Im not sure you can fully grasp how much I agree with you.
Being bullied is a part of growing up, if you dont get taught how to stand up for yourself when a teacher and hundreds of your peers are down the hall, how are people supposed to defend themselves when they are alone on the streets.
Thanks.
I realize now that I typo'd: I meant "stand up FOR themselves" not "to themselves"
Anyway... maybe there's an analogy here to how we used to have a real frontier in this country, and people living in areas that weren't fully civilized or paved yet... and they would have to contend with real dangers like wolves, etc.
Now all the wolves are gone, and the world is a safer place for it. But it's also a poorer, less interesting place for it.
Maybe we'll manage to get rid of all the bullies in elementary schools, but maybe we'll unknowingly be depriving kids of important developmental opportunities for when they stand up to that bully, and it boosts their confidence.
I don't know. I hate to be the guy defending bullying. I'm not sure about this, just brainstorming.
But I think there was a time in this country when we had a lot of men who were the heads of their households, and were stern and firm in their discipline and in they had clarity about how that household would run. Sometimes they seemed, to their children or their wives, like hard asses who were uncaring and unfeeling. Many of their kids would grow up to later deeply appreciate how important that firm hand was in learning important life lessons.
And think about the number of movies we've all watched where the kid standing up to the bully is an absolutely integral part of his "hero's journey" and self-esteem building. I know those are movies... but this was a reality for a lot of kids.
We dismantled fatherhood and took away all the power fathers had, we replaced them with the government. Women know now that keeping a husband/father around is entirely optional. They can boot him to the curb, deny him access to his children... and still get his money, and/or money from society in general. Women are biologically programmed to seek a stronger mate, and a better provider. I believe government is now tricking their instincts into thinking IT is a mate and a provider.
So we've feminized our society, and turned over the reigns to women... we've let them set the tone about what sort of behaviors are acceptable, and they usually don't understand what sort of things are important and necessary for male development. It's like society has become one big over-protective mom who won't let her kid go outside and play, and wont' let him have any fun toys because they're dangerous.
Women, god bless 'em... are fantastic. But they don't often understand masculinity. They also are too cautious, and males aren't cautious enough! They have to be pushing against one another in order for the correct, happy medium to be achieved. Women aren't getting much pushback form men in the west anymore... men got pushed over and aren't getting back up.
So yea, we'll try to coat the world in a soft Nerf foam... and try to eliminate all the bad things and bad people, and then we'll wonder why we're all dissatisfied with our lives, unfulfilled and on anti-depressants.
Women miss real men, and men miss BEING real men.
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