- Aug 21, 2008
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https://www.creators.com/read/dear-annie/06/18/a-clash-of-merging-styles
My husband and I have been having an argument about this for the past five years, and I am really hoping you can settle it once and for all. Whenever we hit heavy traffic on the interstate because two lanes are merging into one (because of construction, usually), he immediately puts on his signal and tries to merge, meekly puttering along until someone allows him in. Whenever I am driving and we are in the same situation, I drive ahead in the lane that's ending and then merge just as the lane ends. Often this gets us some honks, and sometimes people flip us the bird. Always my husband is mortified, slouching down in his seat and trying to disappear.
I think my way just makes the most sense. If everyone merged in that fashion, there would be no slow-down traffic in the first place.
I have tried encouraging my husband to do the same when I am in the passenger seat. He gets irritated and says, "I'm not the type of person that does that" or "People will think I'm a jerk."