Daughter mad I did not bail her out of jail

[Exophase]

And let the haters win?

You came here with an invitation to hate on you in this thread. You said they can feel free to tell you what a bad parent they think you are. But actually most of the posters here have been supportive of your decision. I wouldn't have done what you did and I don't really understand your reasoning for doing it, but I don't know you or your family and it's really not my business beyond your invitation for strangers to comment on it.

It seems from your posts that you're stressed and you're emotional and you're getting a little hysterical (lashing out at the wrong person), and all things considered I can see why you would. For all the people posting here, this is just another thread on a forum. For some of them it's just another TH thread. For you it's something personal and a real hard thing in your life. If you want to fight back with people about this at your own personal expense that is certainly your prerogative. But you do have a choice.

 

[alzan]

And your evidence that I live in my mom's basement is......?

So no evidence.

Got it

 

[alkemyst]

OP, I really think you have delusions of grandeur if you think most parents haven't taken a 2.5+ hour trip for their kids.

This whole situation sounds more economical that parental.

 

[poofyhairguy]

This whole situation sounds more economical that parental.

I don't have kids, but by definition aren't most kid problems also economic problems in some way?

 

[alkemyst]

I don't have kids, but by definition aren't most kid problems also economic problems in some way?

Almost everything in life is economic in some way.

If you didn't understand what I wrote, then I can't help you.

 

[Texashiker]

It seems from your posts that you're stressed and you're emotional and you're getting a little hysterical (lashing out at the wrong person), and all things considered I can see why you would.

I got home yesterday to find one of my roosters was killed by the dogs.

I cried on and off for about an hour. The rooster was buried next to a fig tree.

Lets just say I am very stressed right now. With my daughter I feel like a part of my life has been ripped from me. And not just her, but with two of my sons.

How does it make sense that I am responsible for their poor decisions? Since I did not bail her out I am a terrible parent.

 

[manimal]

I got home yesterday to find one of my roosters was killed by the dogs.

I cried on and off for about an hour. The rooster was buried next to a fig tree.

Lets just say I am very stressed right now. With my daughter I feel like a part of my life has been ripped from me. And not just her, but with two of my sons.

How does it make sense that I am responsible for their poor decisions? Since I did not bail her out I am a terrible parent.

Sorry about the rooster man. Take a step back and let your daughter have some space right now. Give her some time and try to spend some time with her after things blow over. Make it something low stress that she loves to do. Dont talk about this event for a while. Just let it pass for a bit and work on just being together as a family.


Maybe you guy need a short vacation together? Go somewhere she wants to go.


Start fresh and be nice.

 

[PliotronX]

I got home yesterday to find one of my roosters was killed by the dogs.

I cried on and off for about an hour. The rooster was buried next to a fig tree.

Lets just say I am very stressed right now. With my daughter I feel like a part of my life has been ripped from me. And not just her, but with two of my sons.

How does it make sense that I am responsible for their poor decisions? Since I did not bail her out I am a terrible parent.

Simply, if young adults are coddled they will never learn that life is excruciatingly difficult sometimes. You made the right choice, they may take a long time to come around or not ever but they will understand when they have children of their own. People generally don't mature past a certain stage until they have children (not saying there aren't immature parents by a long shot).

 

[Texashiker]

Sorry about the rooster man. Take a step back and let your daughter have some space right now. Give her some time and try to spend some time with her after things blow over.

Thank you.

The rooster was an emotional tipping. I could not take it anymore, I cried like a baby.

Simply, if young adults are coddled they will never learn that life is excruciatingly difficult sometimes.

Life is can be very difficult and can be very cruel.

If she thinks not getting bail out is bad, wait until her power is turned off, water is turned off, car is repoed, not have enough money for food,,, and all the other things life has in store for her.

 

[OBLAMA2009]

Sorry about the rooster man. Take a step back and let your daughter have some space right now. Give her some time and try to spend some time with her after things blow over. Make it something low stress that she loves to do. Dont talk about this event for a while. Just let it pass for a bit and work on just being together as a family.


Maybe you guy need a short vacation together? Go somewhere she wants to go.


Start fresh and be nice.

he should work toward drug legalization to prevent other chicks from being caught up and victimized by the drug "war". a bunch of states make money off the "evil" drugs, and yet his kid is imprisoned and labeled a criminal for using those same drugs by the taliban of texas?

 

[manimal]

he should work toward drug legalization to prevent other chicks from being caught up and victimized by the drug "war". a bunch of states make money off the "evil" drugs, and yet his kid is imprisoned and labeled a criminal for using those same drugs by the taliban of texas?

allright weirdo you had you fun. now go back to killing small animals and teddy bears please ^^





I even put a smiley on it seem less dickish

 

[Exophase]

I got home yesterday to find one of my roosters was killed by the dogs.

I cried on and off for about an hour. The rooster was buried next to a fig tree.

Lets just say I am very stressed right now. With my daughter I feel like a part of my life has been ripped from me. And not just her, but with two of my sons.

How does it make sense that I am responsible for their poor decisions? Since I did not bail her out I am a terrible parent.

I'm sorry about your rooster. That really sucks.

 

[alzan]

It is easy for those who have never tried to attack those who have tried.

You think being a parent is easy? Maybe if you get out of your moms basement you can try it sometime.

The emotional heartbreak of being a parent is draining. When my kids make bad decisions the stress drains the life out of me.

Your evidence that I've never tried to raise a child is......?

No, it isn't easy, either for both parents or for one.

Yes it is. And when parents make bad decisions the children suffer stress and react accordingly, kind of like how your daughter and two of your sons are reacting.

By the way, I'm still waiting for your evidence that I live in my mom's basement.

 

[Texashiker]

By the way, I'm still waiting for your evidence that I live in my mom's basement.

Your comments about my divorce show you have never been in a bad or abusive relationship.

There comes a point in time when you have to walk away.

Since you post disparaging comments, you do not know what it is like to be in such a relationship.

 

[alkemyst]

I got home yesterday to find one of my roosters was killed by the dogs.

I cried on and off for about an hour. The rooster was buried next to a fig tree.

Lets just say I am very stressed right now. With my daughter I feel like a part of my life has been ripped from me. And not just her, but with two of my sons.

How does it make sense that I am responsible for their poor decisions? Since I did not bail her out I am a terrible parent.

TH, I can understand bad relationships; but things like this happening in your life show major judgement issues on your part and that while your ex-wife or even kids may be issues; so are you.

 

[alzan]

Your comments about my divorce show you have never been in a bad or abusive relationship.

There comes a point in time when you have to walk away.

Since you post disparaging comments, you do not know what it is like to be in such a relationship.

Nope, both myself and my wife had been in abusive relationships which is why we we've been able to work through issues that could have resulted in a divorce.

If you mean physically abusive then no we've never experienced one of those.

No, I posted the disparaging comments to give you a taste of your own medicine that you regularly dish out to posters who disagree with you in your various P&N threads.

Did I pick the wrong thread in which to give you a taste of your own medicine? Possibly.

However if you really read the content of my and others' posts rather than concentrating on the disparagement you would have seen some helpful advice.

 

[alkemyst]

Nope, both myself and my wife had been in abusive relationships which is why we we've been able to work through issues that could have resulted in a divorce.

If you mean physically abusive then no we've never experienced one of those.

No, I posted the disparaging comments to give you a taste of your own medicine that you regularly dish out to posters who disagree with you in your various P&N threads.

Did I pick the wrong thread in which to give you a taste of your own medicine? Possibly.

However if you really read the content of my and others' posts rather than concentrating on the disparagement you would have seen some helpful advice.

It's not always possible to work through the issues of a divorce.

In my first, my wife broke her neck and got hooked on pain meds and did not want to quit and felt it was her RIGHT to party every night. We tried therapy and she would just laugh and say "HE NEEDS TO MAKE MORE MONEY THEN!". I was spending $75-100 per day just on her habit and this was 1996-7 money. I then made the mistake of allowing her to live in our marital home while selling it. There was no online banking then. She would write checks to herself for the exact bill amounts. I would call the 800 number and see Check# XXX for $1000 (the mortgage) cleared, $450 (her car), etc

Then she forced a sale of the home to her cousins for about $10k less than I paid for it and had put $40k into it in improvements. It was worth that extra $50k at the time, but she would not agree to sign.

My second wife, didn't want sex anymore. She had hormone issues caused by a surgery that her doctor told her would be serious. We tried the open-relationship thing and it worked as a stop gap but eventually I wanted intimacy with my true partner, not just hooking up with 'friends with benefits'.