Sometimes I'd convince them to let me pay though, which was fine. Never asked for anything back. And you know what? When I fell on tough times for a couple years, they offered to pay for me so I could join them.

Sounds like if this guy is constantly asking for money, he's just using you. Must have a terribly low paying job also if he has no house payment, yet can't afford shit.

 

[MayorOfAmerica]

i get the impression the poor mouth family dont realy like you. take the hint.

He is a bit of a douche.

 

[CrazyAznDriver]

poor people smell, do not associate with them.

 

[Kadarin]

My wife and I have a friend

He is not a friend, he is someone who considers you a mark.

 

[Doppel]

I know some people who live in a 500k-1m+ house and retired living the good life and whine a bit about it, too. I refer to them as the poorest rich people I know.

 

[olds]

<serious thread>

My wife and I have a friend who poor mouths...

I don't think that means what you think it means.