Damn, my friends are annoying and boring now. :(

[TripleJ]

Over the last year or 2 I've lost quite a few friends due to people moving away for jobs and off to study to the point where I now only regularly hang out with about 4. But they are always talking about when they last got drunk and stupid women remarks that really get on my nerve. Fine, one or two funny comments here and there would be OK but it is just boring now. The last couple of times at the pub I've hardly said a word because I couldn't be bothered joining in on the stupid conversations. I just day dream about something else and they become background noise.

Is this what I am to expect in the usual life of an adult? I bloody well hope not! I don't necessarily want to talk about serious stuff but a little more high browe would be a bit more interesting, to say the least. I dunno if it's just me, but I can't stand it. What am I to do? Where can I find some better quality friends?
I don't want to have no friends but I don't want my brain to drain away with them. Maybe I'll let them drift and find some new friends, somehow. Any idea's?

 

[SinNisTeR]

youre not alone J.. exact same situation and thoughts here.

 

[RSI]

I know the feeling. Sometimes I feel out of place with people my own age. Actually most of the time. Which makes College so much better than High School, since I'm around a much generally older crowd and much more mature than HS too. I still prefer talking to Adults usually, though. Good thing me and most of my friends are getting there ourselves. Half my friends are 18-19 now (I'm 17), and it seems like we were all 14 yesterday.

Chances are you're just in the wrong place if you're running into the same people all the time. Talk to older people. Start conversation that's not immature and stupid. I don't know... I'm not a master at this stuff.

-RSI

 

[StageLeft]

TripleJ

Thats how it goes man. We all grow out of the "going to bars, getting drunk, picking up, vomitting next day, and repeat" phase eventually. Some people it takes longer. I pretty well got bored with going to bars and pissing away money on stupidity about half way through university. Some A girl in her late 20's below me has a party twice a week and although I've spoken to her only once I think she probably sluts around and drinks all the time with not a care in the world.

Start conversation that's not immature and stupid. I don't know... I'm not a master at this stuff. Now, now, RSI we both know that isn't true!

 

[ShizNitz]

Sorry, no support here. I'm one of the guys that talks about getting drunk and carries on stupid conversations.

 

[RedRooster]

I hear ya there.
Makes you appreciate the couple friends that REALLY are a pleasure to talk with. Most of my friends seemed to have reversed their maturity after high school, but there's a couple that you realize why you became friends with in the first place. Those are the ones to hang out with, let the rest go brag about their pitiful drinking weekends or witnessed car accidents to someone else!

 

[StageLeft]

Of course take it too far and you turn into a fvckin lamer! My best friend from highschool and I went to university and during the first semester my room (we were roomates) was often the staging ground for drinking for the bunch of us that would always do it. He didn't take part really and soon became thouroughly addicted to school. Within 1-2 years he'd shunned all of us and decided to obsess over his now-wife. He is now officially a master-loser among losers. His entire life is absolutely filled with acadamia and his family can't understand whats happened to him. He is a social misfit.

 

[Murphyrulez]

You need to join a gym, or a club of some sort. Perhaps pertaining to one of your hobbies. Then when you get there and start mingling with the people who already go there, you can CHOOSE whom you want to be friends with... Thats your best bet. Just strike up some convo with them, and take it from there... Piece of cake.

Paul

 

[Tauren]

It happens to everyone who matures. Look for new friends at work, etc. We all grow out of our 'drinking' buddies, but that doesn't mean we don't cut loose when we want to. It just means we've grown up enough to know when is appropriate.

 

[phatcow]

ummmm... find new friends? either that or find a shagbuddy.

 

[Pyroclazm]

Of course you cant "see" us but in most aspects everyone on this board is a friend. They are willing to help you when your in need, and joke around when you need a good laugh. I have my life outside of this and excellent friends not to mention, but being friends with someone just so you have friends is not the answer either. I am sure you will find some people who fit your intrest and can even carry on a conversation about things besides what was the best porn you have ever seen. Not to speak for everyone, but were here for ya man.

 

[TripleJ]

That's kinda good to here that this often happens. Thank's for the suggestions.
Yes, it is good to see who your true friends are. Now that I've finished all my studies and work from home, it's a bit hard to meet new friends. I'm trying to think of what social groups I can join to find a good gaggle of guys and gals. I don't mind a bit of sport, maybe I'll join a sports team or something or rejoin the gym(stopped for the final stage of Uni). I went on a pub crawl with some of the gym members half a year ago which was a hoot but Uni was a bit too hectic to catch up with them. Anything to lose contact with the others.

Phatcow, shagbuddies are only good for shagging! j/k. my g/f is my bestest of friends. But she's only 1 person.

Thanks Pyroclazm, I know everyone here are friends, that's why I'm here!

 

[crystal]

...Within 1-2 years he'd shunned all of us and decided to obsess over his now-wife. He is now officially a master-loser among losers. His entire life is absolutely filled with acadamia and his family can't understand whats happened to him. He is a social misfit.

Don't know whether or not that is such a bad thing. There are times I regret for not studying harder in college. ..Wasted all that time and money but didn't learn much of anything. Too busy partying. When looking for the first job, those low grades didn't not help much. Especially with the slow market. hehe... Sigh...