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Dating couples - who pays for dinner?

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So say you've been dating for a while (past the initial courting stage). When you go out for a dinner on a regular night - who ends up paying?
 
I've had cool girls who alternate but they've all become friends. If they offer to pay during dating, I gladly pay the entire bill and if they insist I let them pay for coffee or something. If they never offer to pay, I stop seeing them. After courting, I find alternating to be easier than splitting. Plus you don't want to seem like a damn penny pincher if you're always trying to split everything exactly down the middle.
 
On a regular basis, Id say the guy pays. But I do think the girl should pay once in a while. I've been with my gf for two years now. I d say I pay 60% of the time, and she pays the other 40% of the time, and we're both fine with that. Hell, she makes $15K more than I do, so I should be able to get a free dinner once in a while, right?
 
Alternate with the guy paying most of the time. Maybe like 70/30 is a good ratio. Never split it in the middle, since that creates such an awkward situation and makes you look cheap.
 
my girl and i have always alternated, it just depends on who has the dough. i'm quite a bit better at saving money, so it ends up being me more than not, but it doesn't bother me. i'm there for the FOOD.
 
When we started, I paid for everything (I insisted, which was kind of rude). But after three months or so we started alternating. Now we're opening a joint account for shared expenses (makes everything easier -- we both just deposit the same amount each month).
 
Originally posted by: hjo3
When we started, I paid for everything (I insisted, which was kind of rude). But after three months or so we started alternating. Now we're opening a joint account for shared expenses (makes everything easier -- we both just deposit the same amount each month).
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Bah! I could never live in a relationship, which demanded that kind of accountability!

 
Originally posted by: compuwiz1
Originally posted by: hjo3
When we started, I paid for everything (I insisted, which was kind of rude). But after three months or so we started alternating. Now we're opening a joint account for shared expenses (makes everything easier -- we both just deposit the same amount each month).
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Bah! I could never live in a relationship, which demanded that kind of accountability!
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Misplaced commas aside, what are you talking about? It's not an issue of "accountability"; it's just the easiest way to pay bills and buy groceries. It's not like we don't support each other when necessary.
 
Originally posted by: PhoenixOrion
"True players always pay."
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Ek zak Ly! 🙂

Nobody goes dutch on my watch! Then idiots complain the aren't getting any. HELLOOOOOOO!!!! Dumb asses.

 
Originally posted by: compuwiz1
Originally posted by: PhoenixOrion
"True players always pay."
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Ek zak Ly! 🙂

Nobody goes dutch on my watch! Then idiots complain the aren't getting any. HELLOOOOOOO!!!! Dumb asses.
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"A real player knows he's paying." - Joe, a multi-millionaire investment banker

(page 58, Liquid Magazine, The Ultimate Men's Lifestyle Publication, Article "A Woman's Take On A Man's Means")
 
We alternate. But the person who pays, pays in full.

I somestimes always get stuck with the really big ones, though. Like our $175 Valentines Day dinner.
 
Originally posted by: GTaudiophile
We alternate. But the person who pays, pays in full.

I somestimes always get stuck with the really big ones, though. Like our $175 Valentines Day dinner.
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QFT!!! It's like she always offers to pay if we go to Mickie D's or for Waffle House... But as soon as we go to any remotely nice sit down restaurant, that CC is not coming out of her purse. She just looks at me w/ those puppy dog big brown eyes and smiles - I'm a sucker everytime. $100, no problem babe... at least she always offers to leave the tip.
 
Prior to us getting married the only time she ever paid was on my birthday(s) and even then it was one of those covert ops to the "bathroom" and for some reason the bill never made it to the table.
 
I'm married, So I'm the one that always pays. Although I paid when we were dating also so. Honestly though, any normal guy knows that the woman usually has control over these situations. If you split it when dating, she'll find another guy early on because she'll think your cheap.
 
Been involved for about 14 months now and we're pretty much 50/50. She may buy lunch on a Saturday afternoon and then I'll pick up the dinner tab, or the other way around. But sometimes, we just offer to treat, without expecting it back in return. That's the case for tonight, with her offering to treat me out to dinner while watching the NCAA Tournment. 🙂

 
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