Dealing with Death

[xXped0thugXx]

My Grandfather just recently passed. I was very close with him and am having a hard time dealing with it. Whats the best way to deal with his death? Laughter , surrounding yourself with friends? I just feel like being alone. Is it normal to feel angry.

Its the first time I've had someone so close to me die and just trying to cope with it sucks. So How do you deal with it? Whats the best way?

 

[artikk]

1. go to a shrink
2. talk to a friend/adult
3. take a week off and reconstruct/organize your life

 

[nageov3t]

Originally posted by: russianpower
1. go to a shrink
2. talk to a friend/adult

:thumbsup:

my aunt -- my mom's identical twin sister -- died when I was 9. effectively seeing my mom dead inside a coffin, especially at such a young age, really screwed me up. seeing a shrink helped a lot.

 

[her209]

Originally posted by: loki8481
my aunt -- my mom's identical twin sister -- died when I was 9. effectively seeing my mom dead inside a coffin, especially at such a young age, really screwed me up. seeing a shrink helped a lot.

Yeah, that would screw your head quite a bit.

 

[Analog]

 

[IndieSnob]

Originally posted by: russianpower
1. go to a shrink
2. talk to a friend/adult

Good advice. I'd also add DO NOT let anyone tell you how much/less you should grieve and for how long. People are built very differently emotionally, and as such, everyone has their way of coping. Just remember to not bottle up your feelings though, it'll hurt you in the long run.

Take care.

 

[xXped0thugXx]

Originally posted by: IndieSnob

Originally posted by: russianpower
1. go to a shrink
2. talk to a friend/adult

Good advice. I'd also add DO NOT let anyone tell you how much/less you should grieve and for how long. People are built very differently emotionally, and as such, everyone has their way of coping. Just remember to not bottle up your feelings though, it'll hurt you in the long run.

Take care.

I'm not comfortable going to a shrink, I feel as if I dont have much to talk about. Also I tend to bottle things up, its how I deal with it I guess, much like my father.

 

[jadinolf]

The older you get the easier it for you to get used to death. At my age I lose a friend every couple of weeks. You learn to accept it and give it little thought.

 

[kranky]

The best way is whatever works for you. Everyone grieves differently.

It's absolutely normal to feel angry, sad, withdrawn, extroverted, whatever - however you feel is how you feel and there's no right or wrong.

It's going to be tough because it's the first time you've lost someone close, but it won't last forever. As you come to accept his passing and come to terms with it it will become easier.

I'm sorry to hear about your loss and I wish you the best.

 

[MrDudeMan]

a shrink will get it out of you...you dont have to have much to talk about when you go in. bottling things up inside is not a good idea. you should probably overcome that and vent another way. im not saying change your personality, but bottling it up and letting it piss you off is not a good idea/habit. it could cause a lot of undue stress on you.

 

[Chaotic42]

This may sound cold, but I just dealt with it. My mother and grandmother died within a few weeks of each other. I was sad, but I knew that crying and whatnot wouldn't bring them back.

Just remember that there's nothing you can do about it.

 

[Random Variable]

What you're feeling is completely normal. As time passes, you will be better able to cope.